Never Grow Up
Like many children, I wanted to grow up a bit faster. There were so many things I couldnāt do because I was just a kid. Now, as a grandparent, I see my little grandchildren, and I donāt want them to grow up too quickly. A part of me wants them to never grow up.
That sounds like a version of Peter Pan Syndrome. You know that story, but the psychology term is not a fun story. More on that laterā¦
What about the man who wrote Peter Pan and the idea of never growing up?
J(ames) M(atthew) Barrie was born in Angus, Scotland, in 1860. He was the seventh of eight children. When he was six years old, his older brother died in a skating accident. His mother fell into a deep depression, and Barrie tried to make her feel better by wearing his older brotherās clothes and doing things his older brother used to do.
At some point, it occurred to Barrie that his dead brother would never grow up, and the idea stuck with him for the rest of his life.
As a young man, he became a very successful writer of sentimental novels and humorous plays. Then, after his marriage in 1894 didnāt produce any children, he started spending time with the children of one of his friends. He began to tell them stories about a boy who had run away to a place called Never Land, where he refused to grow up, and he named that boy Peter Pan.
Barrie first wrote about Peter Pan in a book of childrenās stories called The Little White Bird (1902). Two years later, he produced the play Peter Pan, the Boy Who Wouldnāt Grow Up (1904), which included the well-known story about Peter and Wendy and Captain Hook. Even though heād produced many successful plays before, Barrie became obsessed with the production of Peter Pan. He rewrote the script more than 20 times. It was one of the most expensive productions ever attempted at that time, since it required the construction of harnesses and wires so that the actors could appear to fly around the stage.
There are now many versions of the Peter Pan story as books, movies, and stage productions. For me (and I suspect many others), my first and most memorable connection to the story comes from the Disney animated film.
I tried to watch it a few years ago with my granddaughter and ended up shutting it off because I thought the depiction of Indians was so dated and inappropriate.
As a kid, I remember mostly liking the idea of flying. The story makes it clear that Tinker Bellās pixie dust gives the children the ability to lift off the ground, but they can only stay airborne if they truly believe they can fly. I know that I tried to believe I could fly, but alas, no pixie dust.
I did have a crush on Tinker Bell. I suppose there is some psychology in that.
āPeter Pan Syndromeā is a pop psychology term for adults who struggle to mature emotionally or socially, often avoiding adult responsibilities, commitments, and financial accountability. I donāt think I suffer from that, and I certainly wouldnāt want my grandchildren to suffer from it either.
It is not an officially recognized clinical diagnosis, but it serves as a helpful label to describe a pattern of arrested development. The term was popularized in 1983 by psychologist Dr. Dan Kiley in his book, The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up. While initially focused on males (āfailure to launchā), the behavioral patterns can apply to any gender. Experts often attribute these traits to over-protective parenting, a fear of failure, or deep-seated anxieties about the pressures of adult life.
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