Taimi: The Unserious Dating App for Unserious Folks

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2026/03/18/taimi-the-unserious-dating-app-for-unserious-folks/

Taimi appears to me to be desperate for people to connect.

The evidence:

1. Some profiles that show up in your stack of prospects are now time-limited. This appears to be random.

This is stupid. I do not want to be time-pressured into making decisions, and I don't want folks to be time-pressured either. I want to carefully consider my options, and I want folks to do the same.

Ultimately, this time pressure is likely to result in shitty connections.

2. They now show a button at the top of my connection's screen that would send a message to my old connections.

Er...

We disconnected for a reason, you know. If I disconnected from them, I had my reasons. If they disconnected from me, I don't want to bother them.

3. From time to time, it suggests sending a like to all your "curated for you" folks. However, this is sight unseen. I might be sending a like to a lesbian, for all I know. (I'm a male-presenting enby.) This is also likely to result in shitty connections.

Etc...

There's more, but I'm just tired of explaining their bullshit.

Their efforts might have the paradoxical effect of "cheapening connections." If people do not connect carefully, why should you think that a new connection is a serious one?

#Taimi #dating #OnlineDating #DatingApps #stupid #bullshit

🔓 Found critical vulns in Taimi (LGBTQ+ dating app) - all fixed, $10k bounty

What I found:

• "Expiring" videos didn't expire, URLs stayed valid forever
• Decrement attachment ID = anyone's private videos
• Location feature bypassed photo permission checks (why upload a map preview image through the photo system??)
• Fake system messages (made a Raid Shadow Legends sponsorship lol)

The good news: Taimi actually handled this right. Fast response, $10k bounty, everything fixed quickly. No lawyers, no threats.

This is how disclosure should work. Take notes, Lovense.

Full writeup: https://bobdahacker.com/blog/taimi-idor

#InfoSec #BugBounty #ResponsibleDisclosure #IDOR #Taimi #DatingApp #Security #Privacy #CyberSecurity #LGBTQ

Taimi: An LGBTQ+ Dating and Chat App

Taimi became my go-to dating app, but it did not last.

All dating apps suck. All of them. Without exception. So, yes, Taimi sucks too. However, they don’t all suck to the same extent, and thus Taimi, for a brief period of time, became my preferred dating app, dethroning Feeld. Alas, this was not to last.

Let’s go over my demographics. They are relevant as they color my experience on the dating apps. I’m nonbinary, pansexual, polyamorous, autistic. I’m also into BDSM. Please do not make the mistake of thinking that any of these identities implies another. There are plenty of pansexual folks who are not also polyamorous, to take just one example.

In the Google Play Store, Taimi is labeled as a LGBTQ+ Dating and Chat app. True to this label, most of the people on the app are indeed queer. However, you can also find a few cishet folks on the app too. Contrarily to Feeld, Taimi is not specifically geared towards kinky folks. At the end of the day, the difference does not matter much. There are kinky people on Taimi, just not wall-to-wall like on Feeld.

Now, let’s get into the mess of an app that Taimi is.

How It Works… Haha! As If…

I’d like to explain how it works, but any explanation on my part would be pointless. See, the Taimi developers like to use their users as lab rats. Every week, some old features disappear, and some new features appear. Or perhaps I should call these features anti-features, because a lot of them stink badly.

Here’s an example of such an anti-feature. The app presents you with a set of potential connections. You decide which parameters the candidates for connection must have: gender, age, distance, etc. For months, when you ran out of new candidates in your set, the GUI would explicitly suggest that you alter your search parameters to get more matches.

Now, it “helpfully” changes those parameters for you. You don’t do long-distance relationships? Screw that. Now you do. You don’t want to date anyone older than a certain age, or younger than a certain age? Screw that. Now you do.

At first, the app would tell you that it changed the parameters. I complained about this, and now the app changes these parameters without telling you. This is proof positive that Taimi listens to their clients. (This last line was said sarcastically.)

Another anti-feature is that the app now, from time to time, presents you with a slate of people to act on. You can pass on them, or you can all like them at once. However, you cannot look at their profile. Do they live nearby? Are they kinky? Are they compatible with you? Screw you! You cannot know.

There are more anti-features I could talk about, but I do not wish to talk about more of these. I think the anti-features I listed above give you a taste.

Annoyances and Bugs

The bio

Taimi restricts your biography to 500 characters. That’s rather pitiful. Feeld allows 1500 characters, and I find Feeld’s limit rather restrictive. I am of the opinion that such length restrictions smack of ageism. Young folks don’t have much of a life history, but us older folks do. These restrictions stink. If someone wants to infodump about their own life, let them. Maybe someone else will like it.

