Melissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

Just had a guy and his two kids in the shop, the oldest was 4 1/2, she told me so proudly ... She had a beautiful lavender cardigan on and matching socks ... I told her I loved that colour, we had a little chat about purple and all the purple things we have ... Then she asked me "are you a girl?" ... I looked at her dad and said can I let her know, he said yes

I crouched down to her level and said "that's a nice question you asked" ... and then said "I was born a boy, yuck, and for many reasons I always felt like a girl" ... Her eyes lit up, and I got a huge hugz and she whispered in my ear, "you're a girl"

I am more than likely the first trans person she has met, I made her feel comfortable and listened to ... one at a time ... Her dad thanked me for being kind.

Never dismiss a childs question, you might feel they are abrupt, they are not, they just want to know

First impression are important

Hugz & xXx

Show threadAndy AyresMay 8, 2023
@melissabeartrix That's a nice one, I'm glad the Dad is open to allowing his childs honest questions to be answered in kind, and I'm glad you felt comfortable answering it. Maybe we can get to a point one day where gender diversity is so normalised that no-one bats an eyelid with kids liek this...
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@andyayres truthfully I was not comfortable... I was like a duck ... Calm above the water and going insane below ... All I want to do is help show the world trans people are cool and just another person ... I do wish I didn't have to do this stuff ... But we have to, put ourselves out there and confront it face on ... Good or bad while hoping for the best ... Hugz & xXx

Hugz & xXx

Show threadTattie (old account)
@melissabeartrix that actually makes me feel more like I could do this myself, I've struggled with social anxiety all my life but I have my moments! Well done on staying calm! ❤️
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May 8, 2023 at 2:03pmWeb
Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

@Tattie @andyayres oh tattie, you can do any what you like ... Just remember that we all love you ... Fronting your fears and anxiety head on is what we all need to do ... Hugz

I have social anxiety too, as I have said many times I am like a duck, cool calm about the water, and below the water my feet are racing a million miles an hour ... And I try when the 'shit' is chucked at me to let it wash off ... Hugz

Just be your best

Hugz & xXx