THIS. YES.
@BlakeHamiltonCA this is what I've been SAYINGGGG 👏👏
@BlakeHamiltonCA @VeroniqueB99 💯 It should be taught to kids in school. Adults could benefit too. Hugely.

@raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

...it use to be...🤷‍♀️

@VeroniqueB99 @BlakeHamiltonCA Really? When? Never in my time. I wish they had though.
@raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA It might be a geo as well as a generational issue....
@VeroniqueB99 @BlakeHamiltonCA Could be. I'm legit old and grey and moved around a lot.
@raindrops_and_roses @VeroniqueB99 @BlakeHamiltonCA I had similar observations at my son’s band concert last night: they’re learning a mix of restraint, discipline, teamwork, precision, dressing nice, not to mention the music…
@raindrops_and_roses @VeroniqueB99 @BlakeHamiltonCA generally schools reinforce the idea because teachers are “allowed to” harm you if you do something wrong 😑
@VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA Speaking of used to be taught. What would be example starter books to give to people?

@Toasterson @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

I was never taught any of this, either. My first exposure was reading parenting books - "Parenting from the Inside Out" was a big eye-opener for me. It would be useful even for a non-parent, as it focuses on how we develop, and how things have a funny way of lingering from one generation to the next (and how to recognize and stop it!)

@VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA To regulate emotions. Thats what the thread speaks of. Hope mastodons threadview is not broken again.

@Toasterson @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

Oh no no sorry I misunderstood you. I can't think of books other than psych books but this is something parents teach (or should teach) kids...

@VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA Yeah so it happened to me too. But that happens to be very hard to share out of context. And during immigration it seems to break down. But what psych books did you use to learn?

@Toasterson @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

Anything with "emotional regulation" (so early childhood) ...

@VeroniqueB99 @Toasterson @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA Yes but who teaches the parents who were never taught this? (Hi from a grew up in New England GEN-Xer)

@silk_flame @Toasterson @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

yeah... that's where the problem lies... (GenX here too I hear ya 🤣)

@Toasterson @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

If you don't mind profanity, I found Faith Harper's book, Coping Skills, to be a good resource. Her style isn't for everyone though

https://microcosmpublishing.com/catalog/books/7178?srsltid=AfmBOopACyRwLmCjtWMGti2OnItQKX3kBNXM-0IWqOv_R_uv1PhdNsiJ

Coping Skills: Tools & Techniques for Every Stressful Situation

You know those days when you just can't even? When everything is haywire and everyone, including yourself, seems to be against you, not to mention against...

Microcosm Publishing
@CorvidCrone @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA oh with profanity I can work. I love the Comedian styles.

@VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA Bring back “home economics”! Nobody knows how to cook, balance a checkbook, or do basic home repairs.

When a labor force or population cannot perform basic self-care tasks, they are significantly more vulnerable to the “company store” abuse scam that the billionaires are forcing on everyone. The plan is for this to be the whole US. Isolating the US, as with tariffs that serve no other purpose, is step 1.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Company_store

Company store - Wikipedia

@heartofcoyote @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses :
CrazyDogLady —
I definitely agree we need to teach more life skills—but let’s not romanticize “home ec” as it was, shall we? It was often quite sexist, outdated, and unequipped for today’s realities. What we need is a modern, inclusive life skills curriculum: financial literacy, cooking, digital as well as physical hygiene, critical thinking, and yes—basic repairs too.
@BlakeHamiltonCA @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses Fair. We can do better. I just wish we were doing something. The vocational ed and arts classes have been cut to the bone too. 🙃

@heartofcoyote @VeroniqueB99 @raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

Who balances an actual checkbook these days? The "Family Consumer Sciences" (formerly home economics) that I had to take taught me how to set a fancy dining table for American and English standards, made me sew a pair of pajamas that I couldn't wear because the only pattern we were allowed to use was not made for those with a big booty, and how to measure flour. None of this was useful.

And I got in trouble for using the sewing machine at a reasonable speed. They were terrified we would sew through our fingers so we had to slow down to a snails pace.

