Soatok DreamseekerI'm in my 30's and still have no fucking idea what would be expected of me if I ever went on a date, partly because I don't even know how to find people I might be interested in dating.
kira :3@soatok i did it uhh two times when i was in my early 20s, it was weird. like they invented job interviews for your personality
Stefen Auris 🖖@soatok omg me toooooo lol
hey its okay, sometimes super casual is the best way to go about doing it. if you have someone you fancy, invite them to something with you
hey its okay, sometimes super casual is the best way to go about doing it. if you have someone you fancy, invite them to something with you
@stefenauris how to meet people you may potentially fancy if there is currently none?
then again this smacks of every discussion about executive dysfunction lol
NexJql@stefenauris @soatok *would take y'all on a date* uwu;
@NexJql that's the nicest thing anyone's said to me ❤️
Softwarewolf@soatok Big mood. We're all so connected and yet finding people is harder than ever, what's up with that.
@faoluin being demi is a primary complication in my case
Vagan FlossThe North American dating expectations for the years 2021-2025 have been published recently and can be reduced to the triple-six mnemonic - 6-fugure income, 6-pack and 6-feet-plus body height. Very simple.
Mudlark 
@soatok I was in a similar situation to you (also 30s), just zero interest at all in dating or romance or participating in any of it. I wasn't looking or interested, but I spent enough time with a friend and like gimmechocolate said it accidentally became friendship new game +
I'm not exactly sure how dating works, in the normal sense. seems awkward. its not something I was worried about, being single is fine and good, despite societal expectations (as long as you're happy with it personally)
@Mudlark Societal expectations are lame, I just want someone to cuddle with and be gay sometimes
That Anonymous CowardA little chloroform and stockholm syndrome is all ya need.
Aeáro, a SeaWyrm 
I think you just... have a conversation and see if it goes well? Dunno, I have no idea how to find people I might be interested in dating either.
recursive 🏳️🌈@soatok honestly I think the rise of the current style of dating apps, the end of pre-Musk Twitter, and the pandemic really hurt a lot of the ways a certain kind of folks who like to write well and think about big complex stuff meet people
@recursive Yeah. Yeah...
Advanced Persistent Teapot@recursive @soatok there were ways we could meet people before that?
@recursive @soatok yeah OKC felt like I got better matches but I don't think there was a lot of difference in how many dates actually came out of it, for me anyway.
Review from a friend (actually originally connected through OKC): "you'll make an amazing partner but boy howdy I've never seen anyone suck so much at getting dates"
Suda synth mode 
@soatok Well, both of my previous relationships were in my 20's but maybe as a demi ace, my experience could offer insight
The first was a guy from a local furry group who I was already talking to and was pretty open with (I was even more introverted back then) and after inviting me over for a night to hang out, we hit it off and had a good few months
The second was a lady I knew from work (she quit by then) who I knew was really into games (specifically Zelda) and I invited her out to the Zelda Symphonic Orchestra. She invited me over later, she kissed me at her home, and I asked her out right then. That relationship went better
In both cases, it was through general like interests that, when presented the opportunity for an intimate 1 on 1 event (not strictly for dating reasons), we found our wavelengths were compatible, and allowing for romance led to both becoming real romantic relationships. Granted, these were both in person so I'm not sure if it would work remotely, but any meetup might be a start
Insecurity Princess 🌈💖🔥@soatok a sword of iron and a sword of silver, three goat wings, and a tail/tale (either)
You would be expected to conduct yourself as befits a princess of the three moons: with absolute fucking majesty — or really any level of fucking from zero to majesty as you prefer
@saraislet Sounds like being a Witcher
@soatok @saraislet successfully getting dates is a form of witchcraft so far as I can tell
@http_error_418 @saraislet ah, so that's why summoning is so prevalent
Shaw@soatok I don’t think anyone actually knows dafuq to do in those situations.
nora 🐭 (she/her)@soatok if you are demi then just ignore the dating stuff completely and ask your friends if they want to cuddle.
Also don‘t worry about not knowing what your hypothetic potential partner might expect of you; that is very much something you do have to negotiate with them. (Continually during your relationship)
Pippin50's, and same.