Glimmer May 8, 2023
Melissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️

Just had a guy and his two kids in the shop, the oldest was 4 1/2, she told me so proudly ... She had a beautiful lavender cardigan on and matching socks ... I told her I loved that colour, we had a little chat about purple and all the purple things we have ... Then she asked me "are you a girl?" ... I looked at her dad and said can I let her know, he said yes

I crouched down to her level and said "that's a nice question you asked" ... and then said "I was born a boy, yuck, and for many reasons I always felt like a girl" ... Her eyes lit up, and I got a huge hugz and she whispered in my ear, "you're a girl"

I am more than likely the first trans person she has met, I made her feel comfortable and listened to ... one at a time ... Her dad thanked me for being kind.

Never dismiss a childs question, you might feel they are abrupt, they are not, they just want to know

First impression are important

Hugz & xXx

May 8, 2023 at 4:29amWeb
Show threadMatthew "Smiffy" SmithMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix And children don't have all the awful prejudices, so a good age to learn.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@grumpysmiffy no need to be sorry at all ... Children that age are pure
Show threadTh3 Wr3w - cyka, blyatMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix as a dad - I’d have been equally OK with this interaction, and appreciative of how you handled it.

Btw - I agree with the little girl here. You’re a girl.

Thanks for being awesome.

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Wrewdison oh ....blush ....thank you

Hugz & xXx

Show threadTh3 Wr3w - cyka, blyatMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix I keep telling my daughters they can be whoever they want to be. I know they’re too young to understand - but I’m making sure early that they know I’ll love them no matter what.
Show threadcinja ♾️May 8, 2023
@Wrewdison @melissabeartrix this is the way.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@cinja @Wrewdison
101%

Hugz & xXx

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Wrewdison nice, that is all a child needs, love and support from their parent/s ... Well maybe a bit of food and water occasionally ... Giggle

Hugz & xXx

Show threadJoy DenebeimMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix yeah that's the thing. I'm always aware that I'm probably the first trans person that they've ever met. Which makes it kind of important on me to leave a good first impression. It's not just with kids. It's adults too
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@denebeim so true ....we, as trans have to be our best, and compassionate to all and all the time ....we have a long journey to be respected and I am up to this challenge....hugz

Hugz & xXx

Show threadBestfootforwardMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix that was beautiful. My daughter plays all age ladies soccer and said there's a trans player on another team (the sad thing is that emails were sent to all the leagues players in that division stating that there was a trans player...which I personally think this player should have some privacy and not be emailed about.
My daughter said there's nastiness about, nasty nastiness. But my daughter said that she is just a good player, it's not about her gender, she's a talented player.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@bestfootforward you have raised your daughter to be a wonderful lady ... Huge hugz

Hugz & xXx

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@bestfootforward I just found my purple artliner ... Writing on your forehead... @melissabeartrix rules ... Giggles
Show threadLooking for explanations…May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That brought a tear to my eye. As a probably neurodiverse person, always curious, I can sometimes seem abrupt. What a lovely dad too.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Susan60 hugz ... And yes he was sweet ... It made my day, well actually it put the icing on my cake ... I have had a beautiful day today ... Hugz ... Thank you

Hugz & xXx

Show threadZumbadorMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix that is very sweet.

You handled it well.

I have always found it very difficult when children ask me "are you a boy or girl".

It's a perfectly rational and understandable question, but it's hard for me not to hear it as a challenge.

Probably because until relatively recently I didn't know that the answer I wanted to give, "neither", is just as rational, and that there are other people who feel that way too.

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Zumbador

Thank you ... Hugz

It can be confronting, and sometimes my mind is doing all kinds of flips and flops ... The thing to remember is to stay or give the impression of your calm, even if you are not ... It's not easy to do all the time.

Hugz & xXx

Show threadTC Won't Give In To LiesMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix
What a wonderful story.

"Kids just want to know" is a great moral to the story.

Sad that we live in a world where telling this simple truth is an issue. But keep telling (and sharing) the truth. It's the only way we'll all be free.

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@TCatInReality

I know that the only reason I am out and about in this cis world ... I may get abused sometimes, but nothing compares to when things like this happen ... It's amazing what strength I gain from interaction like this ... And I am glad I still have my mum that brings me back to earth ... She normally tells me "just remember this feeling when you get hate next time" ... It helps so much.

