Sometimes I wonder if I judge people too quickly. Then they show exactly who they are. Over and over again.

He then added: The crazy masked lady at FediCon last year expected speakers at the podium to wear masks, or else we didn't care about disabled people.

The podium that was more than 6 feet away from the audience.

Like, maybe just stay home if you have nosophobia?

There is a problem with men (tech men especially) on Mastodon.

It is not safe to be a woman. It's even less safe to be a POC woman. And to be a disabled POC woman? Watch out.

The guy accused of embezzling is "so nice, deserves to be protected at all cost". But the disabled woman trying to stay alive? She's the "crazy mask lady".

Check yourselves, and check your fellow men.

Because it's the same in society.

And that's why we choose the bear.

@stephanie
It's probably worth noting, I didn't get covid until 2024, and it left me with brain damage.

So, no, the pandemic isn't over.

It just stopped being inconvenient for non-marginalized people.

@vlrny @stephanie oh damn, that is no flavour of ok. Men in tech, ffs.
@vlrny I caught Covid at a dentist's appointment in 2023. I haven't been the same since. I'm tired all the time, and the brain fog is often intense.

@Shanmonster @vlrny People who have never experienced brain fog cannot imagine what it is like to find yourself unable to think the way you know you were able to before.

I have had brain fog from a post viral (not COVID) fatigue combined with a burnout thingy. It lasted between 6 - 8 months and finally started to clear up with reducing my work load and brain anti-inflammatories. It was truly, truly awful and so debilitating. I never, ever, want to go through that again.

@GinevraCat @Shanmonster @vlrny

I hear you. Got it from covid, took 2 years and a lot of work to retrain. Now any bad viral infection seems to plunch me back, along w muscle weakness.

@oldoldcojote @GinevraCat @Shanmonster
Oof samesies, even a flu can knock me back for 6-8wks. One of the many reasons I wear a mask. It's a strange and brutal virus.

@vlrny @GinevraCat @Shanmonster

Yup. Hang in there. I started taking Lithium orotate and NAC-ester based on all the recent research and they seam to help. I think the Li has given my brain a decent boost.

@oldoldcojote @GinevraCat @Shanmonster
Oooo the lithium ororate is a new one for me. Will explore, thanks!
I am already flush with NAC, and upping my fish oil, which I think helped (but forgot helped brain stuff, Oh! The irony 🙃)
@vlrny @GinevraCat @Shanmonster fish oil helps me too, but I've been taking it for years.

@GinevraCat @Shanmonster
"People who have never experienced brain fog cannot imagine what it is like to find yourself unable to think the way you know you were able to before."
So well said! And so fekkin sad.

Also, what were you using for brain anti-inflammatories? I want to talk about this angle w my GP next mtg.

@GinevraCat @vlrny I've had brain fog before. First time was in 1989-90 when I had mono. It was so bad that I couldn't understand the most basic, short sentences. I'm certain COVID woke up my latent mono. There's a high correlation between Epstein-Barr virus and long covid, IIRC. I think it might be analogous to how if you've had chickenpox, you're set up to get shingles later in life.

@Shanmonster @vlrny That makes sense. I've had mono twice so that probably contributed to the brain fog.

I was SUPER careful to rest when I had COVID, physically and cognitively, just in case.

(And thanks for the reminder to get a shingles vaccine).

@Shanmonster @GinevraCat @vlrny
Covid has also triggered latent TB & Lyme disease too. The former happened to my Dad after he was infected in hospital. I then encountered other patients in all 3 of our local hospitals who had their latent TB become active after covid infections.
An elderly friend is currently hospitalized after getting covid & her Lyme had reignited a couple days after initial infection.
@Shanmonster oof. I'm so sorry. It's really brutal. The cognitive stuff is so debilitating, and so hard for others to understand. 💙
@vlrny
I'm so sorry 😢

@stephanie @vlrny

Or, perhaps more insidiously, the people for whom it proves inconvenient - that is, the people who develop debilitating long Covid - stop being non-marginalized.

@only_ohm @stephanie yeah good point. It is a tragic self-solving problem, but definitely a trajectory. :(
@vlrny I wear a mask everywhere and doctors and nurses apparently just don't have to. TELL ME HOW TO MAKE SENSE OF THIS
@Lizette603_23 oof no kidding. The medical community giving up has been a heavy betrayal.

@vlrny @stephanie You poor thing! That sounds evil. Modern life seems defined by relentless misinformation, deception, indoctrination, lies etc. etc.

I hope the damage has not been too disabling. How are you coping?

@NicelyManifest @stephanie
Thank you for asking.

It has actually been incredibly debilitating. Covid knocked out my executive function as well as a lot of my ability to access language.

It's been frustrating and frightening to lose so much of who I was and how I interacted with the world.

@vlrny @stephanie Sounds horrific. You do write well here but that is a small snapshot. Are you able to appreciate things more than before? I have had decades of adversity training that in myself. I kind of proactive antidote to struggle. I sometimes try to comprehend how blind people cope by navigating the house in the dark. Still eludes me. Scary thing to lose.

@NicelyManifest @stephanie
Yeah tooting allows me to pick my functional moments and take my time composing, but it's a hard slog.

I am becoming a slower and deeper thinker, which could be a worthwhile life if others can slow down around me.

Lots of training in empathy for sure.

@vlrny @stephanie I can only endorse deeper thinking - in a time where devices are atrophying attention span, critical thinking, depth of thinking etc. I guess the slower pace is a form of meditation or mindfulness. When I walk toes first very slowly it can be very calming.