It has been a transition! A rough one at that.

I thought it was going to be the kids that had the hardest time with the transition. Nope! They took it in stride. It’s absolutely that the adults are having the harder time.

Even still, we remain working as a team and going on this journey called life together.

#ethicallynonmonogamous #ENM_Jack #ENM_Journey

Let me tell you, it’s quite an amazing thing to hear two parents reading from two different rooms to their children. I was reeling from a sense of gratitude for the moment and amazement by the amount of endless love these mothers have.

Moving day is here: today Ashley and her kiddo are moving in to join our family home. It’s going to be a tight squeeze all together. Had I known this would happen, I would have bought a bigger house.

Maybe in a few years we will upgrade to a bigger place. For the time being, it’s going to be working on making headway on starting to see if the blended family experience will work for us.

#ENM_Journey #ENM_Jack #ethicallynonmonogamous

I’m ready for Ashley to move in for all sorts of reasons. But the one I’m really interested in? She wants to be freely used whenever we are alone when working from home.

One week remains

#ENM_Jack #ENM_Journey #ethicallynonmonogamous

Hey hey hey… remember when I was thrusting inside you while my spouse was grinding her clit against your tongue?

We should do that again.

#ENM_Jack #ENM_Journey

It’s aggravating when you find yourself in a position to play with a partner but your mind will not allow you to be present. I found myself in that situation last night. A nice quiet moment with both of my partners and I was stuck in my head.

Frustrating but it happens. And a new aspect of navigation that comes with dating in a triad.

#ENM_Jack #ENM #Polyamory #Triad #TriadRelationship

Okay… it’s time for an update. #ENM_Jack #ENM #Polyamory

Ashley came over on Monday to have a discussion about what happened and explain her thinking. The approach I was taking on Monday was one of “I am not doing well; I met someone who felt like a natural fit after years of trying to make pieces fit our family.” And my attitude reflected that. When you find your family, you don’t want to wait to start living the rest of your life.

My spouse and I let down our guard and gave an honest accounting: my spouse highlighted abuse she recognized (Ashley then connected what was said to a previous experience we were not aware of). I gave my experience as a man who has been in his shoes: emotionally immature and not changing how I live my life. I don’t see Ashley’s husband as one who will either begrudgingly change or start concerted effort to repair their marriage. My opinion is that it’s time for this couple to start focusing on how to co-parent and separating their lives.

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An all too common scenario in #polyamory: one person having to pull back due to the emotional insecurities of their partner. This unfortunately played out this past week. A #ENM_Jack update:

Last night, Ashley reached out to my spouse and I to indicate that she needed more distance. While her spouse had originally told Ashley that he was okay to open up their marriage, it would seem that he was never actually interested in that.

Today is a day for sadness. I will be okay but I am not okay today.

If Ashley could read this message; I would tell her to keep fighting for herself. Be true to who you are. And when you are finally able to be yourself:

Come home.

I’ve been watching my spouse giggle, hide her face from her phone, and exude joy while she was talking to Ashley last night.

This is what polyamory is about. Expanding on the joy we have in our lives.

#ENM #ENM_Jack

New Relationship Energy (NRE) is a hell of a drug.

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Don’t mind me while I do a few lines of NRE today.