KiwiPaulJan 17
Broadwaybabyto

I lost a friend over my article about the murder of Renee Nicole Good.

He was angry I called out the underlying misogyny.

He was mad I didn’t give ICE the benefit of the doubt.

He made it personal.

He told me my “stupid clown hair” is why people don’t take me seriously

Everything he said to me was dripping with disdain and misogyny.

There was no debate.

There was no respectful disagreement.

In under five minutes he had attacked my intelligence, my politics, my appearance and my writing.

This is not normal behaviour.

He literally proved my point.

Had I taken the bait I’m convinced that I would have been called a “f*cking b*tch” by the end of the conversation.

This is what MAGA is doing to men.

It’s emboldening them.

It’s validating their bigotry.

I assume this person was always hateful and misogynistic on some level … but now he no longer feels he has to hide it.

He literally said as much.

He said “I never told you in the past because I wasn’t allowed. Now I am.”

Why is he allowed to tell me now??

Why does he feel justified in lashing out with rage and insults over something that has nothing to do with him?

It’s because of what happened to Renee Nicole Good.

We all watched a woman get shot in broad daylight and there’s been zero consequences

We’ve watched rapists, pedophiles and abusers go free for years.

Every woman who’s ever experienced abuse knew exactly what Jonathan Ross meant when he said “f*cking b*tch”

He didn’t fear for his life.

He was enraged she didn’t fear for hers.

My friend was enraged I dare speak out for a “lesbian leftist”.

He was enraged I didn’t remain silent, complicit and demure.

He was apparently also enraged I didn’t realize he hated my hair and change it to please him.

Make no mistake, there is a war against women going on.

This regime wants to make us “less than”.

They want us afraid.

They want us in the home serving our husbands and having children.

They want us seen and not heard.

They don’t want us resisting.

Which is why we must keep speaking out.

We must refuse to go back.

My life is better off without this person in it, and thankfully I can walk away.

Not everyone can.

Speak up if you see someone being hurt.

Protect your friends and neighbours.

Challenge misogynistic talking points.

Demand justice for Renee Nicole Good.

Don’t cower. Don’t be afraid. Don’t give up.

#reneenicolegood #abolishice #uspol #fascism #ableism #misogyny

Jan 17 at 5:23amWeb
Show threadLongspeakJan 17

@broadwaybabyto IDK if it helps, but it seems you didn't lose a friend. It seems he was never a friend.

I've dealt with people taking off their masks. It sucks. Vibes.

Show threadShinryuJan 17
@broadwaybabyto @Longspeak What Longspeak said, I back that 100%. Had mates like that too. Two of 'em, actually. They'd stab me in the back the second I said something they didn't like, just start hurling insults, getting proper personal.

Be glad you're rid of that person now. Keep doing what you're doing and don't mourn it. You didn't lose a thing, you gained something.
Show threadDoomsdaysCWJan 17

Ditto what @Longspeak said!

@broadwaybabyto

Show threadJDJan 18
@Longspeak @broadwaybabyto those things were always lurking below his surface just waiting for the right moment.
Show threadDarwin WoodkaJan 17

@broadwaybabyto

good riddance.

Get those fascists out of your life now

Show threadThe Drop Bear 2.0 Jan 17
@broadwaybabyto glad you found out now and not in a far worse way later on because he CLEARLY has it in him 😬
Show threaddraNgNonJan 17
@broadwaybabyto I hope he did not demonstrate his unreliability before you had call to rely on him
Show threadJWcph, Radicalized By DecencyJan 17

@broadwaybabyto 👉 "Every woman who’s ever experienced abuse knew exactly what Jonathan Ross meant when he said “f*cking b*tch”

He didn’t fear for his life.

He was enraged she didn’t fear for hers."

Show threadLone Koefoed HansenJan 17
@jwcph @broadwaybabyto excellent way of saying it. It’s so true.
Show threadCassandraVertJan 17
The Bret Kavanagh type. I never encountered them in the mixed neighborhood i was born in. As soon as we moved across town--boom! 12 yo white boys who thought everyone else should be deferential to them.
Show threadmega mushroomJan 17

@broadwaybabyto jeez that horrifying omg im so sorry its so scary that anyone you know could secretly be that way if they felt like it was ok...