Emotional regulation was not taught in this class at all

@raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA @VeroniqueB99

I mean, if you dig down a bit "sticks and stone my break my bones but words can never hurt me" touches on learning to control one's emotional response to verbal bullying.

But that only touches on the verbal part of things.

@Sfwmson : great observation! That old saying *tries* to gesture toward emotional resilience—but often ends up promoting emotional suppression instead. Real emotional regulation isn’t about pretending words don’t hurt - it’s about learning how to feel the hurt without letting it control us or define us. And you’re right, verbal bullying is just one piece. Emotional education should cover the full spectrum - verbal, physical, relational - so we’re better equipped to navigate it all.
@BlakeHamiltonCA Yes! There is tons of research on the effectiveness of Social and Emotional Learning (SEL). It should be a significant part of any school curriculum.

@BlakeHamiltonCA

Duh! I've spent my whole life teaching myself how, but now I will die without it having any positive impact.

The limbic brain is now a noose around humanity's neck. We won't advance on the Kardashev scale while that noose remains.

@BlakeHamiltonCA
A lot of this is taught and reinforced through communities, which have also been getting ripped apart by capitalism in the name of monetizing interaction.

@jargoggles @BlakeHamiltonCA

Social media seems to make things worse.

Poster from a schoolyard near me —

The small print is in some response posts not in my alt text; thank you to:

https://mstdn.ca/@BlakeHamiltonCA/114626175951260225

https://fe.disroot.org/objects/501407d9-a27d-4428-b63e-955958b44907

@BlakeHamiltonCA

@clew
[1/2]

1) Top left: A graphic labeled “The Mood Meter” shows a 4-color quadrant of emotions—red (angry/tense), yellow (excited/ecstatic), green (calm/peaceful), and blue (sad/tired)—to help identify feelings.

2) Top right (main title):
Who Rules? You RULE:
✓ YOUR emotions
✓ YOUR choices
✓ YOUR solutions

3) Bottom left (red octagon):
Need a META-MOMENT?
Something happens
Sense
STOP
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed

@clew
[2/2]

4) Bottom center (green circle):
Mood Shift Strategies
• Take a break
• Take deep belly breaths
• Use positive self-talk
• Focus on what you have control over
• Join or help others

5) Bottom right (blue square with cartoon children):
Problem Solving Blueprint
• What happened?
• How did you feel?
• What caused your feeling?
• How did you react?
• What else could you have done to handle the situation better?

@clew @BlakeHamiltonCA Top-left corner - a navy rectangle labelled “The Mood Meter”. It contains a graph with “Pleasantness” along the X axis and “Energy” along the Y axis.

The top-left quadrant (high energy, low pleasantness) is colored red, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Enraged, Anxious, Worried, and Annoyed.

The top-right quadrant (high energy, high pleasantness) is colored yellow, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Joy, Cheerful, Elated, and Ecstatic.

Surprised is written somewhere between the red and yellow quadrants, leaning towards red.

The bottom-left quadrant (low energy, low pleasantness) is colored blue, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Depressed, Hopeless, Disappointed, and Bored.

The bottom-right quadrant (low energy, high pleasantness) is colored green, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Content, Calm, Peaceful, and Serene.

Bottom-left corner - a red octagon resembling a traffic stop sign. There’s a joyful child jumping out of its top-right edge. The sign says, in white lettering -
“Need a
meta-moment?
Something happens
Sense
STOP
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed”

Bottom-center - a green circle with white letters, labelled “MOOD SHIFT STRATEGIES” -

  • Take a break
  • Take deep belly breaths
  • Use positive self-talk
  • Focus on what you have control over
  • Join or help others

Bottom-right corner - a blue rectangle with white letters. There are happy colorful illustrations of two girls and two boys behind it. It is labelled “Problem Solving Blueprint” -

  • What happened?
  • How did you feel?
  • What caused your feelings?
  • How did you react?
  • What else could you have done to handle the situation better?

@clew

The top-left Mood Meter has axes labeled "energy" and "pleasantness"; the Moods are enraged, surprised, anxious, worried, annoyed, ecstatic, elated, cheerful, joy, bored, disappointed, hopeless, depressed, content, calm, peaceful, and serene.

