yes, i have an oral fixation (a fixation on getting head)
@cyb3rm0shp1t infohazardous post
@nyx with recent discourses on deranged hell sites, i had to make my stance on the matter clear. also my gf is great
@cyb3rm0shp1t why is there discourse about this >_>
@nyx terf radfems
@cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx did the department of redundancy department come up with that phrase, or do you have RAS Syndrome?
@Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx the only thing worse than terf radfems are the trans exclusionary ones 
@Willow @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat y’all are joking but there are a ton of weirdos on fedi who think a terf can be a trans woman
@cmdr_nova @nyx @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat bigotry is intersectional so yes they can. there are homophobic gays and Nazi pedophiles
@Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @kittenlikeasmallcat if you’re calling trans women terfs you may as well just go join the incel crew of trans dudes pushing this narrative over on the instances they run
@cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx @kittenlikeasmallcat I'm not calling trans women terfs lol I'm just saying it's possible for people to be two contradictory things at the same time
@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx yes but not this contradiction, no, definitionally if someone is a terf they don’t believe trans women are women, so being a terf means one cannot simultaneously consider oneself a trans woman, this isn’t like a question of generalities here it’s something transmisogynists levy against us ad there is no reason for any sister to defend it
@winter @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx how is it not like homophobic gays?
@Willow a "homophobic gay" is something wildly different than calling a trans woman a "TERF"

homophobia is a system of pointed hate, like transmisogyny, tranphobia. A TERF is a thing, a person, a trans exclusionary radical feminist. The way the nazis called themselves socialists, the TERF calls themselves feminist.

And honestly, this is becoming such a widespread thing on the fediverse that even after all the things I've seen happen here, I'm starting to think a male dominated space where people are being convinced that trans women can also be the violent oppressor that seeks to exterminate them, might just be a bad space

and yes, I know you completely skipped over all of my replies and pretended I wasn't here, I don't care

@winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx
@Willow @winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx I wouldn't even call Blaire White or Caitlyn Jenner a TERF, they're just horrendously misinformed and simping for the side that they think will ensure their survival, because, well. I don't know a nice way to put it, so I'm not going to say it. I wouldn't call Laurelai Bailey a TERF, even though her entire existence revolves around horrific abuse, even though I know full-well she's the reason all of my social circles were destroyed. Still not a TERF, tho
@Willow @cmdr_nova @winter @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx the equivalent to homophobic gay in trans spaces are transphobic trans people , being transphobic isnt strictly the same as being a TERF , as being a TERF implies the belief that trans women are not women , and many more things , while transphobia is much broader and loose as a term and doesnt necessarily contrast with one self identofuing as a woman
@Willow @cmdr_nova @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx @winter imean idont necessary disagre that a trans woman can be a terf , i havemt rlly though abt it , i just wantwd to point out that the comparison wasnt that accurate ig

@fiore @cmdr_nova @winter @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @nyx The big issue I have with this whole analysis is that it hinges on identity, identification, being, status, naming. It relies on the state of someone, a label. Approaching the question in terms of can someone "be" something, "is" someone a name is a surefire way to overlook the properties that a categorizing title seeks to name, and deal only in rules of the shorthand. We're skipping over the substance here and going right into identifying. That's further complicated by the fact that TERF is a name that isn't typically uses for self-description. It's discretely a name given by radical feminists to other (ostensibly) radical feminists whose analysis of gender excludes or distorts the experiences of trans women, and has grown in scope to describe an approach fascists have explicitly, intentionally appropriated (like much else) for the purpose of demonizing trans women.

Given the abundance of self-despising trans women alive today, the mere existence of the whole femboy porn category, and the possibility that someone might narrativize herself as exceptional - 'a real woman or even a real trans woman', while other trans women are [insert one of the sixty million /tttt/ slurs or the whole agp/hsts bullshit here], I can't conceive of this impossibility of intersection. The fact that I, myself, personally at one point fell into this exact intersection really seals the deal for me.

None of this supports or defends the phenomena that's been consistently described of our enemies calling us terfs based on vibes. The reason that phenomena is bullshit isn't that 'trans women categorically can't be terfs,' that's too weak a defense/response! - it's that the things often being pointed out as evidence (often nothing) are categorically not attributes of terf ideology.

@winter @cmdr_nova @Willow @cyb3rm0shp1t @kittenlikeasmallcat @nyx i feel like i've seen some on /tttt/ (4chan /lgbt/) that would probably qualify but they constantly talk about how they're not "really" women so maybe you're right