HavenDec 18, 2022
Marc "ACAB" Godin

I'm a cis guy, and I want to write a #transmasc appreciation post, because I've learned a lot from listening to trans masc people.

Navigating masculinity is hard, in ways I never would have thought to articulate, if it weren't for the trans men and nonbinary people exploring and defining their own masculinities.

You guys have shown how to love - others and yourselves - how to be tender, how to show courage, how strength and vulnerability aren't opposites but are instead connected. You've made visible ideas that our society tries really, really hard to keep invisible.

And a lot of you are snappy dressers, too. And why are you all so handsome?

Anyway, just wanted to say I love and appreciate you #transmasculine folks out there. We need you in the world. My world is made better having you in it.

Dec 18, 2022 at 1:27pmWeb
Show threadMarc "ACAB" GodinDec 18, 2022

Okay, this post is getting more traction than I expected. Here is a #mutualaid request from a longtime mutual of mine (hope this works):

https://kolektiva.social/@BadViewsBear@anticapitalist.party/109375332228238484

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Show threadWren BirdieDec 18, 2022

@quietmarc
Thank you Marc… so much for this post. Trans girl here giving you the biggest, tightest virtual hug possible.

The #trans community needs non-trans #Allies who stand up and speak to our humanity.
Thank you… so very much. 🥲

And yes… my #TransBrothers and #TransMasc #Enby siblings are pretty snappy dressers. 😊

Much love to all my trans brothers in the fediverse.

Show threadTaryn de VereDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc what a beautiful post!
Show threadSmittyHalibutDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc co-signed. :-)
Show threadstarDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc I've said this before but also to add on my perspective as a trans woman: after a lifetime of failing masculinity and finding so much misery in it, it's awesome and healing to see people finding so much vitality in something I could never bring myself to want. the trans men I know do such a wonderful job of making masculinity into something new and bright that I wouldn't want to live my life without, living it in ways I wouldn't have thought of
Show threadAkopalypse 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈Dec 20, 2022
@star @quietmarc I feel very similar about my trans sisters (and also my cis sisters and transfem enby siblings) and their femininity. When I was trying to be a woman, I had a very negative, toxic view of femininity. But now that I don't force myself to be a woman anymore, I can finally see the beauty in femininity and can appreciate women much more. And I especially love seeing my trans sisters explore and celebrate their femininity in a way I never could.  
Show threadundead enby of the apocalypseDec 25, 2022
@star @akopalypse @quietmarc it’s the same for me, it warms my heart to see my trans sisters find joy in femininity. I feel like ever since I realized I’m transmasculine I’ve started being able to see women in a completely different light because I no longer assumed they must be suffering like me.
Show threadLen BeltaDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc
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Show threadLokpalDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc
Thank you👏👏👏
Show threadAlexAPagliucaDec 18, 2022

@quietmarc

I'm new to Mastodon, from the birdsite, and I'm EXTREMELY interested and excited to see someone posting something like this. There's so much about masculinity as it's transmitted and imposed that I've long had misgivings and discomfort about, but the last few years have kind of crystalized a lot of why, and I do hope to be able to learn from trans masc (and more trans people, in general) in part because I do think queer people (and trans people especially) go through a reckoning with gender cis people generally never do.

ANYWAY. Thanks for the post, and this is something I wrote a little while ago. I don't post it just to promote my Patreon (everything on it will always be available free), more to just kind of throw up a flag, because I think more cis men need to have these conversations with each other.

https://www.patreon.com/posts/theyre-just-men-75049752

Show threadEvanDec 18, 2022

@quietmarc

This is lovely! I really enjoy conversations with cis men who feel this way - we can learn so much from each other.

I can't comment on why we're all hot AF but you aren't wrong 😂

Show threadJamieGCDec 18, 2022

@quietmarc transmascs don't get enough love and support in trans community, and it's sad.

Any transmascs reading this, feel free to follow me.

Show threadxannaDec 18, 2022
@quietmarc this is lovely
Show threadAnatoly Dec 18, 2022

@quietmarc wow. Thanks. It means a lot. I really needed this today and there might be a bowl of onions in the room somewhere.

It’s easy to feel unappreciated with some of the spicy takes I’ve seen and want to shrink into the background and disappear but this…I could get used to hearing stuff like this lol.

Thank you once again. It means the world. 

Show threadpampelmuseDec 20, 2022

@quietmarc This might be a good place to ask: What is the gender role of a man?

And also: What is a possible male gender role, that is actually good?

Show threadMarc "ACAB" GodinDec 20, 2022

@pampelmuse These are good questions, and I don't know that there is just one answer. Every man will have different ideas about what their gender role is, and, for me at least, those ideas can change over a lifetime.

When I think of men in my life who were good role models, I think of things like, standing up to bullies, I think of "dad jokes", I think of teachers, and I think of being *present*, but none of these things are exclusively male, or even dominantly male.

I wonder, we might not know what a "good male gender role" is, until we build a society that is equal and good for everyone. I think sexism, racism, ableism, colonialism, all twist and distort our ideas of what masculinity is and what it can be. So maybe, for now, the role of masculinity is to question and explore and listen to & learn from others.

Good questions, thank you.

Show threadEmconkster 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈Dec 20, 2022
@quietmarc so happy I woke up to this. Thank you sir, from a very lonely “they”. In Central Florida, there is very little masc community I have found.
Show thread𝐏𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩𝐞 𝘗𝘪𝘵𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 ☾༆༄𓇽᯾✰𓆙𓃠☔︎︎Dec 20, 2022
@quietmarc well said❣️
Show threadAdrian  Dec 20, 2022
@quietmarc As a trans guy, I appreciate this appreciation post. Much love and respect to you as well. 
Show threadundead enby of the apocalypseDec 25, 2022
@quietmarc thank you