In addition to the restricted bio size, Taimi deleted my bio twice without warning. This is quite annoying. I regularly run into people who have no bio, but if the app is the one deleting it, I cannot blame them.

Travel

Taimi updates your location when you travel, and does not have the notion of a “home base.” Therefore, it presents the same problem as Feeld. If someone is traveling, and there is no note in their profile about this, you can waste your time with them if one of you is not into long-distance relationships.

I’ve had this problem happen at least twice. One of the person with whom I had started an Instant Chat came back saying that they were just passing through. In another case, I had initiated an Instant Chat with someone. They looked at my message but did not reply, disconnect, or block me. I checked their profile back and found that they were now several states away from me.

Just like with the case of Feeld, from the perspective of the developer, there is no reason to fix this.

Admirers

Their “Admirers” tab is laughable. I found in there someone who had admired me four times, and yet had this in their profile:

I’m fun easy going […] No poly situation. No hookups. CIS gendered men and women only please. Straight men only.

Yeah, I bet that you are “fun” and “easy going.” This person is a good example of the problem with the “bisexual” label. They identified as bisexual, which for them excludes trans folks. I don’t want to keep explaining that my definition does not exclude any gender, so I call myself pansexual.

So, this person, who had admired me four times, would, according to their own profile, not want to be with me because:

• I’m polyamorous.
• I am trans because I transitioned from male to nonbinary.
• I’m not straight.

Then there was this woman around my age who had admired me three times. I read her profile, only to find that she’s not into kink or polyamory.

Similarly, a lesbian had looked at my profile four times, according to Taimi. I’m a male-presenting enby and thus am generally incompatible with lesbians. Finally, I did start an Instant Chat with someone who I might have been compatible with, and which Taimi claimed hat look at my profile three times. They rejected me as soon as they saw my message.

In conclusion, the “Admirers” tab is mostly useless. I’m not going to hazard a guess as to why exactly.

The Ability to Instant Chat

As I mentioned above, Taimi allows you to instantly chat with someone. They do not have to like you back to initiate the possibility of chatting. As soon as you send them a message with instant chat, they can reply.

Now, the ability to instant chat is a limited resource. When I started my trial, I did not pay for a while, but I still was getting once instant chat per week. Then I paid, and I was getting three instant chats per week, but I let my subscription lapse, and now I no longer have any instant chat.

As great as this ability would seem, I’ve had no response whatsoever to the instant chats I’ve sent. By this, I mean that my message was not even read. In one case, I got an instant block, but this is it. So the instant chat feature only seems to be designed to generate revenue for the dating app.

Conclusion

Taimi is a mess of a dating app. They keep changing the features of the app, no doubt in an attempt to maximize their revenue. However, I find this approach off-putting, and it does not make me want to spend any more money on the app.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #DatingApp #lgbtq #OnlineDating #queer #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

Taimi went from my preferred dating app, ahead of Feeld by a hair, to an app I no longer want to use.

The developers achieved this feat by introducing a new "feature." This "feature" works as follows:

If the app notices there aren't many prospects with your search settings, then it "helpfully" changes those settings for you. You do get a little notification when this happens.

WTF happened to letting the user decide what's best for them? Eh?????????????????

WTF??????

I've set the distance within which I want to see prospects to a number that satisfies me. I don't want to have it increased on me by the app.

I DON'T DO LONG DISTANCE.

It's like they dunked the app in skunk juice. I don't want to use it anymore.

#Taimi #dating #OnlineDating #DatingApp #SkunkJuice

Newsflash.... I did not realize this at first, but Taimi has the exact same issue as Feeld with locations.

When you travel, your location changes, whether you want it or not.

The upshot is that when I hit on someone who is "near me", they may just be travelling.

This happened to me just now. Taimi put her close to me. I initiate chat, and she tells me that she's here only until tomorrow.

😕

This... sucks...

#dating #Taimi

I Still Cannot Recommend Feeld

Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen!

I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start of Summer 2025. If I had the same usage for the coming year, my cost would be about $410!

I’ve written an article already about the problems I had with Feeld:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

True to my own advice in that article, I returned to OkCupid. However, this app sucks too. I just had forgotten how much it sucks. I can say that, by and large, there hasn’t been a migration of kinky people to OkCupid. I did find my boyfriend on OkCupid. However, OkCupid was just too irritating for me, and I deleted my account there.

In the article above, I mention how Feeld had a problem with pings not getting through. This was a very serious problem. I’d get a notification that someone pinged me, and I’d tap the notification, but they did now show up among the people who pinged me. This problem has now been fixed.

