Bryan KingFeb 28

The Root You’ve Been Feeding

545 words, 3 minutes read time.

Scripture

“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” — Hebrews 12:15 (NIV)

Reflection

Have you ever been wounded while trying to serve God—not in the world, but inside the church?

Maybe you offered your gifts and got redirected. Maybe you poured yourself into something and leadership dismissed it. Maybe it happened years ago, and you’ve told yourself you’re past it. But late at night, when you’re honest, the wound still throbs.

I know because I’ve carried that root too.

Years ago I sat across from church elders and explained the technical gifts God had given me—web development, media, digital outreach. Instead of encouragement, I was gently pushed into children’s ministry. “We need faithful men down there,” they said. The rejection stung. I left that church quietly, told myself I’d moved on.

But I hadn’t. The bitterness stayed buried, feeding silently on replayed memories and quiet resentment.

That’s how a root of bitterness works. It doesn’t announce itself. It grows underground, hidden beneath faithful service and Sunday smiles. And Scripture warns it doesn’t stay contained—it “causes trouble” and “defiles many.” Your wife senses the distance. Your prayers feel hollow. You teach forgiveness while withholding it.

The double life is exhausting.

Here’s what I’ve learned: the root thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light breaks its power. Confession to God, to a trusted brother, to your wife—that’s where healing begins. And praying for the person who hurt you, not because you feel like it but in obedience, loosens the grip.

You don’t need their apology. You don’t need vindication. You just need to release it.

And brother—your gifts don’t need anyone’s permission. God gave them to you. He can use them anywhere.

Application

This week, name the wound out loud—to God, to a trusted brother, or in your journal. Stop letting it feed in the dark.

Prayer

Father, I confess I’ve been carrying bitterness I was never meant to bear. Forgive me for nursing this wound instead of surrendering it. Give me the courage to name it and the obedience to pray for the one who hurt me. Heal what this root has poisoned. Restore my joy. Amen.

Reflection Questions

  • Is there a wound I’ve never fully named or confessed? What happened?
  • How has this bitterness shaped how I serve, pray, or relate to others?
  • Who do I need to forgive—not because they earned it, but in obedience to Christ?
  • Have I been waiting for human permission to use the gifts God gave me?
  • Who is one trusted person I can confess this to this week?

    • Call to Action

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    D. Bryan King

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    Bryan KingMay 31, 2025

    Walking in Forgiveness: How Letting Go of Past Hurts Frees Your Soul

    881 words, 5 minutes read time.

    We all carry scars. Some fade with time, others remain tender reminders of wounds that haven’t fully healed. Maybe someone betrayed your trust, spoke words that pierced deep, or simply wasn’t there when you needed them most. Forgiveness, in these cases, feels impossible—or even unjust. But God’s Word tells us that forgiveness isn’t about excusing the wrong. It’s about choosing freedom over bondage. In today’s devotional, we’ll walk together into the liberating, though often difficult, process of forgiving others and releasing the grip of past hurts.

    Scripture:

    “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” — Colossians 3:13 (NIV)

    Reflection/Teaching:

    Colossians 3:13 is both comforting and confronting. It comforts us by reminding us that God has forgiven us freely and fully through Christ. Yet, it also challenges us to do the same for others. Forgiveness isn’t natural; it’s spiritual. In our own strength, we hold onto pain thinking it protects us. But in reality, it only poisons us. As the saying goes, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

    Jesus modeled radical forgiveness. While nailed to the cross—abandoned, mocked, and physically broken—He prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). If the Savior of the world could extend grace in His darkest hour, how can we, as His followers, withhold it?

    This doesn’t mean forgetting the pain or allowing repeated abuse. Forgiveness is not reconciliation; it’s a one-sided spiritual release that hands the offense over to God. As believers, we’re not called to ignore justice, but to trust God with it. Romans 12:19 reminds us, “Do not take revenge…leave room for God’s wrath.”

    Many people carry bitterness like a badge of protection. But Hebrews 12:15 warns that a “root of bitterness” can grow and defile many. When we harbor unforgiveness, we block the flow of God’s peace, joy, and love in our lives. We essentially give power to those who hurt us, allowing them to influence our thoughts, decisions, and even relationships. Walking in forgiveness is about reclaiming that power by surrendering the pain to God.

    Letting go is a journey. It’s okay if it takes time. Some wounds require daily surrender. But with each step, we become more like Christ—freer, lighter, and more available to love others with open hands and an open heart.

    Application:

    Are you holding onto pain that God is asking you to release today? Take a moment to identify a name, a face, or a memory that still stings. Instead of stuffing it down or pretending it’s gone, bring it into the light of Christ’s love. Say the person’s name out loud and choose to forgive—not because they deserve it, but because you want to walk in freedom.

    Consider journaling your feelings, speaking with a trusted Christian counselor, or praying with a friend. Set healthy boundaries if needed, but keep your heart tender before God. Forgiveness may start with a decision, but it grows as a process.

    Today, choose freedom over fury, peace over pain, healing over hatred. You may not feel ready—but you can take the first step. Trust that God will carry you the rest of the way.

    Prayer:

    Father, I come before You with the weight of wounds I’ve carried for too long. You see the pain. You know the names, the moments, the scars. Today, I surrender them to You. Teach me to forgive as You have forgiven me. I release the bitterness and ask You to fill my heart with Your peace. Heal what is broken, restore what has been lost, and help me walk forward in grace. I trust You with justice. I trust You with healing. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    Closing Thoughts / Call to Action:

    Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door to peace. It may not change your past, but it can radically transform your future. Let today be the start of a new chapter—one marked by grace, not grudges.

    If this message spoke to your heart, we invite you to stay connected. Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly devotionals, encouragement, and biblical wisdom to support your walk with Christ. You’re not alone—let’s grow in grace together.

    D. Bryan King

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    The views and opinions expressed in this post are solely those of the author. The information provided is based on personal research, experience, and understanding of the subject matter at the time of writing. Readers should consult relevant experts or authorities for specific guidance related to their unique situations.

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