Alicja (and Artemida and Mara, see bio)Oct 12

Ok, I'm just gonna go ahead and ask.

How do people actually make new friends? Let's assume online for the sake of argument.

I've tried a number of approaches, I've tried both being spontaneous and winging it, and doing it a specific, thought-out way.

My attempts fall into a few typical patterns, but I'm not gonna describe them because that'd make for a LONG thread. I can't describe these things briefly.

(I might add some descriptions later,in a thread starting from this post)

But for now, let's assume: you see a person online, read what they write and after a while decide it'd be cool to potentially get to know them.

What do you do? Go.

Please be specific. "Just talk to them" could mean a million things.

#ActuallyAutistic #neurodivergent

Show threadJ. R. DePriest    :EA DATA. SF:

@oddtail I don't make friends. I think I make acquaintances.

I reply to Toots that resonate with me. If I get into a good conversation from it, that's a bonus. I never expect a conversation.

I follow people whose Toots mostly seem to align with my views.

I throw out random Toots and make note of how people respond, if at all.

I try to be myself.

Oct 12 at 10:36pmWeb