However, the distance problem I mentioned in the article above remains. This, coupled with the price increase, and a new round of bugs, still keeps me from recommending it. What bugs? Read on.

It has happened twice now that Feeld matched me with people I had not liked. Normally, for a match to occur, both parties have to like each other. It is not possible for someone to just show up as a match if you haven’t liked them.

This first time this happened… I was confused and thought that maybe I had made a mistake somewhere. However, the second time this happened, the individual that showed up was so incompatible with me that I’m 100% sure I did not make a mistake.

What happened?

Did Feeld misdirect one of our likes? Was I supposed to match with someone else and Feeld misdirect the match?

Was Feeld’s display when I was going through the stack of dating prospects messed up and showed me the profile of person A when it meant to show person B? And then when I liked person A, person B got the like?

Did something else happen?

I don’t know. I’ve complained to customer service, but I had no reply.

Then, one recent morning, I got a notification that I had a new connection. I tap the notification, Feeld loaded, and I got a message that it couldn’t load my conversation. When I was able to load my conversations, it told me that the person had left the chat.

Wow… that was fast. Could the person have changed their mind this fast? Yes, they could. However, this is the first time I saw the error message that Feeld gave me. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not. I’m betting on maybe not.

“Why are you assuming, without absolute proof, that it is Feeld’s fault?”

Because of my history with Feeld. If you go read my previous article, you’ll see there was a bug so fucking serious that it demonstratably made me miss some matches. Let me repeat this, some matches that should have happened did not happen because of that bug! This was a major problem, that plagued Feeld for months.

So yes, I am assuming that it is Feeld’s fault, even if I don’t have absolute proof. If my history with a platform shows that it operates erratically, then my future inferences are going to point to its behavior still being erratic.

Finally, they tried to entice me to resubscribe with a 15% off offer. I did not want to resubscribe, but I checked it out nonetheless. Well, I went up to the Google Play screen for renewing my subscription and found that 15% off to be absent. Way to go, Feeld!

Moreover, after my subscription ended, I’m getting a suspiciously high number of people who like me without a ping. Since I no longer pay, I cannot see their likes. Yes, I used to get likes from deadbeats who didn’t read my profile even when I was paying, but the quantity and frequency of these makes me wonder whether Feeld is paying for some dunces to like people who don’t pay so that these people will subscribe to see who liked them. This hypothetical stratagem won’t work on me.

I’d like to be able to recommend Feeld. I used to say that it was the least terrible app of a terrible bunch, because, yes, all the dating apps are terrible. However, I cannot in good conscience recommend it, to anyone, in any demographics.

What are the alternatives? I’m only going to talk about those platforms that I consider could be alternatives to Feeld. If I do not talk about some platform in this article, then I do not consider it to be a viable alternative.

Taimi

Taimi is a platform for LGBTQ+ dating. I plan to publish a more extensive review of it in the future. For now, suffice to say that Taimi has become my go-to dating app. It is not perfect, all the dating apps are terrible, but it is decent, and definitely better than Feeld. I’ve made some nice matches on this app.

Masked Kink

Masked Kink is a platform for people into kink or BDSM. It definitely is not great. The geographic search leaves me with no matches within 1000 miles of where I live. However, this app has several bugs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if the geographical search is buggy too. As a matter of fact, I’d be surprised if it weren’t buggy.

One of its bugs is extremely vexing. I managed to be liked by a scammer. I did a reverse image search on their dating profile picture, and found a hit on Threads. Then, I quickly discovered their YouTube channel and their OnlyFans page. I wanted to report this scammer, but try as I may, the UI would not let me submit my report. Tapping on the submit button did nothing.

I plan to let my subscription to Masked Kink lapse when it ends.

KinkD

KinkD was already rather inactive when I left it about a year ago. I came back to it for two or three weeks recently. It is now completely dead. I sent messages to easily eight people. Nothing whatsoever happened. They did not even log into the system to check their messages. KinkD was not worth my money when I first went there, now it is not worth my money and my time. I uninstalled.

KinkD is also a great example of how Google reviews are largely worthless on their face. It has a rating of 4.4 as we speak, and keeps getting glowing reviews. I’d bet a leg and an arm that these are fake.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #MaskedKink #OnlineDating #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

Newsflash:

Feeld is no longer my go-to dating app. I've let my subscription lapse, and I don't plan to buy more from it.

Taimi is my new go to dating app. I'm going to have a review of it at some point.

Right now, I'm writing a second article about the foibles of Feeld. It's taking a bit to come out because I'm literally swimming in likes on Taimi.  

#dating #OnlineDating #Feeld #Taimi