The bottom left octagon says:
"Need a meta-moment?
Something happens
Sense
Stop
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed"

The bottom middle circle says:
"Mood shift strategies
- Take a break
- Take deep belly breaths
- Use positive self-talk
- Focus on what you have control over
- Join or help others"

The bottom right square says:
"Problem solving blueprint
- What happened?
- How did you feel?
- What caused your feelings?
- How did you react?
- What else could you have done to handle the situation better?"

@clew @BlakeHamiltonCA Oh dang this looks good. Uno momento, I'll write it up in a minute.
Couple people have boosted small print, I’ll edit the original to say so!@Cher @BlakeHamiltonCA
@clew @BlakeHamiltonCA agh, that's probably for the best since I just remembered this and I'm kinda passing out 😵‍💫
@BlakeHamiltonCA
WHO has a good free guide to help with that: https://m.ai6yr.org/@knowattitude/111313426911650860
KnowAttitude (@knowattitude@m.ai6yr.org)

Attached: 2 images The first link is to a PDF flyer with a QR code for WHO's "Doing What Matters in Times of Stress: An Illustrated Guide" (How to unhook from difficult thoughts and feelings), in case anyone would want to print some out and staple them to a local kiosk. There is a new line at the bottom directing anyone in crisis to call or text 988. #MentalHealth https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jofXFw0FUaKTZukbjQt4FZ_Mnu9h_z81/view?usp=drive_link El primer enlace lleva a un folleto en PDF con un código QR para la guía ilustrada de la OMS "Hacer lo que importa en tiempos de estrés" (Cómo liberarse de pensamientos y sentimientos difíciles), por si alguien quiere imprimirlo y graparlo en un quiosco local. Hay una nueva línea al final que indica a cualquier persona en crisis que llame o envíe un mensaje de texto al 988. #SaludMental https://drive.google.com/file/d/16LG5FwT7scgSYcXSP4_QPwRXHUTn6oAK/view?usp=drive_link This second link is direct to the World Health Organization download page for the 132-page graphic book and audio files in English. Español and many other languages are available. https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240003927 Este segundo enlace lleva directamente al Organización Mundial de la Salud, a la página de descarga del libro gráfico de 132 páginas y los archivos de audio en español. Hay muchos otros idiomas disponibles. https://iris.who.int/bitstream/handle/10665/336218/9789240009561-spa.pdf

AI6YR's Mastodon

@BlakeHamiltonCA

Watching Mr. Rogers as an adult I was shocked at how focused he was on this.

It's a shame it didn't stick, because all I remembered was how much I wanted that trolley and how much I hated the ugly puppet who lived in the carousel.

@BlakeHamiltonCA The people who believe they have their emotions under control are often the most emotional. They're just oblivious to their attachments.
@BlakeHamiltonCA I saw a short video last year where an elementary school was teaching yoga & meditation to youngsters, and I’m willing to bet they’ll have more emotional control than peers who didn’t have this early experience.
@BlakeHamiltonCA I posted this a year ago. Not many people understand how vulnerable our emotions make us. https://nbpress.7koncepts.com/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it-or-sadness-anger-fear-surprise-or-happiness/
What’s Love Got to do With It? Or Sadness, Anger, Fear, Surprise, or Happiness? – News by Nature

@BlakeHamiltonCA you want a better world? start with not destroying the good stuff that we have.

@BlakeHamiltonCA I recommend reading Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg to everyone. It changed my life.

"All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished."

@BlakeHamiltonCA empathy, developing a good theory of mind
Mindfulness training...
@BlakeHamiltonCA I agree fully. People can disagree with you and it is not a personal attack. People need to learn how to say 'no' to themselves.
@BlakeHamiltonCA Our systems are not prevention focused. We would rather lock people up after the fact than prevent the crime in the first place.
@BlakeHamiltonCA
Also would like free tuition for this kind of education. Pleading for humanity's sake. 🙏

@BlakeHamiltonCA

But then they're hard to manipulate.

We teach the opposite in America.