I lost a friend over my article about the murder of Renee Nicole Good.

He was angry I called out the underlying misogyny.

He was mad I didn’t give ICE the benefit of the doubt.

He made it personal.

He told me my “stupid clown hair” is why people don’t take me seriously

Everything he said to me was dripping with disdain and misogyny.

There was no debate.

There was no respectful disagreement.

In under five minutes he had attacked my intelligence, my politics, my appearance and my writing.

This is not normal behaviour.

He literally proved my point.

Had I taken the bait I’m convinced that I would have been called a “f*cking b*tch” by the end of the conversation.

This is what MAGA is doing to men.

It’s emboldening them.

It’s validating their bigotry.

I assume this person was always hateful and misogynistic on some level … but now he no longer feels he has to hide it.

He literally said as much.

He said “I never told you in the past because I wasn’t allowed. Now I am.”

Why is he allowed to tell me now??

Why does he feel justified in lashing out with rage and insults over something that has nothing to do with him?

It’s because of what happened to Renee Nicole Good.

We all watched a woman get shot in broad daylight and there’s been zero consequences

We’ve watched rapists, pedophiles and abusers go free for years.

Every woman who’s ever experienced abuse knew exactly what Jonathan Ross meant when he said “f*cking b*tch”

He didn’t fear for his life.

He was enraged she didn’t fear for hers.

My friend was enraged I dare speak out for a “lesbian leftist”.

He was enraged I didn’t remain silent, complicit and demure.

He was apparently also enraged I didn’t realize he hated my hair and change it to please him.

Make no mistake, there is a war against women going on.

This regime wants to make us “less than”.

They want us afraid.

They want us in the home serving our husbands and having children.

They want us seen and not heard.

They don’t want us resisting.

Which is why we must keep speaking out.

We must refuse to go back.

My life is better off without this person in it, and thankfully I can walk away.

Not everyone can.

Speak up if you see someone being hurt.

Protect your friends and neighbours.

Challenge misogynistic talking points.

Demand justice for Renee Nicole Good.

Don’t cower. Don’t be afraid. Don’t give up.

#reneenicolegood #abolishice #uspol #fascism #ableism #misogyny

@broadwaybabyto
Just one question;
Do you think your friend would have killed Renee Nicole Good too?

If not then there is still hope.
#uspol #RemoveTrumpAdministration #JudgementDayWillCome

@ericschutte

WTF?!
The bar is so low for men like this former friend, if we only draw the line at murder or people we suspect to be capable of murder.

@Mab_813
Your former friend sounds really bad but I ment if you ask these kind of people directly “would you have killed her too?” there is a moment of reflection. If your friend would say “No” you could ask then why do you accept ICE killing the woman and why do you say all these terrible things?

@ericschutte @Mab_813 More than likely you're pinning him into a corner to say "yes" and whip up more self-defense arguments for both him and Ross. Some probing questions that are genuinely borne of curiosity don't get the hypothesized response/s. A probe perceived often doesn't come off as a question.

IMO, the core to this is anxiety. It might be smarter to turn toward a cooler topic that gives his voice, & listen.

But genuinely, thanks for being a guy who's willing to get in there.

@janisf @Mab_813
Asking the question might cause to whip up more self-defense arguments but it often leaves behind a little seed. I don’t want a person to prove to ME he can change, more important is the fact the person proves it to himself.

But the person in question probably isn’t worth all the trouble. Nobody can help or save everybody😁