donthatedontkill
Honestly I don't know how everyone does it. Writing on my phone is so tiring. I have about forty five minutes blocked out a day to try to catch up on my text messages and it's sometimes not enough. And it's tiring. Part of it is because I have trouble manipulating my phone. The precision needed to type is hard for me. But like also... It's a lot of time! How do people have this time?? What's your secret??
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Show threadStean 🇪🇺🌹🌾🛠 📐✏️🎨2d ago
@donthatedontkill Whenever possible, I prefer to call. I only reply via chat if there’s no other option, but only in a Telegram-style format. [Stop]
Show threaddonthatedontkill15m ago
@SteanSlh haha I should try telegram style. I normally can reply on my computer more but I'm doing some long-term traveling and don't have my normal set up with me. It's coming to a close soon!
Show threadVereesh2d ago
@donthatedontkill I use a stylus sometimes. It helps with precision and avoiding pointing finger strain.
Show threaddonthatedontkill16m ago
@temporal_spider oh damnnnnnn I think a stylus is going to be it for me. It's transportable and easier to be precise! Thanks for this suggestion!
Show threadFish Id Wardrobe ⁂2d ago
@donthatedontkill would a bluetooth keyboard help?
Show threaddonthatedontkill17m ago
@fishidwardrobe I just went looking and I didn't think about mini keyboards! That's not a bad idea! Thanks!
Show thread__Miguel_2d ago

@donthatedontkill With exception of actual SMS messages, which I rarely even receive, let alone send, everything that's communication-related gets punted to the equivalent desktop app/site, unless I have plenty of time.

Discord? There's an app for that. WhatsApp? There's a site for that. Mastodon? There's a site for that, too. Signal? App for desktop.

And if I wanted, I could use something like KDE Connect/GS Connect, which lets you send and receive SMS from the desktop, too.

Ideally, though, you want to cut back at the source. AKA, less sources of messages to reply to in the first place.

Show threaddonthatedontkill19m ago
@nanianmichaels yeah that's it. Just too many messages. Everyone wants you to watch this video or listen to this podcast or whatever... On top of friends beefing emotional support or other friends who just want you chat, then add in the people who need a favor and it's just a lot. I should not complain but it's a lot. And trying to raise awareness to this...
Show thread__Miguel_2m ago

@donthatedontkill "Fun" (aka not even remotely fun, depressing, even) fact: most people we come across we can live without (or with very minimal interaction) in our lives with zero consequence, either positive or negative.

I'm a massive introvert, so IMMV, but other than my bf and my dad, there's nobody else I even talk to daily. Even my best friend I can go many months without speaking to him.

And the total number of people that I interact with semi-regularly is under 20, excluding work-related interactions (but those only happen during business hours).

I find it that most people are SO self-centered that they will only notice you're not around if they can't extract something from you, and will never be available when YOU need something, or give anything back.

The amount of people I've silently stepped aside from that were draining me like that is staggering.

So now I curate a VERY short list of people who I engage with, and have no regrets.

Show threaddonthatedontkill19m ago
@nanianmichaels Like hey you sent me a one hour podcast about the American revolution, do you actually need me to listen to this or did you just want to say you were thinking of me? Because one hour or a lot to give up to learn nothing about a subject I already learned a lot about in school and university. I pointed that out and the person got very passive aggressive with me.
Show threadAhtynon2d ago
@donthatedontkill adding to the string of responses already, i just wanna say: you take all the time you need, there’s no rush. We know and we’ll wait.
Also i don’t know the first thing about any tech solution so i can’t really do any better 😊
Hope this helps in way of relief🫶