Natasha 
🇪🇺"But until I see a male writer asked that question, I am going to respectfully decline to answer it.”
Source:
https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2018/07/lauren-groff-on-florida-as-a-state-of-mind/
BeeCycling has moved@Natasha_Jay Good for her. There are plenty of neutral ways to ask the same thing. Like "How do you protect your writing time against the other demands on your time?" It's an issue for all writers, whatever their situation, everybody is busy. There is no need for that old sexist way of asking it.
Harriet Monkhouse@beecycling @Natasha_Jay I remember, on a computer industry magazine back in the 1980s, I had a (female) colleague who made a point of asking male interviewees (when known to have children) how they balanced work and family - and they did try to answer the question, though I'm afraid I can't remember any individual reply now.
kosure@HarrietMonkhouse @beecycling @Natasha_Jay
I think we can imagine the responses.
@kosure @beecycling @Natasha_Jay My vague memory is that the men handled it quite well. No one suggested they were doing 50% of the work at home, but they treated it as a fair question about something that's difficult to manage.
@HarrietMonkhouse @beecycling @Natasha_Jay
I didn't mean to imply they'd be crappy responses. That's more or less what I'd guess (maybe with a bit more sputtering ask they grappled with a question they've likely never been asked) Thanks for the response.
Tobias Denkinger@HarrietMonkhouse
So essentially they could have had an aid search for such footage during the interview and circled back to the question after showing her the footage.
I really would have liked to know (as a father of one, soon two, children) how she stayed that (ridiculously) productive.
@beecycling @Natasha_Jay
Tom DB 🦣
Robin Barton@Natasha_Jay Good for you. as a man when I did my Masters and post-grad it was hard to juggle but my wife and I share the load which is what happened when she did hers
Matt Hodgkinson@Natasha_Jay 🔥 At least they published that question and response!
(dubious) opinion haver 
@Natasha_Jay Heck yeah!
Joey Provolonenice. love her response.
Sune AukenCan confirm.
Male writer here. Would happily have the question and happily answer it. Have never had it.
Mikeylastname@Natasha_Jay this is great. These questions don’t just undermine women but the fact they aren’t commonly asked to men also serves to perpetrate the belief that fathers are less important.
�@mikeylastname @Natasha_Jay bUt wHo cArEs fOr tHe kIdS wHeN hArd woRKing mAn iS ouT to cARe foR faMiLy
@utf_7 @Natasha_Jay afraid I’m not sure what your point is. I’m new to Mastodon - is this a bug or a feature?
LM Little@Natasha_Jay Obviously the interviewer hasn't read her books.
Nicole Parsons"How do you balance work & home?:
This seemingly innocuous question is asked of every successful woman in public life.
It's a bad faith question on so many levels, along with the pornographic-adjacent question about costumes & clothing
It's worse when they ask their children similar slimy questions
It's intended to trigger guilt, shame, & public opprobrium to the target but also in anyone thinking of following in her footsteps.
It's a way the patriarchy preserves itself.
@Npars01
Absolutely, and she calls it out, "respectfully" used as a skewer.
Absolutely, and she calls it out, "respectfully" used as a skewer.
Flaming Cheeto@Natasha_Jay ...goes on the To Read list
Martin Escardo@Natasha_Jay quotes "But until I see a male writer asked that question, I am going to respectfully decline to answer it."
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Dylan </closingtags.com>@Natasha_Jay absolute boss
JProl 🌍🎶💾🆓🐦🏳️🌈 🏴☠️
Gary McGraw@Natasha_Jay Lauren is the absolute best
Hibou Chachara@Natasha_Jay source, in case someone's looking for it: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2018/07/lauren-groff-on-florida-as-a-state-of-mind/
@borisschapira
Updated, thanks!
Updated, thanks!
Lindsey Kuper@Natasha_Jay The whole interview is so great!
🌈 Andrew ☄️@Natasha_Jay ah, thanks for adding the source! I was wondering who it was :)
cstephens2@Natasha_Jay This clip of Keira Knightley being asked a similar question and her response. 🙂
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DALoiqXMJ0c/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
The Female Quotient® on Instagram: "#KeiraKnightley posed this question incredibly well. Women are asked incessantly “How do you do it all?” and we often mumble back a variety of humble responses like ‘Oh I have help!’ or ‘You should see my messy house.’ Her affirmative response is what we’d like to see more of! 👏 Men, curious, do you get this question and if so, what do you respond with? And women, what’s your go-to?"
199K likes, 624 comments - femalequotient on September 21, 2024: "#KeiraKnightley posed this question incredibly well. Women are asked incessantly “How do you do it all?” and we often mumble back a variety of humble responses like ‘Oh I have help!’ or ‘You should see my messy house.’ Her affirmative response is what we’d like to see more of! 👏 Men, curious, do you get this question and if so, what do you respond with? And women, what’s your go-to?".
smells of bikes@Natasha_Jay this is the kind of hot take we need more of
Ben Rosengart
Zoidberg For President@Natasha_Jay No better answer than this one.
Tim Richards@Natasha_Jay @weezmgk Well played!
Anne Ominousi stan the queen!
Phil Thane ✅@Natasha_Jay
Years back at a job interview my wife was asked, 'I know we're not supposed to ask this, but you have a couple of kids...' She told them if a kid was sick she and I would alternate days off. She got the job. But when it inevitably happened I got stick at work because my boss expected my wife to do all the childcare.
Years back at a job interview my wife was asked, 'I know we're not supposed to ask this, but you have a couple of kids...' She told them if a kid was sick she and I would alternate days off. She got the job. But when it inevitably happened I got stick at work because my boss expected my wife to do all the childcare.