Bryan KingFeb 28

The Root You’ve Been Feeding

545 words, 3 minutes read time.

Scripture

“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” — Hebrews 12:15 (NIV)

Reflection

Have you ever been wounded while trying to serve God—not in the world, but inside the church?

Maybe you offered your gifts and got redirected. Maybe you poured yourself into something and leadership dismissed it. Maybe it happened years ago, and you’ve told yourself you’re past it. But late at night, when you’re honest, the wound still throbs.

I know because I’ve carried that root too.

Years ago I sat across from church elders and explained the technical gifts God had given me—web development, media, digital outreach. Instead of encouragement, I was gently pushed into children’s ministry. “We need faithful men down there,” they said. The rejection stung. I left that church quietly, told myself I’d moved on.

But I hadn’t. The bitterness stayed buried, feeding silently on replayed memories and quiet resentment.

That’s how a root of bitterness works. It doesn’t announce itself. It grows underground, hidden beneath faithful service and Sunday smiles. And Scripture warns it doesn’t stay contained—it “causes trouble” and “defiles many.” Your wife senses the distance. Your prayers feel hollow. You teach forgiveness while withholding it.

The double life is exhausting.

Here’s what I’ve learned: the root thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light breaks its power. Confession to God, to a trusted brother, to your wife—that’s where healing begins. And praying for the person who hurt you, not because you feel like it but in obedience, loosens the grip.

You don’t need their apology. You don’t need vindication. You just need to release it.

And brother—your gifts don’t need anyone’s permission. God gave them to you. He can use them anywhere.

Application

This week, name the wound out loud—to God, to a trusted brother, or in your journal. Stop letting it feed in the dark.

Prayer

Father, I confess I’ve been carrying bitterness I was never meant to bear. Forgive me for nursing this wound instead of surrendering it. Give me the courage to name it and the obedience to pray for the one who hurt me. Heal what this root has poisoned. Restore my joy. Amen.

Reflection Questions

  • Is there a wound I’ve never fully named or confessed? What happened?
  • How has this bitterness shaped how I serve, pray, or relate to others?
  • Who do I need to forgive—not because they earned it, but in obedience to Christ?
  • Have I been waiting for human permission to use the gifts God gave me?
  • Who is one trusted person I can confess this to this week?

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    D. Bryan King

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    The views and opinions expressed in this post are solely those of the author. The information provided is based on personal research, experience, and understanding of the subject matter at the time of writing. Readers should consult relevant experts or authorities for specific guidance related to their unique situations.

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    Bryan KingJan 31

    Overcoming the Nicolaitans

    860 words, 5 minutes read time.

    Revelation 2:6–7 (NIV) “But you have this in your favor: You hate the practices of the Nicolaitans, which I also hate. Whoever has ears, let them hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To the one who is victorious, I will give the right to eat from the tree of life, which is in the paradise of God.”

    I used to think the mention of the Nicolaitans in Revelation 2 was just a historical footnote. A strange name, a brief condemnation, and that was it. But the more I’ve lived and the more I’ve seen in the church, the more I realize this short verse is one of the most piercing warnings—and one of the most hopeful promises—in all of Scripture.

    The Nicolaitans (likely meaning “conquerors of the people”) represent the spirit that seeks to lord it over God’s people instead of serving them. It shows up when leaders or systems silence gifts, control contributions, and push people into “safe” roles that fit the hierarchy rather than the needs of the body. It’s the voice that says, “You’re not good enough,” or “We already have someone for that,” even when your skills could serve the kingdom in powerful ways.

    Modern-Day Targets of the Nicolaitans

    This spirit isn’t stuck in the first century—it’s alive and well today. Here are some common ways it targets believers:

    • Talented outsiders like you and me: Creative people (programmers, artists, writers) who offer real solutions but get sidelined because they don’t fit the “approved” inner circle. Your gifts are seen as a threat to the status quo.
    • Questioners and reformers: Anyone who asks “Why do we do it this way?” or suggests improvements. They’re often labeled “divisive” or “unsubmissive” to shut them down.
    • The overlooked majority: Everyday members who want to serve but are funneled into low-visibility roles (setup, cleaning) while a few “stars” get all the platform time.
    • The wounded and weary: People hurt by past church experiences who are tempted to give up entirely. The Nicolaitan spirit whispers, “You’re not needed here—or anywhere.”
    • The LGBT+ community: Individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or other sexual and gender minorities. Many have been told they are “not welcome,” “not good enough,” or “too sinful” to participate fully in church life, even when they sincerely seek Christ. The Nicolaitan spirit often uses moral superiority or rigid gatekeeping to exclude them, rather than meeting them with grace, truth, and the invitation to follow Jesus.

    If you’ve felt targeted, know this: It’s not about your worth. It’s about a system that values control over Christ’s body.

    I’ve felt that sting personally. As a web programmer, I’ve offered my gifts to churches—only to be gently (or not so gently) redirected to volunteer tasks that kept me on the sidelines. It hurt. It made me question my worth. And I know I’m not alone. Many of us have been made to feel like our talents don’t fit the approved structure.

    But here’s the red meat of this passage: Jesus doesn’t stop at “I hate what they do.” He immediately turns to the promise to the overcomer.

    The Nicolaitans are not the enemy we’re supposed to spend our lives fighting. They are the obstacle we’re called to overcome.

    Jesus is saying: “I see the pain. I hate the control. I hate the rejection. Now rise above it. Don’t let their system define your calling. Don’t let their ‘no’ silence your gifts. Use what I’ve given you—whether inside the walls or outside them. Keep serving Me. Keep building. Keep loving. You are an overcomer. And the tree of life is waiting for you.”

    Reflection Questions

  • Where have you felt like a “target” of the Nicolaitan spirit in your church experience?
  • How might recognizing these modern tactics help you overcome them?
  • What gifts has God given you that you can use today—regardless of who approves?

    • Prayer

    Lord Jesus, You walk among Your churches and You see everything. You know the pain of being sidelined, the sting of being told I’m “not good enough.” Thank You for hating what hurts Your people. Help me identify and overcome the Nicolaitan spirit in my life—whether it’s in a church system or in my own doubts. Give me courage to use the gifts You’ve placed in me, even if it’s outside the approved structures. May I stay faithful, keep my first love, and overcome—not by fighting people, but by trusting You. I look forward to the day I eat from the tree of life in Your paradise. In Your name, Amen.

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    Author’s Note:

    The identity and exact teachings of the Nicolaitans remain debated among scholars. Some link them to moral compromise (sexual immorality and idolatry, as suggested by the “doctrine of Balaam” in Revelation 2:14–15), while others see the name as symbolic of hierarchical control and domination over God’s people. Regardless of the precise interpretation, the core issue is clear: Jesus hates anything that harms, controls, or leads His church astray. This devotional focuses on the spirit of exclusion and abuse of authority that still appears in churches today, while affirming that Christ calls all to repentance, grace, and overcoming through Him.

    D. Bryan King

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    The views and opinions expressed in this post are solely those of the author. The information provided is based on personal research, experience, and understanding of the subject matter at the time of writing. Readers should consult relevant experts or authorities for specific guidance related to their unique situations.

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