Mastodawn

🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄)Dec 9

Y'all should take a moment today to compliment someone (besides me 😋).

And if someone gives you a compliment—believe it!

You're all amazing people, and I won't entertain any replies to the contrary 💝

Toekneegee Dec 9

@alice
Believing compliments is just not how I'm built. Even giving them sometimes feels hard, but I do it anyway and it's getting easier. Thanks for the reminder

Momo Dec 9

@alice
Funny thing: Together with other parents I'm doing a volunteer service for the local traffic police. Every morning at school days two of us are at an intersection as traffic guides. Originally we stop the traffic when school kids arrive at the intersection and let them cross the street, but since there are also elderly people in our village, we guide everyone across the intersection.

Anyway, last week I was doing my service when a bunch of school kids came up. In the winter months the mornings are quite dark in germany and visibility of pedestrians is always an issue. Before I stop the traffic I usually turn my head to the kids, say "Good morning!" And when they cross the street behind me I say "Have fun at school!". But in that particular group one of the girls had a new backpack. There were two tubes on it, running from the top down to the bottom along the left and the right corner of the backpack. And I'm not sure if there were diffused LEDs in there of if it was EL-wire, but they were glowing. Not in a bright, blinding way but bright enough to make her perfectly visible in the dark.

So when I turned around and say "Good morning!" to the group, I added "Hey, your backpack is very cool! I wish I had one of those when I was a school kid!". And she beamed back at me: "Yeah, I love it, too!". I stepped out into the traffic and said: "Here you go, have fun at school!"

Fuck, was that backpack cool!

@alice @Moondancer @AstraCeleste @ArtemisCeleste

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 10

@alice
You are the amazing person!

But ok, let speak about someone else: @h3mmy is a delightful person that is way too kind and patient with me

Also my buns (@Moondancer, @AstraCeleste, @ArtemisCeleste and Selena (can't mention zir account from this server 😿)) are all lovely cuties 💜

@alice @Moondancer @AstraCeleste @ArtemisCeleste

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 10

@h3mmy
And you have cutest reactions :3

-tiredly nuzzles.- b-bweh

@alice @h3mmy @AstraCeleste @ArtemisCeleste

Astra Dec 11

@koalou

Awwww. Thanks love. Tu es très mignonne aussi. Je t'aime, ma belle petite amie.

@alice @h3mmy @Moondancer @ArtemisCeleste

@h3mmy @alice @ArtemisCeleste @Moondancer

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 11

@AstraCeleste

(Not beautiful tho 🙈)

@h3mmy @koalou @alice @ArtemisCeleste

Astra Dec 11

@koalou

I respectfully disagree lol. 🩵

@h3mmy @alice @ArtemisCeleste @Moondancer

Moi aussi! Tu es très belle u//w//u

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 12

@Moondancer
No! è_é
I can accept cute on good days but don’t push it (I need the version where the cat is biting the bun >_<)

Wait so you're going to bite me if I call you beautiful?

...

I only have more incentive to call you beautiful now.

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 12

@Moondancer
Oooor, I could *stop* biting you when you do that. I wouldn’t want to reward bad behaviour

B-but... >~<

Astra Dec 14

@koalou

It's funny. If only she didn't say anything 🤣

@Moondancer @h3mmy @alice @ArtemisCeleste

Astra Dec 14

@koalou

Awwwww. But your face is so pretty. And kissable~🩵💋

@Moondancer @h3mmy @alice @ArtemisCeleste

@h3mmy @alice @ArtemisCeleste @Moondancer

Lou 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 14

@AstraCeleste
You're not objective 😤
💜

>w> Are too!

jamienvc ⚧️Dec 8

@alice for a while, after getting really burnt out by the negativity and complaining one sees online, I had a habit of sending an email to the creator of something I liked every day to tell them how much I liked their work. Just a little way to encourage more positivity!

JJ 🇺🇦Dec 8

@alice @AppleFangirl 💜

@alice 💜❤️💜

@alice Lovely. Thanks for posting this. Made me happier.

VulcanTourist Dec 8

I never had enough self-worth for compliments to even register. All my life I've argued against compliments when they were offered; it took me decades to recognize what I was doing and why. Eventually I started trying to force myself to fake appreciation and avoid hurting feelings - does that count as masking? - but internally I was still arguing and rejecting. I even do it with my wife. I don't know what substitute could lift my mood.

keeptruckin Dec 9

@alice I don't write to change other people's minds. I write to let other people know they are not alone.

Gabs Dec 9

@alice I like it here, too

Crumbee Dec 9

you rock thanks for the American music post the other day it made my day.

Loohoosaher Dec 9

@alice a kind word is a hand to hold in the dark

Salvo Dec 9

@alice @NanoRaptor
Everyone needs a complement now and then.

I always complement my nieces and great nieces whenever I see them.
I complemented the older ones boyfriend the other day and he was so happy: almost in tears.

His parents had never given him random complements!

Heliograph Dec 9

@alice #lovesfedi 🤗 you are a beautiful soul Alice 🪷 thank you for writing

Skean Harshly KC1WKV Dec 9

@alice you are one of the few people on the interwebs who I look forward to seeing posts from no matter what the topic. Keep being an awesome ambassador of what the fediverse can be!

I think I might want to learn how to pick locks now...

Looking for explanations…Dec 9

It’s so easy to focus on negative feedback & forget the compliments, & potentially very harmful. We all need to do this much more. Great reminder.

aburka 🫣Dec 9

@alice I started doing this, too, when I was depressed in grad school. I stopped but perhaps I should start banking them up again just in case

Andrew Dec 9

@alice I love this post. Very well said, and saving compliments? That may be a thing I start to do too!! :) You're amazing alice and I'm so glad you're on mastodon!

xyhhx

Dec 9

@ActuallyAutistic @alice nobody compliments me. if i never logged in again idk if anybody would notice

Comrade Weez Dec 9

@alice That's a very good self-care practice for a smart, clever and thoughtful person. 😃 👍

Justin Macleod Dec 9

@alice Where do you put them?

Lloyd Lemons Dec 9

@alice
Saving compliments! What a great idea. Now if I could just start getting them, maybe I could get out of this funk. Thanks for posting this.

DonCC Dec 9

am a fedi-noob , puts fbk and x to shame.
rock on,sister

Dagnabbit, Pascaline! 💥Dec 9

Great idea!
I also should pick up my little book in which I wrote three positive things every day. I know that if I open it, all I see are positive, genuine things 😊

Humphrey Archer Dec 9

@alice
You are a treasure, and your existence makes the world a better place

Chupacabra 78704 Dec 9

@alice I try.

Ewen Bell 📸Dec 9

@alice

🤍

With you 100%

https://social.ewenbell.com/notice/AzM4SzHTlpEVYpzPBg

Ewen Bell 📸 (@[email protected])

Roughly two decades ago I came across the concept of "YayMe.txt". This fella described how he keeps a file on his computer, and everyday when something nice happens he'll open up that text file an...

@[email protected]Dec 9

great way to perk yourself up, Alice. Happy you found that treasure trove. Peace.

@alice 🥰👏

@alice
Darn it. Now I have to do it too. Because you are clearly a genius who leads by example.

You inspired me. Well done.

DFYX Dec 9

@alice I sure hope there's one of mine in that collection.

Because I catch myself almost every day scrolling past my timeline, looking specifically for your posts before I read the others. More often than not they're funny, insightful and just... nice.

And I'd like to give some of that back.

🇺🇦 haxadecimal 🚫👑Dec 9

@alice
It is unfortunate that most of us are so quick to criticize and find fault, but so slow to praise. I try to remember to post positive comments.