#AuDHD #ADHD #Autism #ExecutiveDysfunction #TaskParalysis

You know what most often gets me stuck? Dependencies. This can happen in programming, in DIY, in housework, anything really.

This is how it goes:

I need to do A. Ah, but in order to do A, I have to do B first. Oh damn, before I can do B, I have to do C. And oh shit, C is pointless until I do D (this sometimes continues through half the alphabet...)

By the time I've worked out all the dependencies so I know what has to come first, I'm screwed. Motivation has left the building. The list is longer than I have the #spoons for, my sense of future time has disappeared and I shut down.

Now I'm writing about it, probably the best thing is to just try and do the first task *but* ignore the fact that all the others depend on it. But it's easy to forget that when you're in the thick of it, your anxiety is building and your spoons are disappearing left and right.

@drewph I am in this toot and I don’t like it 😭

Task: tidy bedroom
Dep A: need swap out drawers
Dep B: old drawers need top to be cleared
Dep C: top of drawers is all passed wife’s jewellery
Dep D: my grief. (More manageable after 3 years but still there)
Dep E: psych appointment
Dep F have to talk on phone
Dep G fuck this. Minecraft!

@buddhawilliams
I suspect "Fuck this. Minecraft!" (or Luanti in my case) figures at the end of many people's dependency lists...
@buddhawilliams
And I will also say that grief and/or recovery from trauma can appear in a dependency list at any time and without warning. It's like an unwanted but sometimes necessary wildcard.

@drewph @buddhawilliams
This * gestures up thread* I'd hard relate. Switch in Mum, as I live in inherited house now, & add that some things are genuinely insurmountable (things to fix on house) due to my past shit luck (cowboy tradesmen) & current finances lacking.

It's taken nearly 10 years to get to a point where the hidden grief is finally letting me take proper ownership of things & I can start shifting things.