donthatedontkill3d ago
Honestly I don't know how everyone does it. Writing on my phone is so tiring. I have about forty five minutes blocked out a day to try to catch up on my text messages and it's sometimes not enough. And it's tiring. Part of it is because I have trouble manipulating my phone. The precision needed to type is hard for me. But like also... It's a lot of time! How do people have this time?? What's your secret??
#texting #communication #actuallyAutistic #dyspraxia #dyspraxic #advice #stayingInContact
Show thread__Miguel_3d ago

@donthatedontkill With exception of actual SMS messages, which I rarely even receive, let alone send, everything that's communication-related gets punted to the equivalent desktop app/site, unless I have plenty of time.

Discord? There's an app for that. WhatsApp? There's a site for that. Mastodon? There's a site for that, too. Signal? App for desktop.

And if I wanted, I could use something like KDE Connect/GS Connect, which lets you send and receive SMS from the desktop, too.

Ideally, though, you want to cut back at the source. AKA, less sources of messages to reply to in the first place.

Show threaddonthatedontkill9h ago
@nanianmichaels yeah that's it. Just too many messages. Everyone wants you to watch this video or listen to this podcast or whatever... On top of friends beefing emotional support or other friends who just want you chat, then add in the people who need a favor and it's just a lot. I should not complain but it's a lot. And trying to raise awareness to this...
Show thread__Miguel_

@donthatedontkill "Fun" (aka not even remotely fun, depressing, even) fact: most people we come across we can live without (or with very minimal interaction) in our lives with zero consequence, either positive or negative.

I'm a massive introvert, so IMMV, but other than my bf and my dad, there's nobody else I even talk to daily. Even my best friend I can go many months without speaking to him.

And the total number of people that I interact with semi-regularly is under 20, excluding work-related interactions (but those only happen during business hours).

I find it that most people are SO self-centered that they will only notice you're not around if they can't extract something from you, and will never be available when YOU need something, or give anything back.

The amount of people I've silently stepped aside from that were draining me like that is staggering.

So now I curate a VERY short list of people who I engage with, and have no regrets.

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Show threaddonthatedontkill7h ago
@nanianmichaels I get this. I often want to do the same but something I (think) I do well is bringing people together. It's thankless but I can do it and I think, or thought, it was a net good. I'm not really sure now. Maybe I played too much Death Stranding during the pandemic. But today, most of my connections are distraught. I believe we have to change people. We can only do that 1 by 1, talking to them, bringing them together... I don't know where to go from here and not feel this bitterness