I lost a friend over my article about the murder of Renee Nicole Good.

He was angry I called out the underlying misogyny.

He was mad I didn’t give ICE the benefit of the doubt.

He made it personal.

He told me my “stupid clown hair” is why people don’t take me seriously

Everything he said to me was dripping with disdain and misogyny.

There was no debate.

There was no respectful disagreement.

In under five minutes he had attacked my intelligence, my politics, my appearance and my writing.

This is not normal behaviour.

He literally proved my point.

Had I taken the bait I’m convinced that I would have been called a “f*cking b*tch” by the end of the conversation.

This is what MAGA is doing to men.

It’s emboldening them.

It’s validating their bigotry.

I assume this person was always hateful and misogynistic on some level … but now he no longer feels he has to hide it.

He literally said as much.

He said “I never told you in the past because I wasn’t allowed. Now I am.”

Why is he allowed to tell me now??

Why does he feel justified in lashing out with rage and insults over something that has nothing to do with him?

It’s because of what happened to Renee Nicole Good.

We all watched a woman get shot in broad daylight and there’s been zero consequences

We’ve watched rapists, pedophiles and abusers go free for years.

Every woman who’s ever experienced abuse knew exactly what Jonathan Ross meant when he said “f*cking b*tch”

He didn’t fear for his life.

He was enraged she didn’t fear for hers.

My friend was enraged I dare speak out for a “lesbian leftist”.

He was enraged I didn’t remain silent, complicit and demure.

He was apparently also enraged I didn’t realize he hated my hair and change it to please him.

Make no mistake, there is a war against women going on.

This regime wants to make us “less than”.

They want us afraid.

They want us in the home serving our husbands and having children.

They want us seen and not heard.

They don’t want us resisting.

Which is why we must keep speaking out.

We must refuse to go back.

My life is better off without this person in it, and thankfully I can walk away.

Not everyone can.

Speak up if you see someone being hurt.

Protect your friends and neighbours.

Challenge misogynistic talking points.

Demand justice for Renee Nicole Good.

Don’t cower. Don’t be afraid. Don’t give up.

#reneenicolegood #abolishice #uspol #fascism #ableism #misogyny

@broadwaybabyto

I'm so sorry this happened.

A lot of people are saying he never was a friend, but I think instead that your friendship with him was valid and meaningful and he set it on fire. I'm very sorry for this loss.

People do change and not always for the better. If he was your friend before, then he changed.

What's happening now with US men has happened before in other places.

@celesteh @broadwaybabyto

"What's happening now with US men has happened before in other places."

Tons of other places!

If you flatter a group of people and tell them they are heroes and "superior" for whatever reasons, some of them* will believe it.

And after living with these beliefs for years, it's difficult for some to understand kings (or now: oligarchs) do this to divide and conquer, and make people easier to shepherd.

*Generally the ones least able to think for themselves.

@CJPaloma @broadwaybabyto

The example that most quickly springs to mind is Germany in the 1930s. But I hope there are - there must be - examples where this was overcome internally, without tons of people dying.

@celesteh @broadwaybabyto yeah, the past 80 years there was a good bit of progress to -reduce-already existing biases, but sexist attitudes are still depressingly widespread among people in 2025 in most parts of the (very war scarred, colonized, and crapitalism dominated) world.

Men who think they are superior to others have been -the norm- in pretty much most cultures traditionally run (or run over by) by kings and oligarchs... Always have been. But...In non warring cultures: not so much.🤔