Rowan

@RowanH@infosec.exchange
202 Followers
1,001 Following
210 Posts

Hi! I’m Rowan (they/them or person/per). Transitioning femme enby. I’m still emerging, so I don’t have much to say yet. Watch this space for updates! I’ll post a new intro when I have a better idea of who I am. Also, living under a bigoted dictator, I’m scared to share too much, even here.

I’m autistic. I’m retired. I’m queer. I’m married. I’m in transition. I’m in therapy. I’m inabled. I’m incorrigible.
Please incorrige me. But be nice?

Making good trouble since 1966 (Vietnam peace protest on dad’s shoulders).

Please don’t let the follow request thing scare you away! I want you to follow me, but, well, there are some other people I don’t want to. Not you, no! You just go right ahead and send that follow request. Operators are standing by. (If you have never made a post, never replied to anyone, and your profile is basically empty, except for a picture showing your hairy man chest, I do mean you. Please go away.)

Who am I?Just Me (Gender Binary Blues) by Jinkx Monsoon https://music.apple.com/us/album/just-me-the-gender-binary-blues/1559129849
What am I?Am I a Girl? by Poppy https://music.apple.com/us/album/am-i-a-girl/1439540395
Rowan4h ago

Ugh.
This seems to becoming a regular thing, waking up to a follow request from some skeezy guy. This one inspired me to add a caveat to my profile. Not that those sorts of guys will read it or care, but it’s really just so I could let off some steam.
If you are a masc-guy here on Mastodon, I highly recommend that you create an alt account with a femme-looking photo of yourself or someone else, just so you can experience how many sleazebag men are on Mastodon.

My profile now says:
Please don’t let the follow request thing scare you away! I want you to follow me, but, well, there are some other people I don’t want to. Not you, no! You just go right ahead and send that follow request. Operators are standing by. (If you have never made a post, never replied to anyone, and your profile is basically empty, except for a picture showing your hairy man chest, I do mean you. Please go away.)

Show threadRowan19h ago
@APBBlue Makes me think of a book from my childhood, Are You My Mother? by P.D. Eastman.
Rowan21h ago
I am compelled to disclose that I am enjoying the Apple+ take on @marthawells ‘s Murderbot immensely.
Show threadRowan3d ago
@Purple_Cloudzy Tell us all about yourself!
Show threadRowan4d ago
@BernieDoesIt @glitzersachen @burnoutqueen @xgranade @anyia @alice Former Unix geek, read the jargon file before it became the hackers dictionary, ran a BBS in 1984, Delphi, compuserve and all the pre-Internet stuff, setup a Usenet node in 1983, newgroup’ed on alt. back before the Backbone Cabal. Got the first spam from the green card lawyers. Hung out in muds and mushes and moos in the early 90’s, etc. so yeah, most of the net lingo we created.
Don’t try to search for me though. Both my first and last names are different now.
Show threadRowan4d ago
@EveHasWords Ooh, I love that puckish word!
Show threadRowan4d ago
@EveHasWords Jury of my peeps
Rowan4d ago
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)4d ago

I have been guysplained to more times for this one post than in my whole previous history on Fedi.

If you're mad about "y'all", you missed the point of the post.

If you're looking up the etymology of "guy", you missed the point of the post.

If you're telling me that *you* don't think "guys" is a gendered term, you missed the point of the post.

If you're saying "dude, it's just a word", you're kind of a dick.

If you're thinking that "maybe `cisheteronormative white man` shouldn't be the default assumption just because they hold a disproportionate share of power and oppressors often influence language so as to make it seem like their way is the only sane way", then...damn, you *were* paying attention!

If you're like "omg, so much this", omg, ikr?? 🫂🫂

If you're typing out "I'll try to do better", thank you, that's all we ask 💝

https://lgbtqia.space/@alice/114736690113006188

#DoBetter #ReplyGuys #WordsMatter

🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) (@alice@lgbtqia.space)

Attached: 1 image Hey all y'all need to stop using "guys" in mixed company. - My trans girlfriend is not a guy. - My cis girlfriend is not a guy. - I'm not a guy (or a girl, but that's not relevant here). Misgendering is misgendering—even if "everyone's doing it". Patriarchy shouldn't be the default. #FuckThePatriarchy #Feminist #LGBTQ+ #Rant

LGBTQIA.Space
Show threadRowan4d ago
@BernieDoesIt @glitzersachen @burnoutqueen @xgranade @anyia @alice I’m 62 and I’ve been using the word “chat” like this for years. Usage skews very online, yes, but not young. I’ve been chatting with people online since 1983. And using “chat” to mean “folks” since the the turn of the millenium at least.
Rowan4d ago
🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)5d ago

Hey all y'all need to stop using "guys" in mixed company.

- My trans girlfriend is not a guy.
- My cis girlfriend is not a guy.
- I'm not a guy (or a girl, but that's not relevant here).

Misgendering is misgendering—even if "everyone's doing it".

Patriarchy shouldn't be the default.

#FuckThePatriarchy #Feminist #LGBTQ+ #Rant

×
Show threadRowan19h ago
@APBBlue Makes me think of a book from my childhood, Are You My Mother? by P.D. Eastman.