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So I had dinner with my parents and sibling last night. While it was exhausting, it was also eye-opening.
Like, watching how they all pick at each other and are trying to defend themselves against each other with my father leading the cycle and egging things on even as my mother and sibling are showing clear signs of distress… It's just like. "Wow. I used to live like this? Damn."
Like for the first time I was truly an observer, almost completely without fear, instead of getting pulled into the undertow of an unhealthy dynamic. It's like they're all drowning, pulling each other down, and I've finally both learned to swim (therapy and healing literature) and gotten a life vest (the right meds). Meanwhile they're all stuck in the looping undertow and drowning.
While some headmates are still stuck there in that toxic place, I feel like I've made it out. That means I can help the others over time. It's kinda surreal and really encouraging
Dozens of boys say they were abused in a Christian scouting program that vowed to raise godly men - NBC News
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One of the ways in which abusers - and especially my abusive sibling - have hurt me was to teach me that abuse is not a choice. That's of course how they justified it: The poor sobs just couldn't HELP it!
I've known for a long time that lasting patterns of abuse, as well as extreme abusive behaviours (even if they're one-off), are choices or follow a person's chosen moral convictions. Neither genes nor mental illness nor drugs nor mind control nor torture can cause someone to act against their deep moral convictions, like for example murder a loved one. And even in less extreme cases, it's up to the abuser's responsibility to make significant changes in their life to stop destructive patterns like guilt tripping.
But intellectually knowing something and really knowing it are two different things. I keep getting triggered into "questioning" whether I'm actually evil (abusive, oppressive, ableist etc) because if abuse is not a choice, then I might be abusive despite not WANTING to be!
It occurs to me as I'm writing this, how much this has to do with deep distortions based on confusing outer perception with truth. What *I* care about is truth. I care about whether or not my actions hurt innocent people. Abusers on the other hand only care about perceptions, to the point where they stop distinguishing between perception and reality. They don't care that they're causing harm, but they care obsessively and intensely and violently about not being PERCEIVED as an abuser!
Yeah no, that part is not a choice, that's true, it is outside someone's control how others perceive or label or judge them (to some extent/depending on circumstances).
But I'd rather be seen as an abuser than actually causing that kind of harm. Whereas my sibling and other abusers act as though the fear of potentially maybe getting criticised for abusive actions gives them the right to retaliate violently. (emotional violence counts as violent in this context)
They see this as self defense! 🤯
Because in their worldview, how others perceive them is where their "personal" boundary needs to be protected, because there's no difference between perception and truth?? idek, it makes no sense to me but this is how they act. And the flip side is true too: If they perceive me as a threat or as pathetic or as dangerous or as lazy or as having it too easy or as incompetent or whatever it is today - then I must accept it as truth and repent and do better and suffer the consequences. (me feeling bad is what's important, not fixing anything in the real world, which is how abusers differ from non-abusers)
Of course the double standards: If they are perceived as anything less than pristine, they get to attack me. If I am perceived as lacking, they also get to attack me. They need to be protected from feeling bad at all costs! After all, they're poor suffering victims of abuse and oppression! But despite being just as much (actually more) of a victim, I need to swallow any and all bad feelings they sling at me without ever complaining, let alone defending myself.
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When your teleoperator calls it quits and removes their VR googles, the ghost literally leaves the shell.
A Tesla puppet, obviously constrained to handing out water bottles at some promotional party, got a massive failure and landed flat on its back when its telepresence operator, probably paid minimum wage in country with very little labour laws, decided to remove its gear.
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Here’s a thought. Women often have a much tougher time than do men. Sexual abuse often happens to women, and they have no way to seek justice. We rob them of their voices.
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