My wife asked for a USB cable to use because the one she used last night "didn't work"*. I asked what outlets will be available. She wanted all the options, so I brought all the USB cables, which earned a, "thank you for not helping." She muttered it, so I asked her to repeat it.

I don't know the car they will use. Our car. The other person's car. She's not going to say because she's hiding the trip from the kid.

She's waited until the last minute. Things that should have just worked didn't, so she's stressing and taking it out on us.

The problem with trying to people please, is people in a bad mood can't be pleased. My #literalthinking #autistic brain heard all the options and rationalized all the cables would meet the demand. I could get an A and a C, but any random of these I got might fail.

* The cable works fine. She uses it all the time to charge her phone. Why it didn't this time? Probably user error.

P.S. Wife is using a mean tone to the kid, "Do what I say. Do what I say. Do what I say."

Chairs, Horses: Spectrum Insight - Dave Plummer and Lex Fridman

#autismspectrum #literalthinking

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Ok so a lyric about how I’m like a wildfire and you’re like responsible forest management would be…. bad, right?

#songwriting #literalthinking

Today's #literalthinking: Work's teleworking agreement form: Is the home office space neat, clean, and free of excessive amounts of combustibles?

Neat? Not really. Lots of stuff on my desk not organized.

Clean? Hardly. Some paper trash and dirty dishes.

Combustibles? Form timed out from me inspecting everything for what might fit.

I started down this path because my wife said I need to learn #deescalation , but I got stuck on it seeming to be about how to handle OTHER people's emotional reactions. #literalthinking bit me yet again.

So, I figured out the term she meant was #emotionalregulation. In reading about it, the implied #ExecutiveFunction requirement made no sense to how I could possibly approach it when #alexithyma hides what I am feeling, so I'm calming down on the backside of an outburst before I realize, "wait, this recent behavior... it's not right. Am I angry?"

The real problem likely is preventing an #autisticmeltdown. In any case, I think what I need are new strategies as what worked while single doesn't while married with a kid.

#ADHD #AuDHD #autism

PSA: When people say "do your best" or "it's ok as long as you do the best you can", they don't literally mean "try your absolute hardest and do the best you can possibly do".

They usually just mean "try, it doesn't matter if you fail".

#literalthinking #blackandwhitethinking @actuallyautistic #burnoutprevention #burnoutrecovery

A really nice explanation by Pippa Hastings of why Autistic people are characterised as literal thinkers 

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJacYcGw/

#ActuallyAutistic #LiteralThinking

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