ElleDec 28
Ricki Yasha Tarr
You can't hate yourself into becoming a better person.
Dec 28 at 4:26amWeb
Show threadGeePawHillDec 28
@RickiTarr You can't hate anything in to being a better anything.
Show threadM.S. Bellows, Jr.Dec 28
@GeePawHill @RickiTarr False. I have hated several stubborn mechanical objects into surrendering to my will.
Show threadGeePawHillDec 28
@msbellows @RickiTarr Interesting assumption, that surrendering to your will constitutes "better". :)
Show threadM.S. Bellows, Jr.Dec 28
@GeePawHill @RickiTarr Only with regard to mechanical objects, eg, a stubborn nut holding a busted alternator. My standard m.o. is: attempt sensibly, encounter resistance, try harder, slip and skin my knuckles, curse loudly, carefully cultivate my hatred, try again, and force the damn thing off. Continue task as normal.
Show threadSnosrapkungfu (They/them)Dec 28
@msbellows @GeePawHill @RickiTarr when the workshop manual says "remove via judicious manipulation" and i interpret it as "apply brute force and ignorance" :) and yes, my knuckles probably look the same as yours :)
Show threadM.S. Bellows, Jr.Dec 28

@snosrapkungfu @GeePawHill @RickiTarr I once was chaperone on an overnight high school drama club field trip. One student was in a power wheelchair. The bus wheelchair lift failed the first day, so her teacher and I carried her everywhere. Awkward, because it meant men's hands on her body/butt, but we were respectful as could be and she was awesome and grateful.

Next day, the replacement bus's wheelchair lift door jammed. No mechanic or other bus was available. I wasn't gonna make the student go through that embarrassment again.

I borrowed tools from the motel office then broke big pieces of plastic trim off until I exposed the track. Then I hammered half the track flat, slid the roller back in, hammered the track side back up to hold it. Problem solved.

I looked up at the stunned teenagers watching all this and instructed humorously, "kids, sometimes violence IS the answer." And the girl got to accompany her classmates to the theater without indignity.

Show threadfor a day, while . . . 🗽Dec 28

@RickiTarr

hmmm . . . can you bully yourself into becoming a better person?

Show threadRicki Yasha TarrDec 28
@cgsines I don't think that's gonna go great either
Show threadfor a day, while . . . 🗽Dec 28

@RickiTarr

well . . . that's all I got . . .

Show threadMisterStormwingDec 28
@cgsines @RickiTarr i disagree here, I think it's achievable, but it needs to come from a particular place. That place is : "Get loved on, idiot!" "You're worth every drop of effort, you preposterous, self-hating fool, hecking enjoy yourself, and think about how many people want you to succeed, dummy!" Like, imagine a bully that just loves you to pieces, and thinks the only stupid parts about you, are the bits that are caught in self-loathing.
Show threadBig Kumera EnergyDec 28

@cgsines @RickiTarr spite based self improvement 🤔

"Fuck you for saying I'm shit, me!"

"Watch THIS!"

(Proceeds to get therapy, touch grass, build and cultivate community)

Show threadStabby Narwhal Dec 28
@RickiTarr Gosh, wish I could boost this 1000 more times
Show threadBig BenDec 28
@RickiTarr I see someone’s been reading “No Bad Parts” by Richard Schwartz
Show threadClara L.Dec 28
@RickiTarr not with that attitude
Show threadjeffDec 28
@RickiTarr but you can hate others into becoming a better person 
Show threadJohn Q McDonaldDec 28
@RickiTarr but, lo these several decades, I have tried
Show threadOffbeatmammalDec 28
@RickiTarr is it okay to do it out of spite then?
Show threadJessDec 28
@RickiTarr I need to write this on a dozen note cards and tape them everywhere around my house. Maybe then I'll get the hint.
Show threadᴮᵉⁿ ᴿᵒʸᶜᵉVOTE IN THE PRIMARIESDec 28

@RickiTarr

yes but you can disgust yourself into making a new years resolution to lose weight and formulate a plan and then abandon the commitment by january 5

Show threadNatsura Dec 28
@benroyce @RickiTarr what a fucking lazy-ass species we are
Show threadᴮᵉⁿ ᴿᵒʸᶜᵉVOTE IN THE PRIMARIESDec 28
@Natsura @RickiTarr ✅️
Show threadSteve GisselbrechtDec 28

@RickiTarr

Okay but, hear me out, what if I tried HARDER?

Show threadbdf2121cc3334b35b6ecda66e471Dec 28
@stevegis_ssg @RickiTarr maybe we're just not hating ourselves enough
Show threadChookMother 🇦🇺🦘Dec 28
@RickiTarr So true!
Show threadMadagascar_SkyDec 28

@RickiTarr

According to my family, yes you can. You just aren't trying hard enough.

Show threadbdf2121cc3334b35b6ecda66e471Dec 28
@RickiTarr not with that attitude
Show thread# Glif Ylif - Vikompt PrekomptDec 28
@RickiTarr nope i can hate myself to be better person. stop limiting me to be become myself.
Show threadLogan Five ThousandDec 28
@RickiTarr 🫂 ❤️
Show threadZoran JeremićDec 28
@RickiTarr so true
Show threadLitTheFox0 🐘Dec 28
@RickiTarr no one said I can't hate myself bc my ego keeps gaslighting me
Show threadbotvolutionDec 28
@RickiTarr
But it might work *this* time, surely.
Show threadMar :🌻Dec 28
But you can love yourself into becoming a better person.
@RickiTarr
Show threadCainmark Does Not Comply 🚲Dec 28

@RickiTarr

Um, that's why I went to my therapist and worked on it.

Show threadPeterDec 28
@RickiTarr You can hate yourself into becoming a bitter person though
Show thread10tothe22Dec 28
@RickiTarr You can love yourself into becoming a better person.
Show threadMari the Deer Dec 28
@RickiTarr 
Show threadA Rat and a CatDec 28
@RickiTarr no you see if i hate myself hard enough
Show threadWhineryDec 28

@RickiTarr

I agree, but I think for some it's unfortunately a real challenge to not hate yourself e.g. if you're feeling that you're sexual attracted to minors, but you don't want to hurt anyone: https://web.archive.org/web/20140811180252/https://medium.com/matter/youre-16-youre-a-pedophile-you-dont-want-to-hurt-anyone-what-do-you-do-now-e11ce4b88bdb

#pedo #pedophilia #MinorAttractedPeople #maps #map #pedophiles #pedophile #justice #socialjustice

You’re 16. You’re a Pedophile. You Don’t Want to Hurt Anyone. What Do You Do Now?

How a teen with a terrible secret set out to save himself and others like him

Medium
Show threadMobile trans ForceDec 28
@RickiTarr not with that attitude
Show threadAbiDec 29
@RickiTarr ouch. rude of you to attack me like that.
Show threadthefathippyDec 29

@RickiTarr

Wait, WHAT?

Show thread[ SomGye ]Dec 29
@RickiTarr reminded me of this 😭
Show threadJimmyDec 29
@RickiTarr Be as kind to yourself as you would be to anyone else.
Show threadRRBJan 1
@RickiTarr But you can try