I beg you to follow Crocker's Rules, even if you will be rude to me

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A quotation from Eric Hoffer

Eric Hoffer (1902-1983) American writer, philosopher, longshoreman
Passionate State of Mind, Aphorism 241 (1955)

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Being mean to ChatGPT increases its accuracy — but you may end up regretting it, scientists warn – Live Science

Editor’s Note: Older article, but I missed it first time. Now, republished on Fortune, and elsewhere. –DrWeb

Being mean to ChatGPT increases its accuracy — but you may end up regretting it, scientists warn

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By Alan Bradley published October 27, 2025

Being curt or outright mean may make a newer AI model more accurate, a new study shows, defying previous findings on politeness to AI.

Artificial intelligence (AI) chatbots might give you more accurate answers when you are rude to them, scientists have found, although they warned against the potential harms of using demeaning language.

In a new study published Oct. 6 in the arXiv preprint database, scientists wanted to test whether politeness or rudeness made a difference in how well an AI system performed. This research has not been peer-reviewed yet.

To test how the user’s tone affected the accuracy of the answers, the researchers developed 50 base multiple-choice questions and then modified them with prefixes to make them adhere to five categories of tone: very polite, polite, neutral, rude and very rude. The questions spanned categories including mathematics, history and science.

Each question was posed with four options, one of which was correct. They fed the 250 resulting questions 10 times into ChatGPT-4o, one of the most advanced large language models (LLMs) developed by OpenAI.

“Our experiments are preliminary and show that the tone can affect the performance measured in terms of the score on the answers to the 50 questions significantly,” the researchers wrote in their paper. “Somewhat surprisingly, our results show that rude tones lead to better results than polite ones.

“While this finding is of scientific interest, we do not advocate for the deployment of hostile or toxic interfaces in realworld applications,” they added. “Using insulting or demeaning language in human-AI interaction could have negative effects on user experience, accessibility, and inclusivity, and may contribute to harmful communication norms. Instead, we frame our results as evidence that LLMs remain sensitive to superficial prompt cues, which can create unintended trade-offs between performance and user well-being.”

A rude awakening

Before giving each prompt, the researchers asked the chatbot to completely disregard prior exchanges, to prevent it from being influenced by previous tones. The chatbots were also asked, without an explanation, to pick one of the four options.

The accuracy of the responses ranged from 80.8% accuracy for very polite prompts to 84.8% for very rude prompts. Tellingly, accuracy grew with each step away from the most polite tone. The polite answers had an accuracy rate of 81.4%, followed by 82.2% for neutral and 82.8% for rude.

The team used a variety of language in the prefix to modify the tone, except for neutral, where no prefix was used and the question was presented on its own.

For very polite prompts, for instance, they would lead with, “Can I request your assistance with this question?” or “Would you be so kind as to solve the following question?” On the very rude end of the spectrum, the team included language like “Hey, gofer; figure this out,” or “I know you are not smart, but try this.”

The research is part of an emerging field called prompt engineering, which seeks to investigate how the structure, style and language of prompts affect an LLM’s output. The study also cited previous research into politeness versus rudeness and found that their results generally ran contrary to those findings.

In previous studies, researchers found that “impolite prompts often result in poor performance, but overly polite language does not guarantee better outcomes.” However, the previous study was conducted using different AI models — ChatGPT 3.5 and Llama 2-70B — and used a range of eight tones. That said, there was some overlap. The rudest prompt setting was also found to produce more accurate results (76.47%) than the most polite setting (75.82%).

Editor’s Note: Read the rest of the story, at the below link.

Continue/Read Original Article Here: Being mean to ChatGPT increases its accuracy — but you may end up regretting it, scientists warn | Live Science

ZDNet: Being rude to ChatGPT changes you – and maybe even your relationships. “From Alexa to ChatGPT, our interactions with AI are reshaping communication norms. Here’s why how we talk to machines can affect real human relationships.” And THIS is why I always say please and thank you to chatbots.

A quotation from Judith Martin

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
“Miss Manners,” syndicated column (2014-12-19)

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Don't confuse straight-forward #honesty with #rudeness just like I don't confuse #lies with southern #hospitality!

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Woman learns a valuable lesson after guy ends their date and apologizes to the waitstaff

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A quotation from Thomas Fuller

Thomas Fuller (1654-1734) English physician, preacher, aphorist, writer
Introductio ad Prudentiam, Vol. 2, # 2214 (1727)

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Good morning. 🦆🦆🦆

12 October 2025

I received a very negative and rude response to one of my morning posts—either earlier today or perhaps last night. The comment was crude, as someone wrote, and I quote: “I don't need to hear about your lavish bootlicking.” At first, I was at a loss, thinking, “What the heck?” So I pulled up the post they were evidently referencing.

It quickly became clear that the person was upset because I had written about attending my nephew’s Basic Peace Officer Course, celebrating his achievement in becoming a Deputy Sheriff. If you read it, you know the one I mean. The person who left the comment was someone who followed me. And because I don’t need that kind of negativity or crudeness in my life, I unfollowed and blocked them—forevermore, as Poe might say.

Let’s try to unpack that response, though it’s difficult. Why would someone react that way? Do they truly believe our society would be better off without law enforcement? Who would respond to accidents, robberies, or worse? Should I not be proud of a nephew who sees public service as something worthy to undertake?

What exactly stirred that person’s animus? It’s hard to say, especially since they also seemed to take issue with the fact that I spent 30 years serving in the military. I didn’t get far with that line of thought. Like I said—it’s difficult to unpack, especially when it comes out of the blue.

Perhaps the individual simply didn’t want to read about it. That I can understand—except for the crude language. That part’s a head-scratcher, especially since no one is forced to read anything here. Or maybe it was just a bad day. Those happen.

“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.” — Robert Tew

The police are the public and the public are the police.” — Robert Peel

“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” — Prentis Hemphill

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A quotation from Judith Martin

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (2011-08), “Q and A with Miss Manners,” by Arcynta Ali Childs, Smithsonian magazine

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