Now i get what bigots meant when they justify abuse with "it was ok back then", no, it was never ok. Clearly anyone who thinks that morality is decided by those in power were never good people too begin with. I wonder if there is truly hope for people like that... It seems like they will never change...

Show threadさよなら皆さんJan 17
@broadwaybabyto @Fragolina
Show threadCourt Cantrell does not complyJan 17
@broadwaybabyto I shut a guy out of my life in 2015 when I dared critique Trump and the "friend" in question outed himself as an arrogant misogynist right-winger. Good fucking riddance.
Show threadSimon and CadJan 17
@courtcan @broadwaybabyto Why I left Facebook in 2016.
Show threadLongspeakJan 17
@courtcan @broadwaybabyto I had similar in 2016, though he was barely a friend. Later, but when I was still on that FacelessReadingMaterial site, someone unfriended me when I invited anyone who supported the Hypocritopotamus - and who by extension clearly supported the things he did and secretly wished they could get away with that shit too - to drop me as a friend.
Show threadpagangod (he/him)Jan 17
@broadwaybabyto Oof. 
Show threadEric SchutteJan 17

@broadwaybabyto
Just one question;
Do you think your friend would have killed Renee Nicole Good too?

If not then there is still hope.
#uspol #RemoveTrumpAdministration #JudgementDayWillCome

Show threadMab_813Jan 17

@ericschutte

WTF?!
The bar is so low for men like this former friend, if we only draw the line at murder or people we suspect to be capable of murder.

Show threadEric SchutteJan 18
@Mab_813
Your former friend sounds really bad but I ment if you ask these kind of people directly “would you have killed her too?” there is a moment of reflection. If your friend would say “No” you could ask then why do you accept ICE killing the woman and why do you say all these terrible things?
Show threadJanisJan 18

@ericschutte @Mab_813 More than likely you're pinning him into a corner to say "yes" and whip up more self-defense arguments for both him and Ross. Some probing questions that are genuinely borne of curiosity don't get the hypothesized response/s. A probe perceived often doesn't come off as a question.

IMO, the core to this is anxiety. It might be smarter to turn toward a cooler topic that gives his voice, & listen.

But genuinely, thanks for being a guy who's willing to get in there.

Show threadEric SchutteJan 19

@janisf @Mab_813
Asking the question might cause to whip up more self-defense arguments but it often leaves behind a little seed. I don’t want a person to prove to ME he can change, more important is the fact the person proves it to himself.

But the person in question probably isn’t worth all the trouble. Nobody can help or save everybody😁

Show threadLinda Sgoluppi ArtistJan 17
@broadwaybabyto I'm so sorry this happened to you, it happens too much but does show us who people are. In a different situation I lost a friend not long ago, I was shocked at who this person was when I'd thought I knew. I'm old but have fought for women's rights throughout my life and am so sad to see that it seems we are back where we started, but we are not and we will not cave in. We are aware, and can verbalise as you have done so well.
Show threadFrank HeijkampJan 17
@broadwaybabyto 
Show threadSecondUniverse (she/her/they)Jan 17
@broadwaybabyto They talk a lot about "protecting women", what they mean is protecting women from uppity lesbian poets.
Show threadFranchescaJan 17
@SecondUniverse @broadwaybabyto what they mean by “protecting” women is fully controlling every aspect of our lives and bodies. Explains the hair comment too.
Show threadECHAEAJan 17
@broadwaybabyto
Never was a friend.
Show threadDon Hawkins - W7DAHJan 17
@broadwaybabyto
While violence is never supposed to be the answer, it would be satisfying to punch in the face of such an entitled asshole repeatedly and witness his confusion that another male does not accept his bullshit.
Show threadJoanne JacobsJan 17
@broadwaybabyto that was not a friend. That was a fascist.
Show threadMaurizio PuopoloJan 17
@broadwaybabyto I find "acquaintances"who act as if they were still your friend even worse. When they disapprove ("disagree" is the wrong word, they simply don't like what you say) they will say things like: You know, "some people" could really "misunderstand" what you say (or post), you know I just had a conversation with "someone", and you wouldn't believe how extreme "some people" can be...blablabla #fascism
Show threadnachtetJan 17
@broadwaybabyto Thank you for your writing. You have very cool hair. 🔥
Show threadMomoJan 17

@broadwaybabyto
I feel I need to speak out here, saying: I'm not sorry for you loosing your friend, because it looks like he was never really a friend. I'm sorry for the way how you lost him. No, that's wrong. For the way how he lost you.

