Did you give up and let it go or did you hold onto it and bury it? Knowing what you did offers you clarity and acceptance that can help you heal yourself.

Love to all.

Della

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The old dream you buried under pain needs you to focus on it long enough to free it. Give yourself permission to do that.

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Della

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The pain you trapped yourself in blocked out anything that you didn't take on, including old dreams you never chased down. Do you remember what those were?

Did you let them go and give up or did you secretly hold on hoping you'd get back there someday?

When is someday?

Your attention to the pain means someday never happens.

To dig up those old dreams you have to be willing to take your attention away from the pain. That's not easy and it causes a lot of fear, but that's the process.

How do I know?

Because writing was a dream that I forgot I buried under the practicality of being a teacher. I had to take my attention away from the pain and sit in a bunch of fear so that I could dig up my own dreams and make someday happen today.

The brainstorming session that I'm running next weekend is all about focus and what we put our attention on. I'll be talking about this journey that I've gone on and what I've learned from it.

Yes, I learned some strategies and tricks along the way and I want to offer those to you. But more importantly, I want to challenge the story you tell yourself that says you can't. I want you to know that you can.

Come challenge the story with me. Let's talk about what's going on and what's stopping you. Maybe just maybe something will come through in that session that will give you what you need to get unstuck in your own mind.

Would you like to find out?

It's only $27 CAD (about $20 USD) to grab a seat and join the action. It'll be in a private Facebook group and the replay will be there for as long as Facebook allows the group to stay open.

People are already joining and the group is already going. I'd love to see you there.

Will you join me?

Here's the link.
https://yourfocusmatters.dellawren.com/

Love to all.

Della

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The difficulty in self-awareness often comes in figuring out what the real argument is.

There is the story your mind is telling you and then sometimes there is something much deeper that the mind isn't talking about. That deeper truth is the thing that actually needs to be healed. The surface argument can be dropped and ignored more often than not.

I just unwound something for myself that changed how the puzzle of my own healing has been put together. The picture now looks completely different even though the pieces are the same.

Have you ever solved a puzzle that could be put together more than one way?

What if I told you that was possible when you're healing yourself?

There's the story you think you're telling and then there's the real story buried underneath that.

So the story I thought I was telling was the one where videos are bad because I don't like looking at me. The story I was actually telling was the one where I like to be a hermit crab and I don't want to connect with other people.

Hey wait! Those are different stories, aren't they?

My wounded hermit crab self wanted my content to do the talking for me so that I could stay in my shell and hide. Guess what? I made a choice to teach people how to become more self-aware. I made a choice to show people how to work on healing themselves so they could feel better. When I did that it took away the option to hide. I just ignored that when I made the choice.

Why did I ignore it? Because other goals were more important at the time. I made the goal the priority which was exactly what I needed to do and because I did that it led me here. It showed me the truth of the wound that I was carrying which was the need to hide.

When I plug that need to hide into the other aspects of my healing journey, it changes the picture of my healing journey. Many of the things that I was arguing with were really about me not wanting to be a public face. The arguments I was having were still important, but they were more surface level stuff. I've now found the deeper truth in my journey.

This is why the journey is so valuable. This is why making the goal more important than the pain you might experience is so critical. It keeps you in the game and because it keeps you in the game you can find those deeper truths. You won't find them if you don't go on the journey because you're scared of what might happen.

If I had known that a few years after I made the choice to teach instead of just write stuff, that I would be here talking about my hermit crab wounds, I wouldn't have gone on the journey.

You don't want to know the outcome because it will stop you. You tell yourself you want to know the outcome so you can make an informed choice, but that choice is based on the fear you're currently experiencing. That keeps you stuck and creates pain.

I don't want to avoid this. I'd much rather be here writing this then still stuck in the pain. If I had known the outcome back then I wouldn't have done it. But there is nothing to avoid. This isn't a difficult thing. I can handle it from where I am now. My fear of it back then would have stopped me cold because I wasn't ready to heal the wound yet, but now I am. Do you see the difference?

Your current self is trying to make choices for your choices for your future self. That's not fair to your future self because it doesn't take into account all the healing that happens between now and then. That's why you need to get okay with the journey.

As long as your current self is willing to go on the journey your future self will have the tools to figure it out. That's why the journey matters because it gives you the space to deal with the fear before you get to the outcome you're afraid of.

When you make choices, make them from where you are now not from where you're afraid of being later. Your future self will love you but they don't need you to make choices for them. They've got it covered.

If you want some help working through this stuff I have a path and plans. Through private coaching I can give you ways to manage this so that you can stay in the present and not project fear into the future.

Hit up my website for more info. https://dellawren.com

Love to all.

Della

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