Urban HermitDec 19

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You know, I am going through some stressful things right now, have opted into living with a friend and his family for reasons, and frequently have to retreat from people. But their kids don't trigger me. Neither do their animals.

What is your theory why? I would really like to hear what other people think, or if this is not a universal experience? Is there an age where it wears off?

Show thread🔥Cassandra🔥Dec 20
@Urban_Hermit I would guess you don't feel the same pressure around them. They may be more accepting than adults tend to be.
Show threadKevin DavyDec 20
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I think it's because they have no hidden expectations. What you see is what you get.
Show threadUrban HermitDec 20

@pathfinder @Cassandra agreed. Big contrast. It is funny though, that means that if we were all as transparent as kids we might all get along easier.

Maybe I should watch the movie The Invention of Lying. I have been putting it off, but maybe there will be an analogy in there that is relevant.

I wonder when kids go 'bad'? Is it biological, or cultural?

Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai LamaDec 20
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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read me, if you really want an answer, but it’s not cheerful 💜
Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai LamaDec 20
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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that’s not fair, “read me,” it’s a mess. I’m sorry. I just wanted say I think I have an answer but I didn’t want to jump in depressing and broken record again.
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it’s this seamless blend of culture and genetics, it’s curturally mandated that children should be disciplined, but also the majority type is selecting and growing an epigenetic response in their children for it.
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I’m frustrated and always trying to find a way to say that to them, they think about the expediency of the discipline, but they do not think about environment and evolution. 💜
Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai LamaDec 20
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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So in a way, this distinction is that gene and that epigenetic optioning: animals and children don’t have it, as others have said here, (or it’s dormant in the majority children) so a person isn’t a full blown Allistic until after the activation of some Allistic genes through child, uh, discipline.
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There’s a softer Allism prior, I assume, but the tempered version afterwards?
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Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai LamaDec 20
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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Never quite framed it like that before. Let’s try in in their format:
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If a child has the “genetic vulnerability,” a lot of genes, “associated with,” Allism, they may or may not develop the full disorder, depending on whether they encounter certain environmental “triggers.”
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Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai Lama
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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Question: when they say things in this format about us, are our generic, “triggers,” obvious to them, like theirs, of child abuse, are to me?
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I mean, to me, it’s logical, you show them violence, you get violence. While they see a hundred possible, “causes,” apparently at random and then try to show some unseen mechanism to make it causal after the fact.
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Dec 20 at 9:13pmWeb
Show threadGoiterzan/Amygdalai LamaDec 20
@Urban_Hermit @pathfinder @Cassandra
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You know what I want? I want Ricky to make another one, mine, “The Invention of Punishment.”
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I love idea, definitely having trouble writing it, my only idea is that our man is a comic in a wonderful, completely voluntary world without punishment, and in lieu of lying, as in the real film, he comes across a slapstick, and discovers he can terrorize people IRL with it. 💜
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Anyone out there with the imagination to write THAT, or anybody knows Ricky, feel free, just mention my name and add me as a consultant 😜
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