You are absolutely correct in pointing out the misogynie, the hate and the facism. And the fact that your "friend" needed to bring up your hair color shows how much he ran out of arguments. What would have come next? The way you breathe? The sound of your voice? This is no base for an argument, this is an ape throwing shit.

Justice for Renee Nicole Good!

Show threadJohnsJan 17

@broadwaybabyto A proper man listens, a proper man learns, a proper man is not afraid of admitting his mistakes.

When I started going out with my partner - 20 something years ago - she would point out the things I did and said that oozed sexism. And you know what I did? Listened, learned, and strived to be better.

Why? Because, to borrow a known phrase, That Is The Way.

Show threadLongspeakJan 17
@Johns_priv @broadwaybabyto My wife, and later my daughter and son, helped me by pointing out when I... had some learning to do. Annoying in the moment sometimes, but I think they've helped me in the long run.
Show threadDizzyJan 17
@broadwaybabyto Doesn't look like you lost a friend TBH.
Show threadScott D. Strader 😐Jan 17

@broadwaybabyto “I never told you in the past because I wasn’t allowed. Now I am.” 😶 I bet he also thinks he has to apologize for being white. My biggest shock is (and this sounds like a dig on you, but it's not) how was he a friend for so long and this didn't come out? How much presumed "assault" on their existence are these angry people suppressing and for how long.

Were suppressing.

Show threadCharles ☭  is a GreenJan 17

@broadwaybabyto

I'm so sorry this happened.

A lot of people are saying he never was a friend, but I think instead that your friendship with him was valid and meaningful and he set it on fire. I'm very sorry for this loss.

People do change and not always for the better. If he was your friend before, then he changed.

What's happening now with US men has happened before in other places.

Show threadCJPaloma might be hikingJan 17

@celesteh @broadwaybabyto

"What's happening now with US men has happened before in other places."

Tons of other places!

If you flatter a group of people and tell them they are heroes and "superior" for whatever reasons, some of them* will believe it.

And after living with these beliefs for years, it's difficult for some to understand kings (or now: oligarchs) do this to divide and conquer, and make people easier to shepherd.

*Generally the ones least able to think for themselves.

Show threadCharles ☭  is a GreenJan 17

@CJPaloma @broadwaybabyto

The example that most quickly springs to mind is Germany in the 1930s. But I hope there are - there must be - examples where this was overcome internally, without tons of people dying.

Show threadCJPaloma might be hikingJan 17

@celesteh @broadwaybabyto yeah, the past 80 years there was a good bit of progress to -reduce-already existing biases, but sexist attitudes are still depressingly widespread among people in 2025 in most parts of the (very war scarred, colonized, and crapitalism dominated) world.

Men who think they are superior to others have been -the norm- in pretty much most cultures traditionally run (or run over by) by kings and oligarchs... Always have been. But...In non warring cultures: not so much.🤔

Show threadSaupreiss #Präparat500 🗽Jan 17

@broadwaybabyto

Not to the fullest extend, that’s what more or less suddenly happened to several American Friends, one of them being a very close one.(and I am not in the usually targeted vulnurable groups, caucasian, cis, ..)
It hurts like fuck, even years later.

As a benefit of doubt, brainwashed folks are both offenders and victims themselves. It’s gonna hurt when they wake up.

Show threadSteve HoldenJan 17
@broadwaybabyto What made you think he was ever a friend? Is it possible he just wanted to get in your pants?
Show threadSteve HoldenJan 17
@broadwaybabyto sorry, that was a rude question, which naturally you are under no obligation to respond to. I merely meant to suggest you might consider that possibility.
Show threadToni AittoniemiJan 17

@broadwaybabyto I feel so sorry for you!

This movement, though, is as old as time. It is not new but going back, as they say.

It’s power is not in ideas but in emotion, in destructive ones, ultimately rooted in fear of freedom itself.

I feel this is part of the cycle from David Wengrow’s ”The Dawn Of Everything”:

A shining city of progress is built by the egalitarians, only to be conquerred by the warlike, then run down to ruins when frustrated normies leave to start a new one.

Show threadspellfinderJan 17

@broadwaybabyto

All of this. However horrible and despicable Trump and his Eyes Are, they are bringing this shit To light.

