"If you like something your friend is doing, promote it online. It doesn't matter if you have a big following. It's a gesture, it takes 0.5 seconds, and it matters more than you probably realize."

#new #etiquette #share #classic

https://www.thecut.com/article/tipping-rules-etiquette-rules.html

#SaveYouAClick: Author thinks it is rude, but fuck 'em. If you need to lie to get out of some extroverts' overenthusiastic invitation, lie away and keep your peace. I've got no problem doing it if need be, or better yet, fucking say no. No is a full word.

> Is It Really Rude to Lie About Being Busy to Get Out of Something? https://www.rd.com/article/etiquette-lying-about-being-busy/

#etiquette #manners #StuffAboutLife

Even when people are being harsh, it's a training ground for us to test our nicety, Quentin exactly knows that.
wow, I guess we had this much of civility and responsiveness from the earlier freedomscientific, @BlazieTech and David Holladay times.
I am young, so I don't know much of the Blind tech history.
so chime in about Blindness and low vision companies that are charitable, shows community love, open and friendly towards their competitors and always respect users even when the users are hharsh or disagrees with them.
context, read the whole thread here, https://nvda-addons.groups.io/g/nvda-addons/topic/new_official_nvda_users_email/113963757

#nvda #etiquette #civil #screenReader #Blind

It’s Not Always Personal: Managing Expectations in Friendship

Have you ever noticed how quickly we assume something is personal when someone doesn’t meet an expectation we had?

A message goes unanswered for longer than we hoped.
A friend cancels plans.
Someone doesn’t react to a gift, favor, or gesture in the way we imagined.

It’s easy in those moments to jump to a familiar conclusion: If they wanted to, they would.

I understand why that idea resonates with people. We all want to feel valued and prioritized by the people in our lives.

We also live in a world where communication is instant and expectations are high. Everyone seems to have a phone within reach at all times, messages arrive immediately, and responses often come just as quickly. Because of that, delays can feel more significant than they actually are.

When something doesn’t happen the way we expected, it’s natural to search for meaning.

But often, the story we tell ourselves isn’t actually the truth.

Most of the time, it isn’t about appreciation—or lack thereof—at all.

It’s just logistics.

Life is full of variables we don’t see from the outside. People are balancing work, family obligations, transportation challenges, financial realities, and responsibilities that don’t show up in a social media feed or a text thread.

Then, of course, there are the things that none of us can plan for. Health issues. Funerals. Emergencies. Loose ends that have to be tied up before you can move forward. Suddenly the timeline that existed in someone’s head doesn’t match the timeline reality handed you.

Sometimes a delayed response isn’t indifference—it’s exhaustion.

Sometimes a missed plan isn’t disrespect—it’s a scheduling conflict, a childcare issue, or simply a day that got away from someone.

Sometimes a thoughtful gesture isn’t acknowledged right away because the recipient is navigating circumstances that make even simple tasks more complicated than they appear.

Sometimes the delay isn’t about appreciation—or lack thereof—at all.

It’s just logistics.

And perhaps sometimes we need greater awareness of our own unrealistic expectations.

Part of the problem is that humans tend to interpret other people’s behavior as a reflection of their character or their feelings about us, rather than considering the circumstances they might be dealing with. Psychologists refer to this cognitive bias as the fundamental attribution error.

In other words, when something doesn’t happen the way we expected, we assume meanings that may have nothing to do with reality. We assume intention where there may only be circumstance.

Without context, our minds start filling in the blanks. Maybe they don’t care. Maybe they’re ignoring me.
Maybe the friendship isn’t what I thought it was.

But the truth is often much less dramatic. Most people are doing the best they can with the time, resources, and energy available to them in that moment.

When we assume the worst—like “if they wanted to, they would”—we unintentionally flatten the complexity of other people’s lives. We reduce real human circumstances to a simple narrative about intention.

But life rarely operates that neatly.

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A healthier approach is surprisingly simple.

Lead with curiosity instead of assumption.

Lead with gratitude instead of pressure.

Intent and impact aren’t always the same thing. And timing isn’t always within our control.

If someone didn’t respond the way you expected, or as quickly as you would have liked, consider that they might be navigating circumstances you can’t see.

Lasting friendships aren’t built on perfect timing or flawless communication. They’re built on patience, understanding, and a willingness to give each other the benefit of the doubt.

Most of us are trying.

Most of us mean well.

Most of us are simply navigating complicated lives while doing the best we can.

And sometimes the most generous thing we can offer the people we care about is a little grace.

If this idea resonates with you, try a small experiment the next time something doesn’t happen the way you expected.

Before assuming it’s personal, pause and ask yourself:

What if it’s just logistics?

And if you know someone who might benefit from that reminder, feel free to share this with them.

Sometimes we all need a little help remembering to give each other the benefit of the doubt.

Because more often than we realize, it was never personal in the first place.

Sometimes…

it’s just logistics.

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