Is monal good enough to recommend to my non tech friends that have iphones ?
#xmpp
@debacle answered my own question by looking... This seems a reasonable start.
I suppose for my less literate friends I could pre-select a few for them to choose from:
https://providers.xmpp.net/?free_of_charge=true&professional_hosting=true
Yes, @xmpp_providers and @joinjabber are good resources to find a #Jabber server.
At that time, I did not yet have my own #Jabber server, so I pointed them to well-known instances. It's better, if they are on different servers anyway, so they would not depend on me.
For those, you prefer an accound tied to their phone number, I asked them to install #Quicksy https://quicksy.im/ That worked out amazingly well. They did not need any help from my side.
Note, that Quicksy is practically #Monal on iOS, and #Conversations_im on Android.