From Guilt and Shame
to Self-Compassion

By Myra Walden

"Are feelings of guilt and shame necessary to learn from mistakes? I believe they are not. We have been conditioned to think that these emotions are valuable to help people grow. In reality, they contribute to low self-esteem and can result in depression, anxiety, addictions, and troubled relationships. Sometimes, we become mired in a cycle of self-condemnation followed by self-justification. Or we get stuck in self-judgment indefinitely. At times, we defend against guilt and shame by denying responsibility for our actions in an attempt to preserve self-respect.

I propose that the natural mechanism for learning from mistakes is regret, which leads to mourning and growth. Nonviolent Communication provides us with an elegant process to learn from actions we lament."

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6801d7f802a8f25fbd77f6c4/t/696b6e73ca1c533485921b53/1768648307468/From+Guilt+%26+Shame+-+1.10.26+.pdf

#NVC #guilt #shame

It's usually a cock-up, not a conspiracy.

Human beings are generally very stupid, and only achieve anything through trial and error and an ever-growing degree of specialisation.

If we don't have a standard of expecting errors to have been made in good faith, firstly the detail of the errors goes uncorrected, and secondly conflicts are assumed to be Machiavellian manipulations for private interests. #NVC #PleaseExplain

Listas de sentimientos y necesidades para comunicación no Violenta puedes descargarlas en PDF para imprimir en narrativaconsciente.com

#cnv #comunicacionnoviolenta #nvc

Steady in the Storm - Conflict resilient Communication

Jan 17 & 18 2026, online

"Conflict is inevitable. What matters is how we respond to it.

This session will enable you to:

feel more confident to communicate in conflict situations without blame, shame or judgement.
take inner steps to transform conflict
transform enemy images and humanise the other
intervene safely in situations of conflict
be more resourced in tense situations
stay grounded in empathic expression and empathic listening in tense situations

The session will involve reflection, discussion, practice and role play."

https://app.workshop-angel.com/form.php?h=1&t=0&e=ee3613e8890517ba

#NVC

I always find it interesting to come back to #NVC (non-violent communication), it has some interesting nuances as its "prophet" Marshall B. Rosenberg taught about it.

For example #anger and #shame

What’s a “cluster”? Oak Ridge National Laboratory has installed the presumably-first on-premises commercial quantum computer cluster, consisting of 3 quantum dragons... I mean computers... from Quantum Brilliance, and that could mean a few different things. So, I asked for clarification.

https://bsiegelwax.substack.com/p/ornls-dragon-cluster

#QuantumComputing #QuantumBrilliance #ORNL #HybridQuantum #DistributedQuantum #QuantumCluster #OnPremQuantum #NVC #QuantumHardware #QuantumAlgorithms #QuantumResearch #FutureOfComputing

During some peerTube browsing, I stumbled upon this #NVC explanation Video:
https://tube-action-educative.apps.education.fr/w/bdYfekHah4t1wsUhtok7tP

I've never seen a video that I found to be such a modern and entertaining take on explaining the basics of nonviolent communication.

I'm happy to share this because nonviolent communication has brought so much richness to my life and I love how this video makes that accessible to more people