JackJun 19, 2024

Okay… it’s time for an update. #ENM_Jack #ENM #Polyamory

Ashley came over on Monday to have a discussion about what happened and explain her thinking. The approach I was taking on Monday was one of “I am not doing well; I met someone who felt like a natural fit after years of trying to make pieces fit our family.” And my attitude reflected that. When you find your family, you don’t want to wait to start living the rest of your life.

My spouse and I let down our guard and gave an honest accounting: my spouse highlighted abuse she recognized (Ashley then connected what was said to a previous experience we were not aware of). I gave my experience as a man who has been in his shoes: emotionally immature and not changing how I live my life. I don’t see Ashley’s husband as one who will either begrudgingly change or start concerted effort to repair their marriage. My opinion is that it’s time for this couple to start focusing on how to co-parent and separating their lives.

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The last point made during our discussion with Ashley was that there was no way to hit a full stop on our relationship. This is perhaps the first time in an extensive period that Ashley is feeling happy and supported and she cannot see how to not be with us.

Since that point, things have eased back into where they were: we have resumed building a relationship. Slower so that it will be easier to untangle the lives of those in this a deteriorating marriage and then we can be free to express ourselves as we with without any anxiety from a controlling husband.

So there you are reader. Everything feels back to being right in the world. I want to shout it from the rooftop: this woman is incredible! And she wants to be with us. Not just me or my spouse but US? Sigh… I’m on cloud nine

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#Polyamory #ENM #ENM_Jack

Jun 19, 2024 at 3:30pmWeb
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Oh, that last point was one Ashley made to us. Not vice versa. We were adamant that she do what’s best for herself. Her priorities are to herself and her daughter. We would be sad if we couldn’t be with Ashley but we will always be happy that she is doing better in her life.
Show threadJames RobertsJun 19, 2024
@Jack Glad it's looking like she's making the decisions she needs for her life and that it includes y'all. Best of luck through a long process.