Das „Amt für Soziales und Jugend, Abteilung Hilfen für Schwerbehinderung“ der Stadt Düsseldorf schreibt mir, ich solle mitteilen, wer zu meinem „Autismusleiden“ Auskunft geben könne.

Ich vermute, sie meinen einen Weißkittel. Weil ich selbst ja so gar keine Ahnung davon haben kann.

Was darf ich ausrichten?

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Unwritten Rules of Conversation

i have never understood any of the unwritten rules of conversation that neurotypical (and many neurodivergent!) people follow, and even though i’m 56 years old i have only this past year started trying to write down what i have been able to figure out on my own. Most of these things come from making the same mistake over and over and over again until the pattern finally becomes clear. i am going to post them here and update this post over time as i learn more rules. Maybe this will help someone else someday.

• Do not talk about suicide with anyone other than a therapist. It will be perceived as manipulation. Even if i think someone cares for me or that they might understand from personal experience, do not discuss it. It will only lead to them feeling hurt. Maybe it’s OK to talk about it in support groups where suicide really is a common thing.
• Do not discuss ideas that come into my head during a conversation, no matter how lighthearted or unimportant they may be. It will be perceived as arguing.
• Do not try to express empathy for someone by relating their experience to one of my own. It will be perceived as “making things about myself”.
• Do not offer explanations for your behavior. That will be interpreted as “making excuses”. If someone insists on an explanation the you must preface it with a statement such as “this is not an excuse” which will probably be ignored anyway. The only safe thing to do is apologize without any explanations.
• Say “You’re right” instead of “I know”.
• Unsolicited advice is criticism.
• Saying what i would do in a situation is perceived as the same thing as giving advice.

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UPDATE: landlady agreed to shift the DL to 10 Dec, so it means more time to build up anxiety by then 🥹👍🏻

🚨 2k by 10 Dec 🚨 Hopefully this can be met a lot sooner. I can't live with this much anxiety.
🏠 600 for December's essentials (incl. utilities + meds + internet, etc)

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You may recall that I sporadically make and release music. Well, I just released the latest song that I've been working on, an ode to neurodivergent love, over on Bandcamp:

https://willalalonde.bandcamp.com/track/quirky

#music #FediMusic #BedroomPop #indietronica #ActuallyAustistic #NeurodivergentMusic

Brigitte Podcast „Meno an mich“ zum Thema „Unentdeckter Autismus bei Frauen - Diagnose in der Lebensmitte“.

Meine Kollegin Christa Koentges und ich waren zu Gast. 😊

https://www.podcast.de/episode/694404211/unentdeckter-autismus-bei-frauen-diagnose-in-der-lebensmitte

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@autistics

I want a world that does more than accept differences.

I want a world that honours diversity so much, we birth structures that support #neurodivergent and #disabled people to *be*, to emerge what and how they wish to live with *zero* consideration of *worth*.

For this to happen, *all* must drop the idea of demonstrating worth. Neurotypical, neurodivergent, abled, disabled.

By freeing us, you free yourselves.

Until I am free, you are not free either. (Fannie Lou Hamer)

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