You’re not faking. You’re growing.

Did you ever feel and maybe even say out loud, OFTEN possibly? Maybe you even wailed it:

“I CAN’T DO THIS!! IT’S NOT IN ME!!

I have. Often.

But the masters offered me a gem of insight that I pocketed for perpetuity and return to frequently for sustenance. I’ve shared it before and it’s been laid on my heart to share it again. As with most wisdom gems, it’s not new and it’s not a secret.

Operate in the fake-it mode until you’re feeling it.

Because utilizing the fake-it mode isn’t about being fake. It’s about training through habituation of practice.

It was put to me this way:

You will eventually come to understand that operating in the fake-it-til-you-feel-it mode is less about faking as it is assuming an identity within yourself that while foreign to you in the beginning, is not actually “false”, but merely unexplored. How can it not be a part of you if you pulled it from somewhere within you? You’re merely tapping a resource within that you had not yet chosen to access. Working a muscle that had previously been neglected.

It’s my belief that the muscles of your being are already within you, just as the muscles of your physical body are. Utilizing the concept of SAID (Specific Adaptations to Imposed Demands) Principle (the body adapts to the type of physical stress and demands placed upon it) this same principle can be applied to our being.

Let’s say you’ve never made a habit of working out. Obviously, any previously neglected muscles are going to feel differently after your first workout than they will come to feel after your 100th. And while you may have felt like an imposter the first time you picked up those weights or got on that treadmill, sometimes “assuming the role” of the future self we’re endeavoring to become is essential in getting us started toward blazing a new trail.

A new trail that will eventually become the well-worn trail, gradually leading you to the next patch of unknown territory you’re meant to blaze.

It won’t be familiar to you. You may not know exactly where it will take you. You probably won’t look like you “know what you’re doing” at first because you’re not meant to.

You’re simply meant to lace up your hikers and show up with an open heart and mind and the willingness to be led into the day’s unfolding.

Faking it til you feel it is not an exercise in the false. Believing you have within you the capacity to strengthen, build, and grow EVERY muscle (especially those that remain visually unseen) is an act of faith that requires the very stamina of soul it’s helping you build.

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“All the world’s indeed a stage

we are merely players, performers and portrayers. Each another’s audience outside the gilded cage.” Limelight lyrics by Alan Parsons, Eric Norman Woolfson sung by Rush

I’m an actor.

Before you get the wrong idea, I haven’t actually been paid for my acting, and far be it from the world to consider anything the real deal unless we are being monetarily compensated as proof of said label, but once again, let me buck convention and do that very thing.

In fact, I’ll shout it: I AM AN ACTOR!!  😁

I say this because I don’t believe there’s been a time in my life where there wasn’t at least some small measure of acting involved in my day. I consider it a tremendous coping mechanism for navigating the murky waters of life in this realm.

Claiming to be an actor not the same thing as being a fake or a liar. 

Not that I’ve never lied (because I have) and never faked (because I have) but never orgasm because how self-defeating would that be? Not that I couldn’t have faked if the situation warranted- after all, I’ve just spent the last 30 seconds convincing you I’m an actor, but

I became especially resistant to lying and faking upon enlightenment that to indulge in either compromised many facets of life, since the very thing I was tempted to lie or fake about was a sign of a bigger issue attempting to show itself to me.

And as we’ve noted before and will most likely note perpetually, it’s one thing not to know what you don’t know, but quite another to know what you know and pretend you don’t know it. Though you may be able to convince others of your faked ignorance, you can’t fake it to yourself. 

Although, if you are anything like me, you may make several attempts before you finally give it up for good. 😉

I utilize my acting skills not to deceive others, but to empower myself.

“Acting” the part allows conviction of competence in maintaining self-control that I didn’t always believe I possessed. I do possess it. You do too. If you think you don’t it’s only because you don’t believe it yet. 

When I encounter a situation in which I feel under-qualified, overwhelmed, fearful, or any other adjective that has me convinced that YOU.CAN’T.DO.THIS I slip into my actor’s persona and let my inner character take over the challenge.

My character is a ballsy badass who faces every new situation with aplomb. I’m pretty sure she’s able to drive a stick-shift and fly a plane, but I can’t take the pretending that far because

A) I have neither a vehicle with a stick-shift, nor an airplane

and B) sometimes one can take pretending past the point of constructiveness and unwittingly fall into an abyss of chaos.

Best not to ask how I learned that one…                         

Slipping into character is an effective way of breaking out of the “I can’t help it- this is just the way I am” trap. You know, the quicksand that pulling you into the belief that just because certain negative traits appear inherent within you (quick temper, bossiness, boastfulness, clinginess, impulsiveness, etc…) you have no control over changing them.

Don’t become paralyzed with this nonsense. You always have the power to change what isn’t serving you! 

The day I realized that while I may be more prone to certain behaviors than others, I absolutely had ultimate control over myself and my actions by simply choosing to take it, was one of the most hopeful moments of my life.

By acting as the person I was taking the actions to become, I became that person.

We change our patterns by changing our thinking. It doesn’t happen overnight or without diligence, but it becomes possible by making the daily decision that it IS possible and patterning yourself in the power of the energy you’re attempting to emit. Neuroplasticity follows attention and you are essentially rewiring your brain to empower your energetic presence.

Since I’m not overly convinced that what we consider reality in this world is actually “real” in the first place (if so, real in what sense of the word?) it’s not a stretch for me to think of life as one big reality TV show or perhaps a video game (Free Guy lover here. Partially for this very reason) and I’m merely a character in it, living through situations intended for my growth. 

I align with the philosophy of  Pierre Teilhard de Chardin “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” 

So during those times when my spirit seems resistant to the limitations of a physical body having a human experience on this physical plane, I revitalize myself by tuning into my inner character.

She takes life missions in stride whether trivial or paramount, indestructible, knowing with certainty that one way or another she’ll come out on top after each, wiser for the experience.

Since she appears to know much that I don’t, I just roll with it.

And I’m still here, aren’t I?

at least in the sense that “here” is actually somewhere “real” where we can “be” and if so where exactly is it that we ARE? 🤔

But I digress…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZiRuj2_czzw

The cost of not having options?

You tolerate things you shouldn’t.

🔹 A toxic job.

🔹 A bad relationship.

🔹 A city that drains you.

Options = Power. Build them.

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