Steve Dustcircle 🌹Aug 15, 2025

Decoding the #Avoidant: What Your #Partner Isn’t Saying Out Loud

Solve the everlasting puzzle.

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/decoding-the-avoidant-what-your-partner-isnt-saying-out-loud/

Steve Dustcircle 🌹Jun 26, 2025

This is What #Avoidant People Wish You Knew

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdwhmZx6DWo

You want to let people in—truly, you do—but every time #closeness feels too real, something inside whispers, be careful. For those who feel avoidant, #connection is both the thing they crave and the thing that terrifies them most. It’s not #coldness; it’s #selfprotection shaped by fear of #rejection, #pastwounds, and #emotions that sometimes feel too big to carry.

This is What Avoidant People Wish You Knew

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Steve Dustcircle 🌹May 31, 2025

How to Keep Your #Partner From Becoming More #Avoidant

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-freedom-to-change/202505/how-to-keep-your-partner-from-becoming-more-avoidant

How to Keep Your Partner From Becoming More Avoidant

People might back off from a new partner if they introduce too much emotion into a relationship too early.

Psychology Today
Steve Dustcircle 🌹May 11, 2025

#Perfectionism in #Avoidant #PersonalityDisorder

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/perfectionism/202505/perfectionism-in-avoidant-personality-disorder

Perfectionism in Avoidant Personality Disorder

Those with avoidant personalities tend to use perfectionism to delay decisions, telling themselves that they'll only be able to make meaningful choices when they're perfect.

Psychology Today
Proto Himbo EuropeanJan 16, 2025

Being a psychologist on the internet can be frustrating.

4/4: (adult) Attachment (theory)

#psychology #poppsychology #pseudoscience #language #terminology #frustration #ackshully #attachment #secure #insecure #anxious #avoidant #anxiousavoidant #bowlby #ainsworth #crying

Saipher ZuretiDec 4, 2023
Therefore, they're afraid of committing to another person because if they ever truly open up and be vulnerable with another person, that person would then be able to hurt them. The tragedy is in the fact that without vulnerability we can't truly experience love. And what is life without love?
#attachmentstyle #attachment #anxiousavoidant #avoidant #anxious #fear #emotionalunavailability #loops #cycles #relationships #dating #vulnerability #intimacy #love #commitment #emotionalmaturity #trauma
Saipher ZuretiDec 4, 2023
They believe that they're protecting their heart by chasing after the emotionally unavailable person because they'll never get close enough or be vulnerable enough to truly be hurt by them. Their only sense of security is in isolation because they believe that they can't be hurt if they're not attached to anyone.
#attachmentstyle #attachment #anxiousavoidant #avoidant #anxious #fear #emotionalunavailability #loops #cycles #relationships #dating #fear #vulnerability #intimacy #trauma #chaser
Saipher ZuretiDec 4, 2023
Those who are stuck in Anxious Avoidant loops continuously look for emotionally unavailable people, because they're also emotionally unavailable. There's a desire to obtain the unobtainable in order to validate their worthiness. On a core level, their higher self knows that it will never work and that a relationship with the emotionally unavailable person would be unhealthy.
#attachmentstyle #attachment #anxiousavoidant #avoidant #anxious #emotionalunavailability #loops #cycles #relationships
Pascal VrtickaSep 5, 2023

#AttachmentQandA (8):

#Attachment and #SexDifferences

ANSWER SUMMARY
▶️Some sex differences have been observed (♂️ less #secure / more #avoidant; ♀️ more #anxious), but researchers disagree on their robustness & prevalence

➡️Complete answer: https://pvrticka.com/attachment-qanda/

@SoNeAtLab

Attachment Q & A

Unfortunately, there is lots of confusion and misinformation about attachment theory and research circulating at the moment. Dr Vrticka has recently written about it in VICE and in The Conversation…

Dr Pascal Vrticka (PhD, FHEA)
Haelus NovakAug 16, 2023
Yesterday I spent a long time having fun playing #aranockonline. I want to do it today again, but the weird guilt of #toxicproductivity (maybe it's something else?) makes me feel #disinterested and #avoidant. Also it's very #hot in this house outside the room with the AC. I might make a tanky char to complement my #mage. Maybe I could get my partner to help me complete some labyrinths that I will struggle to solve alone. But it can also be a lot of work to get a char going, so idk. I'm feeling sorta #sleepy after #therapy. The therapist referred me to some #ADHD assessment places. I didn't bring it up before because I'm afraid of being one of the people who are hunting for some trendy diagnosis. I know I emailed them just like 40 minutes ago and it's #lunch break and they're probably booked like a month out, but I'm #impatient for a response. ⌚😮‍💨