@raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA

...it use to be...🤷‍♀️

@raindrops_and_roses @BlakeHamiltonCA @VeroniqueB99

I mean, if you dig down a bit "sticks and stone my break my bones but words can never hurt me" touches on learning to control one's emotional response to verbal bullying.

But that only touches on the verbal part of things.

@jargoggles @BlakeHamiltonCA

Social media seems to make things worse.

@clew
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1) Top left: A graphic labeled “The Mood Meter” shows a 4-color quadrant of emotions—red (angry/tense), yellow (excited/ecstatic), green (calm/peaceful), and blue (sad/tired)—to help identify feelings.

2) Top right (main title):
Who Rules? You RULE:
✓ YOUR emotions
✓ YOUR choices
✓ YOUR solutions

3) Bottom left (red octagon):
Need a META-MOMENT?
Something happens
Sense
STOP
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed

@clew
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4) Bottom center (green circle):
Mood Shift Strategies
• Take a break
• Take deep belly breaths
• Use positive self-talk
• Focus on what you have control over
• Join or help others

5) Bottom right (blue square with cartoon children):
Problem Solving Blueprint
• What happened?
• How did you feel?
• What caused your feeling?
• How did you react?
• What else could you have done to handle the situation better?

@clew @BlakeHamiltonCA Top-left corner - a navy rectangle labelled “The Mood Meter”. It contains a graph with “Pleasantness” along the X axis and “Energy” along the Y axis.

The top-left quadrant (high energy, low pleasantness) is colored red, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Enraged, Anxious, Worried, and Annoyed.

The top-right quadrant (high energy, high pleasantness) is colored yellow, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Joy, Cheerful, Elated, and Ecstatic.

Surprised is written somewhere between the red and yellow quadrants, leaning towards red.

The bottom-left quadrant (low energy, low pleasantness) is colored blue, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Depressed, Hopeless, Disappointed, and Bored.

The bottom-right quadrant (low energy, high pleasantness) is colored green, and contains (with increasing pleasantness) Content, Calm, Peaceful, and Serene.

Bottom-left corner - a red octagon resembling a traffic stop sign. There’s a joyful child jumping out of its top-right edge. The sign says, in white lettering -
“Need a
meta-moment?
Something happens
Sense
STOP
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed”

Bottom-center - a green circle with white letters, labelled “MOOD SHIFT STRATEGIES” -

• Take a break
• Take deep belly breaths
• Use positive self-talk
• Focus on what you have control over
• Join or help others

Bottom-right corner - a blue rectangle with white letters. There are happy colorful illustrations of two girls and two boys behind it. It is labelled “Problem Solving Blueprint” -

• What happened?
• How did you feel?
• What caused your feelings?
• How did you react?
• What else could you have done to handle the situation better?

@clew

The top-left Mood Meter has axes labeled "energy" and "pleasantness"; the Moods are enraged, surprised, anxious, worried, annoyed, ecstatic, elated, cheerful, joy, bored, disappointed, hopeless, depressed, content, calm, peaceful, and serene.

The bottom left octagon says:
"Need a meta-moment?
Something happens
Sense
Stop
See your best self
Strategize
Succeed"

The bottom middle circle says:
"Mood shift strategies
- Take a break
- Take deep belly breaths
- Use positive self-talk
- Focus on what you have control over
- Join or help others"

The bottom right square says:
"Problem solving blueprint
- What happened?
- How did you feel?
- What caused your feelings?
- How did you react?
- What else could you have done to handle the situation better?"

@Li : Absolutely fair to question the framing, and I appreciate the nuance you’re bringing.

The version of accountability I believe in isn’t about blame or punishment—it’s about care, connection, and repair. You’re right: you don’t need to have caused harm to be part of healing. But when someone has caused harm, accountability is how we say: “I care enough to try to make it right.”

Done right, it’s not “this lets me hurt you”—it’s “this gives us a path forward.”