Therefore, they're afraid of committing to another person because if they ever truly open up and be vulnerable with another person, that person would then be able to hurt them. The tragedy is in the fact that without vulnerability we can't truly experience love. And what is life without love?
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They believe that they're protecting their heart by chasing after the emotionally unavailable person because they'll never get close enough or be vulnerable enough to truly be hurt by them. Their only sense of security is in isolation because they believe that they can't be hurt if they're not attached to anyone.
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Those who are stuck in Anxious Avoidant loops continuously look for emotionally unavailable people, because they're also emotionally unavailable. There's a desire to obtain the unobtainable in order to validate their worthiness. On a core level, their higher self knows that it will never work and that a relationship with the emotionally unavailable person would be unhealthy.
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