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@Tinu So you went above & beyond to make others comfortable & it sounds like they made it about others?

I don’t know what you have to deal with, but I do want to be in a place that is safe for you to share your experience. Your experience. Please don’t CW.

As someone who has chronic health issues, mental illness & a great deal of trauma, I think it’s important for others to understand that not all struggles are easy to see & we can learn empathy from hearing people’s stories

Tinu - Empress of Twerk Nov 13, 2022

@Ellinorianne Thank you. The harassment IHave had from both twitter and here in the last hour makes me wonder if a different instance, assuming I can move, is even a temp workaround .

If I’m gonna have strangers yell at me anyway for just talking about my day, what’s the point?

https://med-mastodon.com/interact/109310233636780268?type=reply

@Tinu
First of all, I’m incredibly sorry that you have to deal with this anywhere. No one should have to hide their personal experiences. As you probably know, the reason you continue to share is because of the people who tell you how much you doing so helps them know they aren’t the only one who struggles.

Abd, you absolutely can move and take all your followers!!! Here :).

Med-Mastodon

Tinu - Empress of Twerk Nov 13, 2022

@Ellinorianne 💙♥️

Tiesa Meskis Nov 13, 2022

@Tinu @Ellinorianne I really hope we can get a lot of these instances better modded or blocked.
We really need the #Fediverse to not turn into what we all just left.

@tiesa @Tinu I hate to say this, but when you have such a large number of users, it’s nearly impossible. Having been online in different social platforms, I’ve experienced many kinds of harassment. 20 years ago when I was a popular contributor on an huge live journal site, some of the mods decided they didn’t like that because I was ten years older than them. They snooped, found out I had a baby and bullied me to the point of multiple people threatening to call CPS

Tinu - Empress of Twerk Nov 13, 2022

@Ellinorianne @tiesa As I said to Black people in my audio, the moderators can’t protect you when they only understand the overt level of abuse.

And as I didn’t say, when the larger culture refuses to educate themselves.

We’re living in the result of the result of American culture refusing to reckon with how White Suitemacy harms white people and poor people and gay people and trans people, not just Black people and people of color.

I don’t expect that. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Tinu @tiesa I didn’t even address the racism you face. Our country is not going to be ready to tackle this issue until everyone gets okay with being really fucking uncomfortable. That’s it. Too many don’t want to admit they’re racist or that racism exists. If we can’t do this, we can’t work through it or past it. And if we can’t admit it, we can’t change the racism ingrained in many of our institutions, from healthcare to the judicial system.

@Tinu @tiesa I’m sorry we aren’t doing better. People are so blind to their privilege & have no concept of how they benefit from it. I had an argument with a white man last week who didn’t believe that black women are treated differently in professional settings if they wear their hair naturally & that there’s pressure to straighten their hair. He was so insistent that it wasn’t true no matter how much evidence I provided. People just don’t want to see the truth.