Paradoxically helping us see, and free our Minds and our Bodies.

I had some more subtle but similar situations in my life and it wasn't just right-wing assholes.

It was zelf proclaimed left wing men and trans persons.

Thing is, this culture has been so pervasive it's ingrained in all of us.

And exactly like you did I cut out the people who cannot seem to learn, who want to Double Down. For now anyway.

I am pretty sure a goodbye now can result in a turn and a return later. Sometimes People need Space, distance or even pain to come to their senses.

I am talking about emotional Pain. I am 💯 nonviolent, a pushover however I am not. I am not taking on someone else's pain anymore. I have been giving out free emotional labor for far far too long. No more.

Bye, suckers

Show threadDrumchordJan 17

@broadwaybabyto Insulting someone without defamation was always allowed. I think what he meant is that now he doesn't feel like the shitty person he is when doing so.

Also I see that dying your hair is quite an effective method to find out which persons around you are complete morons.

Show threadFranchescaJan 17
@charleekress @broadwaybabyto in the natural world, bright colors are used to deter predators. Looks like it scares away human predators too.
Show threadBen AvelingJan 17

Relevant: https://jorts.horse/@ecosurrealism/114088955703056555

@Frantasaur @charleekress @broadwaybabyto

#aposematism

Degrowth or Extinction (@[email protected])

Attached: 1 image #pwnd #darkwoke #aposematism #predators

jorts.horse
Show threadFranchescaJan 17
@BenAveling @charleekress @broadwaybabyto haha, yeh she’s brilliant!
Show threadKerplunkJan 17

@broadwaybabyto
I lost a friend over my article about the murder of Renee Nicole Good.

He was angry I called out the underlying misogyny.

He was mad I didn’t give ICE the benefit of the doubt.

Not sad, the videos were conclusive and showed a terrorist murder.

that was not a friend or a man, just a worthless sub human scumbag.

Show threadkikebenllochJan 17
@broadwaybabyto OMG who needs enemies with 'friends' like that.
The misogyny in the murder is blatant.
Show threadJordan BiserkovJan 17

@broadwaybabyto
The article in question: https://www.disabledginger.com/p/misogyny-murder-and-renee-nicole

More people should read it.

Misogyny, Murder and Renee Nicole Good

It's been a week since we watched an ICE agent shoot and kill Renee Nicole Good and then mutter "f*cking b*tch" at her. It's time we talk about the misogyny that's baked into ICE enforcement.

The Disabled Ginger
Show threadScriptFanix💍Jan 17

@jbiserkov He has a fundraiser too? That reminds me of the french cop who shot a teenager to death (16yo!) in similar circumstances. Cop is now literally, and I do mean literally, a millionaire. And charges were dropped.

Misogyny and racism are both at the core of fascism, and it seems the whole world is embracing it.
@broadwaybabyto

Show threadkcpJan 17

@broadwaybabyto so sorry to read your story.
I hoping most blokes in civilised countries are just as abhorred by the actions and attitudes of the current US regime
What they are doing is disgusting, and I fear that its not going to stop

Handmaids tale is where they are headed

Show threadMr. Lance E Sloan (IRL) 👤Jan 17

@broadwaybabyto
Sounds like that guy was never truly your friend. It's a good thing you know now.

I think MAGA doesn't change men. People will already feel that way and they will use MAGA as justification to show it. All kinds of people.

Show threadMatthias KampmannJan 17
@broadwaybabyto My promise from across the Atlantic: I stand with you. As a man, I hate #patriarchy with all my heart! I stand behind all Americans who fight for justice, democracy and all those humanistic values that have been developed over the last few centuries to make the world a better place for all beings around us. The madmen will never win. They will die of their greed, their envy and their short-lived avarice. We are the water. We are everywhere! We know no boundaries!
Show threadAral BalkanJan 17
@broadwaybabyto Wow, may I just say: fuck that guy.
Show threadIndy Richard 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿Jan 17
@broadwaybabyto All over the globe (sorry flat earthers but yes its a globe) the rise of the far-right has the rest of us quaking. Our choice is to cower in the corner or to say, "No, things don't have to be this way" and speak our or even to get angry. Speaking out against this person was the right thing to do. You'll likely gain far more than you will lose. Oh and your post well worth a follow. Hope you don't mind.