Unmasking #Autism really articulates my own frustration with how people have assumed autism (and #adhd ) traits are gendered, when what's mostly happening is marginalisation.

like I know several cis men who have what's commonly referred to as the "female" presentation of autism and/or adhd. in almost every case they are also marginalised on some other level.

there's a particular way that we (as in ppl who can and do mask a lot) seem to be taught, or otherwise learn from society, that if we do not make ourselves small, quiet or otherwise useful, Bad Things Will Happen. that can happen to almost anyone through trauma and/or marginalisation.

how the fuck do you alleviate it without becoming an actual hermit?

not "hermit" as in "person who stays at home a lot" but "hermit" as in "person who spends years alone in a tower, only emerging on the solstice to declare whether or not the world is ending"

and while that sounds like my actual idea of heaven, we apparently "live in a society" and I genuinely do like connecting with others and contributing to community.

#NewYear resolutions can be a nice way to set intentions for the year and take stock of the previous year.

But remember that even if you did not reach a goal you set last year, it doesn't mean *you* are a failure. You've likely achieved a lot outside the goals you set a year ago.

Keep those achievements in mind when judging yourself for not completing everything on the list you made last year. Take a moment to feel proud of those achievements, however small or unexpected.