https://bookwyrm.social/book/299684/s/many-voices-one-song-shared-power-with-sociocracy
#Sociocracy #Organizations #NVC #SystemsTheory #Coop
Sarah Peyton: Intro: How to heal Trauma with Self-Resonance (6min)

@Noortjevee
Rewards are just as detrimental to growth as punishments are.
Justine Mol wrote a nice booklet about that, all based on Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent Communication -- https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/opgroeien-in-vertrouwen/1001004002487340/
From Guilt and Shame
to Self-Compassion
By Myra Walden
"Are feelings of guilt and shame necessary to learn from mistakes? I believe they are not. We have been conditioned to think that these emotions are valuable to help people grow. In reality, they contribute to low self-esteem and can result in depression, anxiety, addictions, and troubled relationships. Sometimes, we become mired in a cycle of self-condemnation followed by self-justification. Or we get stuck in self-judgment indefinitely. At times, we defend against guilt and shame by denying responsibility for our actions in an attempt to preserve self-respect.
I propose that the natural mechanism for learning from mistakes is regret, which leads to mourning and growth. Nonviolent Communication provides us with an elegant process to learn from actions we lament."
So:
*If you don't assume competence, you don't have to assume malice.*
It may sound naive, and no one wants to be thought naive. But it's a better way to relate to people and to do politics more sincerely. And a more diplomatic way to hold others and oneself to an aspirational standard; and more likely to be accurate.
On the other hand, institutions are self-serving and often don't act according to their stated purpose, so don't assume they react to humans in a human way. Both humans and institutions do what they need to survive. The mistakes of humans may strengthen concentrated institutional power.
It's usually a cock-up, not a conspiracy.
Human beings are generally very stupid, and only achieve anything through trial and error and an ever-growing degree of specialisation.
If we don't have a standard of expecting errors to have been made in good faith, firstly the detail of the errors goes uncorrected, and secondly conflicts are assumed to be Machiavellian manipulations for private interests. #NVC #PleaseExplain
Listas de sentimientos y necesidades para comunicación no Violenta puedes descargarlas en PDF para imprimir en narrativaconsciente.com
Steady in the Storm - Conflict resilient Communication
Jan 17 & 18 2026, online
"Conflict is inevitable. What matters is how we respond to it.
This session will enable you to:
feel more confident to communicate in conflict situations without blame, shame or judgement.
take inner steps to transform conflict
transform enemy images and humanise the other
intervene safely in situations of conflict
be more resourced in tense situations
stay grounded in empathic expression and empathic listening in tense situations
The session will involve reflection, discussion, practice and role play."
https://app.workshop-angel.com/form.php?h=1&t=0&e=ee3613e8890517ba
I've been working through this one again gradually as a complement to the MMTCP Training I'm doing and in which the practice of #RAIN features quite prominently. Now that I have more practice under my belt, I'm struck by how versatile the practice truly is and how it not only is connected to other practices (such as #tonglen, and, less explicitly, Nonviolent Communication #NVC), but also complements and is complemented by these same practices.
#MMTCP #TaraBrach #NonviolentCommunication #mindfulness #compassion
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