Melissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️May 8, 2023

Just had a guy and his two kids in the shop, the oldest was 4 1/2, she told me so proudly ... She had a beautiful lavender cardigan on and matching socks ... I told her I loved that colour, we had a little chat about purple and all the purple things we have ... Then she asked me "are you a girl?" ... I looked at her dad and said can I let her know, he said yes

I crouched down to her level and said "that's a nice question you asked" ... and then said "I was born a boy, yuck, and for many reasons I always felt like a girl" ... Her eyes lit up, and I got a huge hugz and she whispered in my ear, "you're a girl"

I am more than likely the first trans person she has met, I made her feel comfortable and listened to ... one at a time ... Her dad thanked me for being kind.

Never dismiss a childs question, you might feel they are abrupt, they are not, they just want to know

First impression are important

Hugz & xXx

Show threadZumbadorMay 8, 2023

@melissabeartrix that is very sweet.

You handled it well.

I have always found it very difficult when children ask me "are you a boy or girl".

It's a perfectly rational and understandable question, but it's hard for me not to hear it as a challenge.

Probably because until relatively recently I didn't know that the answer I wanted to give, "neither", is just as rational, and that there are other people who feel that way too.

Show threadMelissa BearTrix 🏳️‍⚧️

@Zumbador

Thank you ... Hugz

It can be confronting, and sometimes my mind is doing all kinds of flips and flops ... The thing to remember is to stay or give the impression of your calm, even if you are not ... It's not easy to do all the time.

Hugz & xXx

May 8, 2023 at 7:08amWeb