@Bfordham @JessTheUnstill well, there’s a difference between saying that you don’t see color and pretending that everyone else doesn’t. Like if you were a cop hopefully you wouldn’t pull over someone for being black but you can’t pretended that no cops ever do it. But as I like to say, I wish people would just perceive me from the outside as a formless blob that talks about operating systems, so I can dress and act however I want, which in my case is quite feminine. Same for sexual orientation or race, like I’m Asian but actually terrible at math but why do either of those facts matter?

@annaecook omg I love those

@JessTheUnstill ah yeah to me it kind of feels like people that had some kind of medical issue when they were a kid, like oh I had a hole in my heart when I was born but it’s fixed now. Like why would that be interesting to anyone other than a sort of interesting trivia fact

@JessTheUnstill yeah I’m really sorry about that. I feel like that too honestly, like I would like the fact that I’m a woman to really not be that interesting to people because I’m also a fully formed human? Being trans seems like it should be even less interesting because it’s not even your gender but like a fact that your gender assigned at birth was not quite right but it’s been fixed now

@JessTheUnstill yeah I was telling someone that the higher order bits that I use to think about people in my life rarely have anything to do with the identities that others care about like gender, race, etc. it’s more like, oh that’s my friend that does X or loves Y. And you are right, I don’t need to also do X or love Y to support them.

@kf how do you think I feel?? He’s a lot younger than me!

@MelkyWay tell me you are the eldest daughter of immigrants without telling me …