Transforming Your Life: A Guide to Positive Change in Islam
I found it paramount essential to provide a clear guide for those who want a positive change. In this phase of reckless violence and genocide, every post is calling us for change from disobedience to obedience of Allah ﷻ. But I didn’t find enough resources which would have properly guided Muslims and others. Muslims are gripped by fear around the globe that persuade people to falsehood as they kneel down out of weakness and lost of hope.
To make changes in our daily lives, one must adhere sincerity that will keep him standing while he is feeling low. Even Allah rewards that person who intends good before committing that. But we should remember that Allah dislikes the person who intend something and then don’t make his actions accordingly. As Allah says :
“O you who believe, why do you say that which you don’t do (commit)”1
It should also be highlighted that Allah do not change those who are not willing for change. So it is very essential not be frivolous in planning this high status character and obedience.
Understanding your blind-spots
First of all, it is very important to find out your deficiencies that lag you behind. You can understand that by comparing your daily life schedule with the standard of Prophet ﷺ. Look at when do you wake up, how do you start your. Do you pray fajr or not! If you aren’t able to pray Jamat (congregation), at least you should pray it when you wake up? How do you talk and walk? What is your behavior with others? How shy and modesty you are, in alone and in gathering? To what you are giving your time; Calling unnecessarily or investing in some improvement? What are the posts you publish? Are you that man losing time in self glorification or do you respect to the words of Allah ﷻ and His Messanger ﷺ. When you scrutinize your actions, you can easily move forward for improvement.
Make gradual changes
As you correctly spot your problems and shortcomings, you should remember the principle of gradual change. You should remember that character formation doesn’t occur over night rather it takes years to improve our inner self. When you are trapped in darkness, it is burdensome to make turn but Allah loves it and He pays for your investment. When you start your beautiful journey from small steps, Inshallah Allah will succeed you as you remain firm on it. As one of the hadith mentions :
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “The religion (of Islam) is easy, and whoever makes the religion a rigour, it will overpower him. So, follow a middle course (in worship); if you can’t do this, do something near to it and give glad tidings and seek help (of Allah) at morn and at dusk and some part of night”2
In another Hadith, Messenger ﷺ emphasizes consistency to achieve it successfully.3
Do small things whatever you like but keep them regular. Also keep progress in your character. Keep learning new, not necessarily you act right a way. Take time and be optimistic.
Make good in free time
Proper use of free time is the most effective way of building your self. Whenever you are free, try to spend that in beneficial things. Reading Islamic books, listening to Quran and lectures, pondering and repenting are of high value. Don’t make it as a boring schedule but rather brighten it with love, keep Allah in your sight as you follow it. Think of the reward that Allah provides you, be pleased as He is pleased, look at the mercy that will follow your actions, imagine Angles surround you, and more.
Allah will not leave you without showing His love and care, It may be repentance that will surprise you or rest of heart that will break you into tears.
As Allah mentions various incidents through which faith and belief of believers was made strong and firm. Always keep best thought of Allah.
Virtuous Deeds
In this part, I want to familiarize you with several high quality deeds that help you to start with.
1. Daily verse
Allah has sent us book with knowledge without flaw. Why do we not start with the Quran (Allah’s speech) that mend mountains of darkness with its bliss. Allah says I have mentioned every form of verse, which means that their are definitely verses present that shatters people. Their are verses for thinkers as well as for common man and farmers4. Their are several verses that will resonate with your thinking process.
2. Daily Dua (supplication)
Asking Allah for forgiveness and steadfastness is equally important as intention. Apart from these common supplications, you should ask Him ﷻ of high quality characters. Ask Allah that He may choose you as “chosen one” as He mentions in Surat ص۔ . Ask Him for tawfeeq (ability) and help for remaining steadfast. You can make dua in Sujood as well as in T’sha’hud.
3. Improve character
Commit yourself for ideal and high moral values. Try best to make perfect tone of your voice that echoes, gives life in listeners. Maintain positive attitude of smile and remain cautious “not to hurt others”.5 Learn from others by properly listening them, avoid popping your own trumpet.
4. Observing sincerity
It’s the inner voice that initiates your actions. Keep them pure by avoiding it’s possible enemies. Suppose you are praying in some ground and now your known people are approaching to you. Try to be short and simple without even allowing your mind to develop thoughts like’ “what are they saying? Are they pleased!. Or sincerity in other situations. As the best of sincerity, another example is, if you are walking behind some opposite gender, try to overtake her or him so that your brain will not wonder.
5. Read Seerat (life) of Muhammad ﷺ
As Allah says, “surely Allah has bestowed you (o Mohammad PBUH) best of character”6. We must make seerat as our standard of character. Knowing how Prophet ﷺ dealt with other people. Also referring to the character of companions (may Allah’s mercy upon them).
This was a short guide for helping Brothers and sisters to initiate positive change and growth. As Allah has only created us for His worship, it should be our primary priority. May Allah help us in His obedience.