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@nyx with recent discourses on deranged hell sites, i had to make my stance on the matter clear. also my gf is great
@cyb3rm0shp1t why is there discourse about this >_>
@nyx terf radfems
Willow at large@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx did the department of redundancy department come up with that phrase, or do you have RAS Syndrome?
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cmdr β nova βΈΈ :~$ π³οΈββ§οΈ@Willow @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat yβall are joking but there are a ton of weirdos on fedi who think a terf can be a trans woman
@cmdr_nova @Willow @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t I would give so much for this to be the first I'm hearing this. In my experience across the years and on a ton of platforms, a loud, angry trans woman is many times more likely to get terfjacketed based on vibes than someone else actually reciting empire-tier terf rhetoric verbatim.
@cmdr_nova @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat bigotry is intersectional so yes they can. there are homophobic gays and Nazi pedophiles
@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat that's implying all Nazis aren't pedophiles :v
@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx Also true, I myself had a little episode in the mid-late 2000's where I came down with a severe case of "I'm-specialism" and started chugging and spewing certain flavors of that particular koolaid.
@Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @kittenlikeasmallcat if youβre calling trans women terfs you may as well just go join the incel crew of trans dudes pushing this narrative over on the instances they run
@cmdr_nova @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx That's not to say that someone's being a trans woman immunizes her from 'being a terf' if she's habitually doing the things that make anyone a terf, right? I had that experience, and moved past it. Of course the proportion of this actually happening doesn't diverge in frequency from any other instance of a member of a marginalized population advocating pointedly against the liberation or survival of those who are also marginalized in the same ways.
It's one in a million, and trying to find it everywhere is fucked up transmisogyny but it's also unwise to categorically rule it out.
@Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx you can call me unwise, and I can call anyone making this judgment an idiot
@cmdr_nova @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx Let's agree that something on the order of 0/10 of the trans women being accused of being a terf are terfs.
I just don't think that identity is a good ideological shield to use in any circumstance, especially for someone like who I was, who was freshly homeless and visibly transgender out of high school, uncritically reading certain radfem blogs as a way to cope and thinking that I'm somehow better than the other trannies. Me thinking I was immune from being 'one of the bad ones' in terms of radfem and in terms of transgender kept me from sitting down and thinking my way out of the contradiction. I'm still a full-on self-identifying radical feminist, but I'm not a terf anymore.
I don't think being any kind of marginalized means that it's impossible to promote and reproduce that marginalization. There are way too many examples of people doing that for that to be convincing, wouldn't you say?
@kittenlikeasmallcat @Willow @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t trans people can be fascists, evil, etc, etc, but the only people calling trans women the same acronym as their violent oppressors are largely trans men who hate feminists and people who got into trans community discourse 2 years ago and felt like itβd be cool to enact some sort of authority of others
@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @kittenlikeasmallcat @Willow but, you compare a trans woman to JK Rowling for any reason Iβm calling that person on their shit, because thereβs always an ulterior motive behind those kinds of statements
@cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @Willow Certainly, the whole framing of who is and isn't a this or that is just more identity noise, it's strictly immaterial. The point I'm trying to make is that terf is an ideology, and anyone, even it's victims, can pick up and play out their dinky nerfed self-defeating facsimile of that ideology. Indeed, cis women playing out transmisogynistic narratives are also in many ways, self-defeating. It's ultimately a behavior that makes the position coherent, and a system of narratives that cause that behavior to do some measure of harm in the world. Being outside of a position to effectively wield any power-over one's comrades doesn't nullify criticism of someone's adherence to the ideology.
Missing out on the thing you're naming, that ulterior transmisogynist thing most often underneath the process of qualifying some trans woman as a terf is madness. To a much lesser extent, I think that categorically claiming that a population can't be a member of an ideological group misses a rigorous analysis of the dynamics of the thing. I'm afraid that negating those claims in a blanket way, as though it can be applied evenly to every situation isn't as robust and effective as allowing the potential and looking at the concrete specifics.
@cmdr_nova @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx I don't think I'm nitpicking, the point that "trans women can be terfs" isn't that crucial in and of itself. It's just one example of an identity-reliant critical methodology that in my opinion isn't good enough to rely on.
@cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx @Willow listen, Iβm going to say this again, and I canβt write novels for you because Iβm at work right now, but calling trans women βTERFsβ is always transmisogyny, I donβt care what your reason is. Trans women do not possess the material social βpowerβ (for lack of a better word) to βself oppressβ or oppress their peers. Just look at this conversation, and all of the things that have happened to me over the past 15 years. I could come out swinging and say the worst things possible, but it wouldnβt hold any weight in reality because people donβt listen to trans women. Our struggles and pain are for us and us alone to deal with, and whatever fucked up thing some other trans woman might say is just a reaction to pain and despair, and that is not the same as being a fascistic radfem or whatever the trans bro circles are calling it
@cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @Willow I don't want you to do something you can't do, I'm not demanding anything. I don't want novels. I don't even want you to spend more time reading my obsessively specific diatribes than is convenient for you. If you can't talk about this, then please do not do so, or pick it up when you can. I'll still say my piece. This isn't pressure. If now isn't a good time, I'll ask for the respect of you waiting until it is, please and thank you.
Again, I don't think framing it the way you seem to insist on framing it fundamentally works because strictly, claiming "This person is a something!" means nothing. I think this only matters when someone does something, reproduces, sustains, promotes, consumes, something. Lack of power, lack of effectiveness never stopped plenty of people carrying out their worldview in one way or another, to the best of their ability. Why put some arbitrary threshold on it? Anyone can "be" anything when it comes to the ideology they're following. Ideology consists of people following it. If some trans woman isn't a terf, it's because she's not doing what a terf does, not because she's immune or too disempowered. Framing it all as in is/isn't a terf misses what matters.
I have to type this disclaimer out again, because nuance in this context is dangerous: It's my position that when trans women are being accused of being terfs, this is typically just transmisogyny. The best way, in my opinion, to combat this is to say why they are not, not to simply claim that marginalized people categorically can't effectively act against, or join with those acting against their own self interest.
I'm not contradicting many of the points you're making. I can't convey how much I'm on the same page as practically all of what you're saying. Please don't try to put me in a box outside of and in contradiction to this. I'm telling you why I've come to a different conclusion that I feel is really important based on the same observations.
I'm frustrated because I don't think you're hearing me, and that's probably because you've got literal work going on that you have to pay attention to. When you're not otherwise occupied, I want to ask, what do you think I'm trying to say here, genuinely? Why do you think I'm saying it?
@cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @kittenlikeasmallcat I'm not calling trans women terfs lol I'm just saying it's possible for people to be two contradictory things at the same time
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@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx yes but not this contradiction, no, definitionally if someone is a terf they donβt believe trans women are women, so being a terf means one cannot simultaneously consider oneself a trans woman, this isnβt like a question of generalities here itβs something transmisogynists levy against us ad there is no reason for any sister to defend it
@Willow a "homophobic gay" is something wildly different than calling a trans woman a "TERF"
homophobia is a system of pointed hate, like transmisogyny, tranphobia. A TERF is a thing, a person, a trans exclusionary radical feminist. The way the nazis called themselves socialists, the TERF calls themselves feminist.
And honestly, this is becoming such a widespread thing on the fediverse that even after all the things I've seen happen here, I'm starting to think a male dominated space where people are being convinced that trans women can also be the violent oppressor that seeks to exterminate them, might just be a bad space
and yes, I know you completely skipped over all of my replies and pretended I wasn't here, I don't care
@winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx
homophobia is a system of pointed hate, like transmisogyny, tranphobia. A TERF is a thing, a person, a trans exclusionary radical feminist. The way the nazis called themselves socialists, the TERF calls themselves feminist.
And honestly, this is becoming such a widespread thing on the fediverse that even after all the things I've seen happen here, I'm starting to think a male dominated space where people are being convinced that trans women can also be the violent oppressor that seeks to exterminate them, might just be a bad space
and yes, I know you completely skipped over all of my replies and pretended I wasn't here, I don't care
@winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx
@Willow @winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx I wouldn't even call Blaire White or Caitlyn Jenner a TERF, they're just horrendously misinformed and simping for the side that they think will ensure their survival, because, well. I don't know a nice way to put it, so I'm not going to say it. I wouldn't call Laurelai Bailey a TERF, even though her entire existence revolves around horrific abuse, even though I know full-well she's the reason all of my social circles were destroyed. Still not a TERF, tho
Ο@Willow @cmdr_nova @winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx the equivalent to homophobic gay in trans spaces are transphobic trans people , being transphobic isnt strictly the same as being a TERF , as being a TERF implies the belief that trans women are not women , and many more things , while transphobia is much broader and loose as a term and doesnt necessarily contrast with one self identofuing as a woman
@Willow @cmdr_nova @winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx im being thanked fordoing discourse i love this thank YOU !
