CW: trauma bonding, substance use, emotional abuse, gaslighting, addiction
I thought it was love. But my nervous system knew better.
If you've ever wondered why you can't just leave someone who's destroying you — this is why.
Full blog:
https://theembodiedpractice.co/was-it-love-or-mdma/
#TraumaBonding #NervousSystemHealing #AttachmentTrauma #Codependency #MentalHealth #Healing
Attachment Patterns Workshop - Tūrangi & Taupō
Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same patterns in relationships?
I'm running a 3-hour workshop on Attachment & Your Nervous System in two locations:
📍 March 8, 2-5pm - Kaimanawa Lodge, Tūrangi
📍 March 22, 2-5pm - Waiora House, Taupō
This is trauma-informed, educational (not therapy), and suitable for anyone curious about their relationship patterns.
$120 | Limited to 10 participants per session
Fear was planted in me like a seed. The world is dangerous. People can't be trusted. You're too fragile to survive alone.
I believed I needed protection from everything – except the person teaching me to be afraid.
About disorganised attachment, when survival becomes your relationship blueprint, and recognising when attachment patterns are weaponised.
CW: emotional abuse, manipulation, childhood trauma
https://theembodiedpractice.co/when-love-taught-me-to-disappear/
I spent my whole life being told that anger made me horrible. That having feelings made me a monster.
So I made myself smaller. Suppressed it all.
This is about the anger that cuts through denial and shows you the truth. The rage that finally showed me who I'd been protecting at my own expense.
If you've been taught anger makes you bad, you've been taught to ignore your alarm system.
CW: emotional abuse, manipulation
https://theembodiedpractice.co/the-anger-that-saved-my-life/
I used to think emotional regulation meant staying calm. Not making waves. Rising above it all.
I was wrong.
This is about the moment I finally named what had been happening for 16 years – and what happened when I stopped abandoning myself to manage someone else's feelings.
About learning your body holds the answers all along.
CW: emotional abuse, gaslighting, manipulation
https://theembodiedpractice.co/emotional-regulation-isnt-what-you-think-it-is/
I used to think boundaries were mean.
That if I just explained myself better, stayed longer, gave more – things would change.
They didn't.
16 years taught me everything about boundaries by showing me what happens when you have none.
About nervous system responses, trauma patterns, and the moment I finally chose myself.
CW: emtional abuse, manipulation, outing
https://theembodiedpractice.co/what-37-years-without-boundaries-taught-me-about-freedom/