An all too common scenario in #polyamory: one person having to pull back due to the emotional insecurities of their partner. This unfortunately played out this past week. A #ENM_Jack update:

Last night, Ashley reached out to my spouse and I to indicate that she needed more distance. While her spouse had originally told Ashley that he was okay to open up their marriage, it would seem that he was never actually interested in that.

Today is a day for sadness. I will be okay but I am not okay today.

If Ashley could read this message; I would tell her to keep fighting for herself. Be true to who you are. And when you are finally able to be yourself:

Come home.

@Jack That's so rough. Sorry man. Remember that ultimately Ashley also made that decision in that she decided to prioritize that relationship over polyamory. Hopefully it was done for good reasons instead of coercion or a financial security need.

@jroberts Thank you, James. It has been rough. I am respectful of her choice and I fully support her doing what is best for her and her family. I know she had her reasons for pulling back.

It doesn’t even mean it’s over and done. We still have hope for the future but that future still feels so far away and unlikely. Time will tell.