@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx @winter imean idont necessary disagre that a trans woman can be a terf , i havemt rlly though abt it , i just wantwd to point out that the comparison wasnt that accurate ig
@fiore @cmdr_nova @winter @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx The big issue I have with this whole analysis is that it hinges on identity, identification, being, status, naming. It relies on the state of someone, a label. Approaching the question in terms of can someone "be" something, "is" someone a name is a surefire way to overlook the properties that a categorizing title seeks to name, and deal only in rules of the shorthand. We're skipping over the substance here and going right into identifying. That's further complicated by the fact that TERF is a name that isn't typically uses for self-description. It's discretely a name given by radical feminists to other (ostensibly) radical feminists whose analysis of gender excludes or distorts the experiences of trans women, and has grown in scope to describe an approach fascists have explicitly, intentionally appropriated (like much else) for the purpose of demonizing trans women.
Given the abundance of self-despising trans women alive today, the mere existence of the whole femboy porn category, and the possibility that someone might narrativize herself as exceptional - 'a real woman or even a real trans woman', while other trans women are [insert one of the sixty million /tttt/ slurs or the whole agp/hsts bullshit here], I can't conceive of this impossibility of intersection. The fact that I, myself, personally at one point fell into this exact intersection really seals the deal for me.
None of this supports or defends the phenomena that's been consistently described of our enemies calling us terfs based on vibes. The reason that phenomena is bullshit isn't that 'trans women categorically can't be terfs,' that's too weak a defense/response! - it's that the things often being pointed out as evidence (often nothing) are categorically not attributes of terf ideology.
wyatt@winter @cmdr_nova @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx i feel like i've seen some on /tttt/ (4chan /lgbt/) that would probably qualify but they constantly talk about how they're not "really" women so maybe you're right
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@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx against my better judgment i'm going to have to ask wtf the discourse is.
@rowb1t @nyx terf radfem saying blowjobs are always coerced, anal sex is abusive (and that only men can receive it due to their stronger sphincter muscles and higher anal cavity pressure or whatever), which obviously picked up traction because it's hilarious and then the jokes spawned some real discourse (ugh....)
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@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx is this really the shit twitter terfs are on in 2026? ridiculous
@cyb3rm0shp1t my stance on this discourse is that giving head is an effective way to vampyrize someone's vital forces π½
@nyx receiving head can actually achieve the same effect to a much greater degree, even, if one executes it skillfully. i sholud know
@cyb3rm0shp1t yeah that's how gay sex works in ζΏδΈζ― because if your bodies both have similar energies then you can cycle them
@nyx oh yeah. heterosexual sex is bloodletting while vampyric neoamazonian unity is a hermetic ritual involving the mixing of blood and the transmogrification into an inseparable whole
Eva Mikkonen@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx Communion meal: girl blood sausage where each participant gives their portion for feeding everyone
auntie monkey@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx your gf rocks I love you both I hope you live together foreverrrrr
@cyb3rm0shp1t god damned may you keep posting bangers
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@cyb3rm0shp1t @monkey I think this thread may have become simultaneously every type of thread. π«‘
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haematophage@krankheit @cyb3rm0shp1t who's to say she's stealing it
@haematophage @krankheit well in your case it's closer to like eating someone out just from the anatomy of it
@cyb3rm0shp1t @haematophage thats kinda tmi ill be honest
im stoned as fuck@krankheit uhhh real cocksuckers would be too preoccupied to formulate this reply #TheresNoLimitToTheLarp
@cyb3rm0shp1t well, i was preoccupied after writing the reply, so.
@krankheit whoa tmi krankheit
@krankheit (silly and funny)
@cyb3rm0shp1t i was literally just texting somebody lol it was like 15 minutes i was gone you think i live with anybody lol?
@krankheit idk girl in this day and age u can essentially schedule a willing sexual partner to arrive at your home like doordash, i wasn't gonna question u if that's how you live your life
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@cyb3rm0shp1t i mean some guy pulled up on me and tried to offer me a ride but i wasnt about to open that can of worms today lol