Heading to Ireland for the next week - obligations rather than an actual break. My kids need to occasionally visit my late wife's family*. I'm looking forward to catching up with some old friends while there.
*I still don't have a good vocabulary to talk about them. Technically, they're not my family any more, but they are my kids'. #widowhood
The way that Erika Kirk is criticised, across the political spectrum, illustrates a deep, deep misogyny in our narratives of widows and #widowhood.
(In the US and UK at least, and probably more broadly).
I'm not sure yous non-widows are even seeing it. And I wish you would.
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Every once in a while when I'm talking to a woman about my day to day life raising three kids as a widower they say something like "Now you know how women have it." or "That's the part that you don't see as a man."
To which my internal response is "WTF?! Fuck you." #soloDad #widowhood
Becoming widowed at 28 taught me something no one ever has. Not a parent, sibling, cousin. Grandmother. ANYONE. It’s that wisdom does not end where grief begins. Wisdom is what holds you through the grief. The sorrow. The detriment. The discord. The tears. Wisdom is what leads you to happiness — to the well that overflows when you open yourself up to love again.
Most long-term couples have never talked about what happens when one of them is gone. The widowhood effect is real — and it shows up fast. Three practical ways to prepare while you still have time.
#widowhood #widowhoodeffect #retirement #retirementplanning #retirementlife #losingaspouse
https://www.retirereinvented.com/how-to-love-someone-and-still-plan-for-life-without-them/
The death of a long-term partner is one of the greatest fears we can have. Eventually, either your partner will die first or you will. Refusing to acknowledge this doesn't make it less true; it just makes us less prepared. The Risk Nobody Wants to Talk About When we lose a partner, there is a The widowhood effect is real — and most couples aren't ready for it. Here are three practical ways to prepare for life without your partner.
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#Gaza #Palestine #GazaMutualAid #MutualAidRequest #StandWithGaza #GazaNeedsHelp #Widowhood
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