Hugz & xXx

Show threadTC Won't Give In To LiesMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix
To me a hero is someone who puts themselves in harm's way to help others. That's you!
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@TCatInReality now I have a few tears of joy rolling down my cheeks ... Thank you ... Curtsy
Show thread3wombatsMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That’s a lovely story
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@3wombats thank you ... Hugz
Show threadDimestore Diamond May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That's wonderful! 💜
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@DimestoreDiamond thank you... Hugz
Show threadSparklepantsMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix I love you a little bit more.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@Inge oh, blush ... Curtsy and huge hugz
Show threadThe Drop Bear 2.0 May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix how gracefully you handled that!
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@dropbear thank you ... Blushing ... Hugz
Show threadChristopher PhinMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix @Carrieinglasgow That’s so cute. 🥰 In a related spirit, this was served to me on Insta a couple days ago. ♥️ https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cqo3bETAXot/
Mychal on Instagram: "Librarians see the YOU that you are, libraries see the YOU that you are, books see the YOU that you are, I see the YOU that you are! The you that you are is extraordinary! 💚 #bookstagram #bookworm #books #librarylife #librariansofinstagram #storytime"

Mychal (@mychal3ts) on Instagram: "Librarians see the YOU that you are, libraries see the YOU that you are, books see the YOU that y..."

Instagram
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@chrisphin @Carrieinglasgow

That's beautiful ... Thank you for sharing

Hugz & xXx

Show threadAndy AyresMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That's a nice one, I'm glad the Dad is open to allowing his childs honest questions to be answered in kind, and I'm glad you felt comfortable answering it. Maybe we can get to a point one day where gender diversity is so normalised that no-one bats an eyelid with kids liek this...
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@andyayres truthfully I was not comfortable... I was like a duck ... Calm above the water and going insane below ... All I want to do is help show the world trans people are cool and just another person ... I do wish I didn't have to do this stuff ... But we have to, put ourselves out there and confront it face on ... Good or bad while hoping for the best ... Hugz & xXx

Hugz & xXx

Show threadTattie (old account)May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix that actually makes me feel more like I could do this myself, I've struggled with social anxiety all my life but I have my moments! Well done on staying calm! ❤️
@andyayres
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Tattie @andyayres oh tattie, you can do any what you like ... Just remember that we all love you ... Fronting your fears and anxiety head on is what we all need to do ... Hugz

I have social anxiety too, as I have said many times I am like a duck, cool calm about the water, and below the water my feet are racing a million miles an hour ... And I try when the 'shit' is chucked at me to let it wash off ... Hugz

Just be your best

Hugz & xXx

Show threadEwen at LargeMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix

🤍

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@ewen 💜
Show threadAral BalkanMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix 💕
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@aral

Hugz & xXx

Show threadnilsmielke ⁂May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That is beautiful.
(How very considerate of you to ask the dad, and thank goodness he agreed.)
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@nilsmielke

Thank you ... I was about 70% sure he would be ok with it, he did come into my workshop before to drop the job in without his kids, and it's kind of obvious that I'm trans ... And he brought his two kids in when he collected ... I was a bit nervous ... And just did it because it's what one should do ... Be kind, and compassionate

Hugz & xXx

Show threadnilsmielke ⁂May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix I just wish, you wouldn’t have to be nervous in a situation like that. Or any situation for that matter. But here we are.
Show thread⁂ Fish Id WardrobeMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That's a lovely story – and, what a smart kid.
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@fishidwardrobe not only smart, adorable and sweet ... Hugz

Hugz & xXx

Show threadMaggieci democracy enjoyerMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix 💕
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023
@MaggieCi 💜... Thank you
Show threadBerkeley WildeMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix beautiful story, thank you 🥰
Show threadAlbert Kinng May 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix well, we need to enjoy their innocence while we can. This era is trying to kill that spark little by little. A cute movie about a bad mom here, another one of killer grandparents over there, books with step by step instructions on how to explore your sexual needs for 5 years old kids… video games with secret orgies rooms like Roblox and Mindcraft… 😔 with the only evil intention to destroy their beautiful soul. Selfish adults are taking over. We need to protect them.
Show threadJo Dusepo  جوهانا دوسپوMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix this is so wholesome   
Show threadJennifer WilckMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix that is beautiful!
Show threadarclightMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix Children are approximate adults and deserve approximately adult answers to their questions. Touching example of what happens when you work past all the nuance and detail and give her an answer she can understand. Genuine curiosity is beautiful and so are you.
Show threadMaria BustillosMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix

bawled like a lil baby at this story, it's just so NICE

thank you!

Show threadIron RaptorMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix
I'm honestly tearing up right now. That is so heartwarming and sweet.
@RebelsHeart
Show threadBritish Tech GuruMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix Children accept everybody's difference. Then we spend years of elementary and highschool teaching prejudice. Then we have to unlearn the prejudice. School needs to be fixed.
Show threadWendy NatherMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix @Nonya_Bidniss I’m tearing up. Lots of love to you.
Show threadTappin LisaMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix
Cheers for you and cheers for the dad! 👏