Watching Star Trek: Enterprise with the polycule...

This episode, where Dr Phlox's wife is trying to fuck Commander Tucker, and he's all like, "I can't fuck your wife!" and Phlox is like, "Why not? I don't mind!", and Trip is all confused by that, didn't age well after just 20 years.

#StarTrek #Enterprise #polyamory

Cuddling with strangers made me realize that our society is really bad at encouraging intimacy.

I wrote about it, why it's a problem, and what I think we can do about it (hint: it's not just polyamory).

🔗 https://teunvanson.eu/cuddles/

#intimacy #RelationshipAnarchy #nonmonogamy #cuddling #love #polyamory #BearBlog #blog #BlogPost

Things that give a warm feeling: being friends with some of your other partner's partners.

#poly #polyamory

I need to tell my girlfriend I’m in love with a man — but I want them both

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://metro.co.uk/2026/03/20/need-tell-girlfriend-im-love-a-man-want-27494140/

I think I'm #poly mostly just in my self-label, because behaviorally... not really, and maybe I never will be. But I enjoy the #polyamory community (the few I know) and find their approach to friendship and acquaintanceship relaxing and comfortable. So if anyone asks, I'm totally poly.

*Edit: By "not really" I mean that, after my ex-wife and I became just friends I began dating and polyamory made lots of sense to me. Still does. And I met a lovely person who has been poly for far longer than I have. We've been together a few years and so far neither of us feels the need (or has the time, frankly) for anything else. I think we're both quite happy. So yes, in theory I'm poly, but I've never really been in a poly relationship, and don't currently have any plans to. However, I've met dozens of completely lovely (and a couple of less lovely) poly people and I think I've found a meta-group that makes sense to me and feels welcoming and healthy, even though I will never be this group's poster child.

A Random List of Silly Things I Hate:

1. Websites that are just blank pages if the #JavaScript doesn’t load from the #CDN.

2. The misunderstanding that LLMs can somehow be a route to #AGI.

3. Computer systems that say my name is too short or my #password is too long.

4. People being unwilling to discuss their wild claims later using the lack of discussion as evidence of widespread acceptance.

5. When people balance the new #toiletRoll one atop the old one’s tube.

6. #Shellfish. Why would you eat that!?

7. People assuming my interest in computers and technology means I want to talk to them about #cryptocurrency.

8. Websites that nag you to install their shitty #app. (I know you have an app. I’m choosing to use your website. Stop with the banners!)

9. People who seem to only be able to drive at one speed.

10. The assumption that the fact I’m “sharing” my partner is some kind of compromise on my part; a concession; something that I’d “wish away” if I could. (It’s very much not.) #polyamory

11. #Brexit.

🔗 More detail: https://danq.me/random-silly-things-i-hate