Quietly observing
how many people
framed their disagreement with my ASKING if I would have to CW most of my life & activism & daily life
as defense of CW
or defense of #Mastodon culture
or didn’t even read or listen to anything I said
hence proving my point.
Which I made behind a CW out of respect for the community here
by the way.
You cannot truthfully claim you’re not attacking/harassing people just because you dress it up as defense of others.
The extra labor one has to do as a Black person IS the problem.
Having to move to an instance where people understand by default IS the issue.
White people don’t have to find an instance where it’s okay to talk about their daily lives of being white.
Just realized I can’t find my own unlisted posts! So #DisabledBlackTalk will have to do until I find a solution…
Once again. I have no problem with content warnings. My problem isn’t with content warnings OR instances.
And every time you frame the answer or show me the creator of Mastodon’s answer to the content warning issue you’re telling me that you don’t understand what the issue is.
The issue is that there’s no way for me to FREELY BE WHO I AM IN PUBLIC ON #MASTODON WITHOUT HAVING TO HIDE MYSELF.
SAYING I HAVE TO HIDE THINGS ABOUT MYSELF FOR A POPULATION’S COMFORT IS ITSELF PROBLEMATIC.
@Tinu 1000% this. You've nailed it here.
To be in community requires conscious, consensual discussions and willingness to change culture/rules to the member's changing needs. Culture shouldn't be static - it often needs changed.
Folks relying on "this is the culture, deal" are engaging in authoritarian behaviors that oppress and don't actually address our concerns. They aren't willing to be in community with us, which is harmful and exclusionary.
@jdarnold I’m not complaining I’m making an observation that finding abmnither instance is yet another emotional of physical labor instance that white people do not have to do in order to exist.
It adds up. That’s part of what racism is. I’m doing my job,
@Tinu if I'm understanding, the issue is that someone telling you to use a CW is a form of discrimination/silencing. There are some racist undertones that I don't have the context for but the heart of the issue is using CW as a tool to silence others?
nothing about one's public life should be subject to that kind of silencing?
@Tinu Social networks all have their own culture, & the same is true with Mastodon—except it’s a thousand mostly united tribes.
I know on some instances like Counter Social (my profile is @Darnell FWIW), content warnings are rarely used & seem to be ignored.
I usually use content warnings on politics or twitter news as many people here are over exposed to both & prefer not to read any more info about either.
@MortenBay @Tinu @Darnell Heh! I have used content warnings for spoilers or potential spoilers of movies.
I started using them for politics after people complained about being overly saturated with news regarding the super-sized orange Oompa lumpa.
The same for Twitter news too. Aside from those three, I usually do not use content warnings.
I feel this, as a person making an instance for Jews.
In theory, such instances for marginalized or targeted minorities would not be necessary, but that does not solve our immediate needs.
I feel the same, but what I do have is sufficient privilege to:
1. Start such an instance
2. Build tools to make instances safer
3. Share my knowledge with others to empower them to do the same
It’s as I’m saying “I have a problem”
And everyone’s answer is “the solution is that you have a problem.”
This response underlines the point I’m making.
Which is extraordinarily frustrating as it shows those who are answer are not actually listening to what I’ve said before answering.
My problem isn’t with content warnings.
@donniecash818 Apologies not necessary- you didn’t intentionally set out to wrong me and I don’t feel Wronged just Frustrated.
And you helped lead me to the person who created this instance whose name my CLL brain kept blanking on.
So really you did me a favor. Maybe letting the person at the top know that some people (not you!) are using CW to hide casual racism will help.
It occurs to me owners and mods might not be aware of how legit issues are used to hide prejudice.
@Tinu So you went above & beyond to make others comfortable & it sounds like they made it about others?
I don’t know what you have to deal with, but I do want to be in a place that is safe for you to share your experience. Your experience. Please don’t CW.
As someone who has chronic health issues, mental illness & a great deal of trauma, I think it’s important for others to understand that not all struggles are easy to see & we can learn empathy from hearing people’s stories
@Ellinorianne Thank you. The harassment IHave had from both twitter and here in the last hour makes me wonder if a different instance, assuming I can move, is even a temp workaround .
If I’m gonna have strangers yell at me anyway for just talking about my day, what’s the point?
@Tinu
First of all, I’m incredibly sorry that you have to deal with this anywhere. No one should have to hide their personal experiences. As you probably know, the reason you continue to share is because of the people who tell you how much you doing so helps them know they aren’t the only one who struggles.
Abd, you absolutely can move and take all your followers!!! Here :).
https://med-mastodon.com/interact/109310233636780268?type=reply
@Ellinorianne @tiesa As I said to Black people in my audio, the moderators can’t protect you when they only understand the overt level of abuse.
And as I didn’t say, when the larger culture refuses to educate themselves.
We’re living in the result of the result of American culture refusing to reckon with how White Suitemacy harms white people and poor people and gay people and trans people, not just Black people and people of color.
I don’t expect that. 🤷🏾♀️
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