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Looking for a new home after firefish.lgbt went down suddenly.

Early 40s, xennial? Adamantly in favour of human rights, dignity, care, and food. Always got a foot in two different fields and a sense of never fitting in with either. I like nice people and well-designed systems that put people first.

Some relevant hashtags in no particular order:
#knitting #crochet #gay #nerd #languages #ttrpg #cats #cptsd #psychology #mathematics #cooking #gaming #puzzles #ContemporaryDance #UserCentredDesign #TechnicalEditing #ceramics #orange #blue #brown #green #EuroVision #UK #NightOwl

Avatar: White male wearing a hat and squinting at the camera like he hasn't seen daylight since before COVID. Behind him is a wide path to some trees in the distance, a field of cut hay to his left. His smile suggests he may actually be enjoying this time outdoors, and that it surprises him.
@synth Thanks. Another vote for finding a new instance. That's the hardest part I find.
@druid Thanks. If I can drum up the energy to sort one out, then that seems a good idea. Having a very low spoons day today though.
I'm having seriovs difficulty seeing anything through firefish recently. Days of just errors.
Did another quick poster for funsies but this one in English.
@bobcgames Thanks for sharing this. I saw a post from you about the series but then my previous firefish account got nuked before I could say thanks. I'm halfway through series two now and loving it.

A post saying “Please don’t anthropomorphize fascists” just crossed my TL (not linking to avoid dunking), and…as much as I appreciate the snark, I can’t endorse that.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m 100% on board with “Don’t coddle fascists,”“Don’t infantilize fascists,” “Don’t be gentle with fascists.”

Punch fascists, yes please. “Be compassionate” is NOT where I’m going. Where I’m going is “never think it couldn’t be you, or me, or the person next to you.”
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I'm here to do an #introduction post since my nicest one went down in flames when firefish.lgbt disappeared, god rest her soul

I'm a #writer. I like to write about #grief, #QueerIdentity, #hope, #praxis, and #harm + #reciprocity. (my websites are in my links!)

I have trained as a #DeathDoula, and I engage in #GriefWork & #DeathWork with and for my best beloveds: the #LGBTQIA2S+ community.

In my spare time you can find me hyperfocusing on whatever it is that I can't stop thinking about. I love a new game, a new favorite song, a new project management solution, and thinking about my chosen family and intentional community.

I'm #pagan, I am training in an old mystery tradition of pre-Gardnerian British traditional #witchcraft. We are from a long time ago and we are doing what it takes to support, love, and keep safe the people in our communities.

I will always fight for your right to #choose. I believe this right is a fundamental human gift.

Just read a post by @nixkelley about 'The things we forget on purpose'.
It is painfully relatable, arousing a bittersweet feeling of both being understood and realising that someone else also experiences those terrible feelings.
I am always grateful to those who can put words to things I'm trying to understand and one part that caught me as being a brilliant metaphor, due to both making it relatable and telling a deeper truth about the experience, was the following:

When I try to remember [...], the only thing I can access is a weird feeling of running in a direction that I wasn’t looking in. #grief #trauma #memory

the things we forget on purpose

Part of why I write here is to bleed off some of the pressure of the years of trauma and grief I’ve experienced, but it’s so hard to write when it really hurts.

the Infinite